Also he never seems to show me any affection anymore he doesn't seem to want to hold me or kiss me am i just being silly or does he not love me anymore??
Please sensible answers only.Relationship advice.....?
hes cheating maybeRelationship advice.....?
Hes probably under a lot of stress from work just do what my girl does for me give him a massage and try to talk to him about whats going on at work.....
You need to tell him how you feel and ask him to open up to you and be totally honest with you.
Have this conversation on a day when he is off after he is rested..
Maybe he is feeling pressure from work and usually when someone come in from work it is best to give them some alone time to wind down from work before you start giving them the third degree.. Let up on the pressuring him when he come home..
Best of Luck
im sorry but i dont think he feels anything for u anymore..and its not wrong to wanna share your problems or what u guys have in mind.....idk what else to say except that if it does turn up that he dont love u SHOW SOME PRIDE AND WALK AWAY WITH THAT BABY OF YOURS AND BECOME SUCCESSFUL OR HOWEVER U SPELL IT u get my point....U DONT NEED THAT ************
He sounds like he is emotionally disconnected from the relationship.
He either truly has problems at work that he needs to resolve or he is doubting staying in the relationship.
You two should try to communicate more, if you don't he will most likely stray if he hasn't already.
It sounds like the relationship has fizzled out; this happens to most couples in your situation. He has work, new baby, responsibilities and it has taken its toll. He is probabl;y immature and thought he wanted to become more mature by being with you and having a baby, it is not easy. He will either improve and mature, or walk out on you......but he won't stay like this for long.
To be honest sometimes we don't miss a good thing until it's gone. It sounds like he might be taking u for granted, If it were me I'd give the relationship some space and if he really wants u he would begin 2 miss u %26amp; realize what's important.
It may help him see that a bad day @ work makes him miserable but a bad day without u might make him wanna die and he'll start appreciating u more.
I'm not a relationship counsellor or expert but when I started acting like a jerk 2 my woman and she started to leave me I straightened up %26amp; got ';nice as Christ';.
We cool as hell now because I started 2 see that I had 2 make her happy too %26amp; the relationship did'nt just revolve around me %26amp; if she was'nt happy in the long run I was'nt going to be happy.
Good Luck.
I think he is going through the motions at the minute and probably just needs space and to know you are there for him. Don't listen to these fools telling you ';oh that means he's cheating'; NO it doesn't. He not long realised he is a dad now and has to work hard for the privilege, men also get slightly weird after a child is born, and his view of you has probably changed a little bit.
I think I know whats happening here so please listen to me carefully. OK ask yourself what does his job mean to him? does he feel satisfied there? do you 2 get enough alone time together lately? When he comes home do you look like you have been looking after a child all day, which you probably have? Some men get really annoyed when the women they love change in that way and let themselves go a little bit.
Give him time, OK for the moment he doesn't want to talk because he is embarrassed by whats troubling him, its unfair to think he is cheating though. He still loves you but he sees you as a different person now you have a child, and its common in most relationships. there was two years of JUST you two and now he has to share your affection and some men can't grasp that in the first year.
But try and cominicate in your own way, have someone looking after the baby whn he comes home and suprise him with a sexy outfit and dinner. Tell him its an ';anaversary';. and give him a night he'll remember one with no screaming baby.
You didn't mention how old you both are, but I'm guessing your young. That alone would have a lot to do with it.
I'm not condoning his behavior, but it's hard being a parent, working and maintaining a relationship.
Sounds like to me, that he isn't even making an effort to talk to you, which is very bad.
You could try counseling, but I'm not sure he would go for it, you could try though, it's worth a shot.
I feel for you, I really do it's hard when someone doesn't open up to you, I'm guilty of that myself at times.
I just like to be left alone when I'm down, sad or depressed.
The difference is I come around and talk to people later and apologize and at least try to explain why I was acting like I was and they understand...
I hope you guys can work through your problems, but if he chooses NOT to talk about it or go to counseling, I would suggest that you go by yourself, to help you deal with the things that are going on in your life.
Good luck to you and best wishes...
He must feel trapped in some way and I am surprised such a thing would happen only three years into your relationship, especially considering that you have not gotten married.
Sweetie I wish I could give you a better answer than the one I am about to give but it is the best I can think of right now. There could be a number of reasons why he has stopped. Cheating could be one something about you physically or emotionally has changed is another My real guess though would be simply because he is a guy and when guys start to get comfortable in a relationship the feel there is no longer a need to do all the things they used to do because by now their girls. should already know by now how they really feel about them and they shouldn't need to constantly prove it to them. As for the reason of something having changed about you I think it is a lame reason myself because when you are in a relationship with someone you are supposed to always love that person no matter what but some of us tend to forget and the minute our partner gains a few pounds or stops caring about how they look etc all of a sudden we retaliate by withholding affection and in my opinion it is wrong. Try asking your b/f what is going on as I said I think it is simply a matter of him getting so comfortable that he feels he doesn't need to show affection anymore. One thing we forget though as guys. Women or most of them anyway love and crave and desire attention and if we stop giving it to them there are always plenty of other men out there willing to give them what they want.
There's obviously a lot riding on this relationship. You would be well served by going in for couples counseling or couples therapy to be able to work out a way to balance each others' needs.
I know from a personal perspective that a lot of work stress, which seems to be something he might be having, is seriously detrimental to home life. If he's having a hard day at work he's probably spent by the time he gets home, and while you may want to talk about his day, he's probably sick of living his day. Your need to talk about his problems at work are no more valid than his need to escape from thinking about work when he's at home. So keep that in mind as well.
Give him what he wants... for awhile. Back off from asking him about work and pamper him just a little for a little while. When you have time, take a weekend for yourselves, just the two of you. Find the connection again. If he lets work interfere with it, sit him down and tell him how it makes you feel seeing him all stressed out and unable to help. Using you as a soundboard may help him cool down. Tell him how you feel that you are drifting apart and how that makes you feel. LISTEN to him. Be prepared for WHATEVER he may say, good and BAD. Go from there. Good luck.
hi,give him two weeks to make up his mind wheather he wants to stay and love you and your baby,ask him if he still loves you or has someone else.but tell him you are noticeing changes what you dont like.2 weeks then seek advice.good luck to you both.
He has a problem and want to be alone for awhile. Try to think positive and show him that. be patient. Even in a marriage, couples have their own privacy. Respects makes the marriage comfort for couples. And, while you decided to have a relationship without marriage, you need to prepare your financial is not depend only to him..it is very important, who knows you both suddendly cut off ..
Seems like whatever his problem is he is trying to make you feel responsible. I would certainly do my best to get to the core of the problem but you cannot do it alone. It seems you have some serious decisions to make regarding how you want to live your life,and how much you are willing to accept.
He must be going through a tough time in his professional life. I think you should react positively to it. Try to make good atmosphere for him when he comes back from office. Don't force him to share anything with u. The more you will ask the more he will get irritated. If he will feel confortable with you, he himself will start sharing his professional problems with you. This is the time you have to keep yourself more cool and calm because you have to create cool and calm atmosphere for him too. Just do whatever you can do the best from your side and don't expect anything in return.
you're not being unreasonable wanting him to share his problems with you. it sounds as if either he has personal issues he's dealing with, he's cheating or he feels guilty about cheating already
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