please, help?
i'm at a complete low. i'm basically crushing on a guy who i've known for about a year alot. lol. i really like him. we talk and everything. he's really nice to me in classes and laughs and jokes about things. but when we're alone, i don't know i feel like things get really awkward. awkward in the sense, like i don't know what to say and i feel uncomfortable, because like i said i really like him. and he's not a shy person at all, but he quiets down also when he's around me by himself.
i'm really starting to second guess the possibility of him liking me back. i thought he did, but i feel like i ruin any chance i get. also, i'm probably seriously kidding myself, since i've only had one boyfriend before this. i'm of indian origin in a pretty white dominated school. i know he's not racist, at all, i mean he's extremely open minded and open to a lot of things, but i'm so lost at what he feels about me. he's pretty popular and attractive, in a good way, he's not a rude jock.RELATIONSHIP ADVICE (Pictures), I really need help!?
Well, I just want to tell you that you are Gorgeous! And you should not have Any insecurities about your looks!! And if he gets quiet when you guys are alone, he May be feeling the same things you are. He probably really likes you, and doesn't know what to say when you are alone. You can try asking him to go somewhere with you where you guys are forced to interact so there wouldn't be so much awkward silence. Like you could go Bowling or something. I'm sorry, I'm probably not too much help. But I don't think you really have anything to worry about. You are very pretty, and you sound like a kind hearted person.RELATIONSHIP ADVICE (Pictures), I really need help!?
alright chica...here goes. from one indian girl to another. just be your normal self. i know its hard when you really like someone but the fact is that if your normal around him then maybe he'll be normal around you. remember the basis of a relationship is friendship. and just because he quiets down when its only you two in the room, doesnt mean that he isnt into you. he might have the same feelings as you do. if he sits next to you in all your classes on purpose and purposely take the same classes as you..then that definately means that he likes you more than just a friend.
but that doesnt mean that you always go and sit next to him and take all the classes he takes!!
when your in high school/college sit like a few (2) seats away from him in the same row..or basically somewhere near him but not exactly next to him. then the next time you go into class a little early and he has to decide where to sit..notice where he sits. if he sits right next to you there maybe a 60%-70% chance that he likes you just as you like him.
confusing yet?? haha. its ok....just remember sometimes guys need a little push from the girl for them to just come out and say it that ';hey i kinda sorta like you.'; remember behind every successful guy there is a girl...guys dont get to be successful in life without the girl always behind him. and another thing....you can never be too sure of if he likes you or not untill and unless he actually says it outloud to you.
good luck!! hope you get what you want and hope this long answer helps..lol
You're beautiful and you're never aiming too high. :]
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Relationship advice PLZ PLZ PLZ?
So yeah, I didn't think I'd be at point, but I think I need to talk to someone about my relationship. If you're someone who might know somewhat about relationships, and you have some sort of IM service (AIM, yahoo, MSN), please let me know. I am in this really awkward stage in my relationship, and I don't know what might come next. Me and my girlfriend seem really confused, and I could use some help. Add me at bullet_proof_96 (at) yahoo.com. I have the same address for MSN. Thanks you !Relationship advice PLZ PLZ PLZ?
I recommend you study about this area before
rushing into any decision. You have to understand
the 'rules of the game.'
Yes, there are rules. There are things
you can say or not say, there are things
you can do or not do. And there are
things use can use to attract, and get a
positive response.
For example, if you go up to a girl
and say, ';I think I love you.';
That's too forward, and she'll think
you're crazy.
But if you say something in a situation where
you meet her in a building and just before
when the elevator door closes on her,
and you're on the other side of the elevator
saying ';Do you think there is a chance,
you might like me?';
The elevator door would close in that
instant and you'll be witnessing her
expression, and not her words.
Conglatulations, you've created a dramatic
suspense, and she'll think seriously about this.
And you are most likely to get a resounding ';yes,
let's give it a shot.';
I learned to think like this from this book.
You might want to try it's techniques.
It's invaluable. Priceless. I wanted to
keep it a secret to become the next Don Juan,
but... I'm happily married now.
There you go. Have fun finding your mate.
http://www.guysgetsgirls.com
(Not affilite link.)
-JayRelationship advice PLZ PLZ PLZ?
i'll help the best i can
I recommend you study about this area before
rushing into any decision. You have to understand
the 'rules of the game.'
Yes, there are rules. There are things
you can say or not say, there are things
you can do or not do. And there are
things use can use to attract, and get a
positive response.
For example, if you go up to a girl
and say, ';I think I love you.';
That's too forward, and she'll think
you're crazy.
But if you say something in a situation where
you meet her in a building and just before
when the elevator door closes on her,
and you're on the other side of the elevator
saying ';Do you think there is a chance,
you might like me?';
The elevator door would close in that
instant and you'll be witnessing her
expression, and not her words.
Conglatulations, you've created a dramatic
suspense, and she'll think seriously about this.
And you are most likely to get a resounding ';yes,
let's give it a shot.';
I learned to think like this from this book.
You might want to try it's techniques.
It's invaluable. Priceless. I wanted to
keep it a secret to become the next Don Juan,
but... I'm happily married now.
There you go. Have fun finding your mate.
http://www.guysgetsgirls.com
(Not affilite link.)
-JayRelationship advice PLZ PLZ PLZ?
i'll help the best i can
Relationship Advice, Please Help Thanks!!!?
I have been seeing this girl I have known for a few weeks and I knew she has a bf but is unhappy with the relationship. We started getting intimate with each other and really want each other badly. Her bf treats her badly and I want her to break up with him for that reason and not for me. Until that happens I do not want to talk to her and suggested we do not talk until she deals with her situation and gets full closure. I am not interested in seeing someone that will be seeing her bf on the side. I do not think it is fair or right.
Even though it hurts, is it right what I did when I suggested that we do not talk until she is through with him? How long is a reasonable time to wait? We havent seen each other for a week now, and the last time we talked she told me she won't be able to control herself the next time we see each other and will be all over me.However, I do not think it is right until she gets through this on her own.What do you think?thank u so much for all your helpRelationship Advice, Please Help Thanks!!!?
I see a big red warning flag...maybe. Has she planned meetings with you on the side? If she has, and she's been spending this intimate time with you... that could be an indication that when she's not perfectly happy, she'll go outside the relationship to find something to make her happy.... Which means she might do the same thing to you. She definitely needs to end things with him first. Until she does, don't go for her. And if you don't hear back in a week or two, move along.Relationship Advice, Please Help Thanks!!!?
ok so not to sound crazy but i once was in a position as this girl. trust me if shes been with him a while ur outta luck on this one. if she hasnt left him by now she isnt going to anytime soon. i would just move on and have fun. life is to short to sit around and wait. you could wait and wait and finally be with her to find out its not gonna work. keep you options open. this one guy waited for me and and we got together and it wasnt good. we lasted like a month and he felt like all he did was waste his time. just have fun and see what happens. you could be waiting for her and let the RIGHT one fly past you.
while it may not seem fair to you...you can atleast be there for her as a friend, i can understand you not wanting to wait on the sideline but you already knew she had a boyfriend as you were getting involved with her, making your self distant can eventually play into out of sight out of mind, she may just be having her cake and eating it too for all you know...if her boyfriend is treating her badly, well it couldnt be that bad she still with him...if i were you i would just talk to her as a friend and go about my daily routine, you don't have to avoid her, b/c that is not going to change how she feels, you have every right to protect your feelings...but don't put a wall up b/c that might make her feel pressure and under pressure sometimes we often make mistakes...good luck!
i feel as if you did the right thing. It would be smart if she broke up with that idiot, though. I hope you have a happy relationship with her eventually
love zoey
i think you are managing the situation fairly. but you dont want to get in a bad situation if her bf finds out about you. its really not you. its her. make her deal with the situation, you are just there to get rid of the a$$hole boyfriend.
You said'' that she has a boyfriend.... what is keeping her from just breaking it off with him... if he treat her badly.... why is she with him....you are right not to see her..... she needs to do the right thing... before she come to you... I respect the fact that you care about this... most guy wouldn't ..... just complicate things further...Give her a few weeks if she doesn't come to you... then you will know it not that bad with the boyfriend....I was with a bad husband ... believe me if its bad ... you want out .... as soon as you can get out.... so now I know I wouldn't put up with that with a boyfriend.....Good Luck!!
Even though it hurts, is it right what I did when I suggested that we do not talk until she is through with him? How long is a reasonable time to wait? We havent seen each other for a week now, and the last time we talked she told me she won't be able to control herself the next time we see each other and will be all over me.However, I do not think it is right until she gets through this on her own.What do you think?thank u so much for all your helpRelationship Advice, Please Help Thanks!!!?
I see a big red warning flag...maybe. Has she planned meetings with you on the side? If she has, and she's been spending this intimate time with you... that could be an indication that when she's not perfectly happy, she'll go outside the relationship to find something to make her happy.... Which means she might do the same thing to you. She definitely needs to end things with him first. Until she does, don't go for her. And if you don't hear back in a week or two, move along.Relationship Advice, Please Help Thanks!!!?
ok so not to sound crazy but i once was in a position as this girl. trust me if shes been with him a while ur outta luck on this one. if she hasnt left him by now she isnt going to anytime soon. i would just move on and have fun. life is to short to sit around and wait. you could wait and wait and finally be with her to find out its not gonna work. keep you options open. this one guy waited for me and and we got together and it wasnt good. we lasted like a month and he felt like all he did was waste his time. just have fun and see what happens. you could be waiting for her and let the RIGHT one fly past you.
while it may not seem fair to you...you can atleast be there for her as a friend, i can understand you not wanting to wait on the sideline but you already knew she had a boyfriend as you were getting involved with her, making your self distant can eventually play into out of sight out of mind, she may just be having her cake and eating it too for all you know...if her boyfriend is treating her badly, well it couldnt be that bad she still with him...if i were you i would just talk to her as a friend and go about my daily routine, you don't have to avoid her, b/c that is not going to change how she feels, you have every right to protect your feelings...but don't put a wall up b/c that might make her feel pressure and under pressure sometimes we often make mistakes...good luck!
i feel as if you did the right thing. It would be smart if she broke up with that idiot, though. I hope you have a happy relationship with her eventually
love zoey
i think you are managing the situation fairly. but you dont want to get in a bad situation if her bf finds out about you. its really not you. its her. make her deal with the situation, you are just there to get rid of the a$$hole boyfriend.
You said'' that she has a boyfriend.... what is keeping her from just breaking it off with him... if he treat her badly.... why is she with him....you are right not to see her..... she needs to do the right thing... before she come to you... I respect the fact that you care about this... most guy wouldn't ..... just complicate things further...Give her a few weeks if she doesn't come to you... then you will know it not that bad with the boyfriend....I was with a bad husband ... believe me if its bad ... you want out .... as soon as you can get out.... so now I know I wouldn't put up with that with a boyfriend.....Good Luck!!
Relationship advice what should i do?
So my girlfriend and I are going through a rough time right now. She told me that she has high standards before her and I were dating but only recently she told me what they were. She said that her idea of a perfect guy would be a Christian, someone that loves country music, and someone that likes ice cream (I don't know why the ice cream thing is important) and little things like that. But heres the deal.. I'm the complete opposite of that. I don't like ice cream, I have never liked any diary products, I'm an atheist and country music makes me sick to my stomach because of personal childhood reasons. So what should I do. Why would she tell me this? I love her a lot and I want it to work out between me and her.Relationship advice what should i do?
I'd say that she is probably trying to change you. OR, that she is telling you these things as a way to say ';I USED to have these standards, but now I've found my perfect guy.'; Since she used past tense... Good luck.
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If you love her and she loves you then that should be enough I don't see the relevance in your likes and dislikes after all that is what makes us different and attractive to the opposite sex. I strongly believe that the minute that you want to change somebody then you need to realise that you are not wanting to be with that person anymore you should not have to change for anyone and should be loved for who you are. Go and ask her if she truly loves you for who you are and then take it from there but don't ever change anyone just because they want you to.
Good Luck
its really not fair for her to say that to you, but sounds like she can as she is in control of your relationship. Do not try to change. You are who you and I remember one of the first rules of dating that I heard is 'never try to change someone.....' and she should know that,
What she said to you also shows a lack of respect, think about it- would you ever say this to someone who you really loved and respected? I think you should pull back a little, let her do some of the running and stop indulging her so much with her fantasies of the perfect guy.
she's trying to change you. if you guys were doing fine, keep the anti-cow stuff to yourself and just go along with it.
the religion thing, I think, is a little biased.
of course, she may just be saying a ';perfect guy'; and maybe if she's still into you then you don't need to be the ';perfect'; guy
wtf i think ur gf is really stupid and childish...hw can ice cream be such a imp thing in a relationship.
everyones has his/her own choice n he/she will always stick to it only.
try to convice her this, u can give a eg of what u like but she doesnt.
this will surely make her understand....i know like every girl wants a partner with which she can have everything common ranging from food, clothes or even music. but this cannot be always true. tell her that she should love you for what you are....otherwise leave her.
She is too young to know what she wants obviously. Relationships are based on the heart. Opposites attract all the time, it is what is in her heart that will choose her love, not what they like or what they listen to. Don't change who you are to be with her.
She probably knows that those are your opposites and that's why she gave you those standards...maybe she just doesn't see you two working out and that's a way of telling you. Hopefully things work out between you two. You obviously care about her by posting it.
Good Luck!!
I believe she knows that you are the total opposite of her ';expectations'; so she may be using those ';expectations'; as an excuse to hint to you that she is not interested anymore. I dont know. Cheer up though.Every cloud has a silver lining.
RUN!
She is trying to change you. She got with you because she thought she could change you and now she is trying to. Unless she lets go of this thinking, it will never work out between you two.
:/ I dont think it'll work out. She's obviously telling you you're either not her type, or you need to completely change yourself for her. And someone who wants you to completely change yourself just doesn't love you for you.
She's trying to tell you in a round about way to Get Lost!
yeah, country music makes me sick to my stomach too and ice cream?? I completely understand how do you feel, her words are a bit weird. maybe if you like her so much - you need to tell her that you won't be like this but you can try to.
anyway, if she likes you in return, you should know that she needs to accept you the way you are. I have high standards too, but reality is different. I always said to my friends that I like tall brunettes, with green eyes, well tanned and other stuff - but in my life I've had a crush on completely different types of guys.
just try to talk to her and explain that you're not a country music fan and if she likes your personality - I'm sure she'll try to love you even if you don't like ice cream. :) good luckmakeup look
I'd say that she is probably trying to change you. OR, that she is telling you these things as a way to say ';I USED to have these standards, but now I've found my perfect guy.'; Since she used past tense... Good luck.
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>Relationship advice what should i do?
If you love her and she loves you then that should be enough I don't see the relevance in your likes and dislikes after all that is what makes us different and attractive to the opposite sex. I strongly believe that the minute that you want to change somebody then you need to realise that you are not wanting to be with that person anymore you should not have to change for anyone and should be loved for who you are. Go and ask her if she truly loves you for who you are and then take it from there but don't ever change anyone just because they want you to.
Good Luck
its really not fair for her to say that to you, but sounds like she can as she is in control of your relationship. Do not try to change. You are who you and I remember one of the first rules of dating that I heard is 'never try to change someone.....' and she should know that,
What she said to you also shows a lack of respect, think about it- would you ever say this to someone who you really loved and respected? I think you should pull back a little, let her do some of the running and stop indulging her so much with her fantasies of the perfect guy.
she's trying to change you. if you guys were doing fine, keep the anti-cow stuff to yourself and just go along with it.
the religion thing, I think, is a little biased.
of course, she may just be saying a ';perfect guy'; and maybe if she's still into you then you don't need to be the ';perfect'; guy
wtf i think ur gf is really stupid and childish...hw can ice cream be such a imp thing in a relationship.
everyones has his/her own choice n he/she will always stick to it only.
try to convice her this, u can give a eg of what u like but she doesnt.
this will surely make her understand....i know like every girl wants a partner with which she can have everything common ranging from food, clothes or even music. but this cannot be always true. tell her that she should love you for what you are....otherwise leave her.
She is too young to know what she wants obviously. Relationships are based on the heart. Opposites attract all the time, it is what is in her heart that will choose her love, not what they like or what they listen to. Don't change who you are to be with her.
She probably knows that those are your opposites and that's why she gave you those standards...maybe she just doesn't see you two working out and that's a way of telling you. Hopefully things work out between you two. You obviously care about her by posting it.
Good Luck!!
I believe she knows that you are the total opposite of her ';expectations'; so she may be using those ';expectations'; as an excuse to hint to you that she is not interested anymore. I dont know. Cheer up though.Every cloud has a silver lining.
RUN!
She is trying to change you. She got with you because she thought she could change you and now she is trying to. Unless she lets go of this thinking, it will never work out between you two.
:/ I dont think it'll work out. She's obviously telling you you're either not her type, or you need to completely change yourself for her. And someone who wants you to completely change yourself just doesn't love you for you.
She's trying to tell you in a round about way to Get Lost!
yeah, country music makes me sick to my stomach too and ice cream?? I completely understand how do you feel, her words are a bit weird. maybe if you like her so much - you need to tell her that you won't be like this but you can try to.
anyway, if she likes you in return, you should know that she needs to accept you the way you are. I have high standards too, but reality is different. I always said to my friends that I like tall brunettes, with green eyes, well tanned and other stuff - but in my life I've had a crush on completely different types of guys.
just try to talk to her and explain that you're not a country music fan and if she likes your personality - I'm sure she'll try to love you even if you don't like ice cream. :) good luck
Relationship advice for a girl with an intimidating personality?
So, I'm a jack-of-all-trades, rise to the top, super intense type person. One of THOSE types. I finally asked a few people about their perception of me, and they said that I'm always super nice, etc, but they said that I'm extremely intimidating.
I'm very much the silent type. I don't say much, but I always make sure things are done, then I step aside.
My resume sort of makes me sound like a guy, I'm into computers (legit) and I've won 5 national championships in design, I'm a serious juggler (as in clubs, balls, diabolos, circus stuff, haha) I'm a freshman in university, and I'm the president of a club, and an officer in two more, and I'm one of the only freshmen captains in our dance marrathon. (we have 300 captains, who then have 3,000 committee members who answer to them, with over 20,000 people involved) I also got into a program that only accepts 25 students.
So great. I have a rockin' resume. woopdie freakin do. I don't party. I don't drink. I don't make stupid decisions. and I don't have a relationship. And THATs where I need HELP!
HELP! I'm lonely, and just want somone! I have one friend who I've liked for a year or so now, but he's 25, and I'm 18, and I don't think he's comfortable with the age difference.
There are a couple of other guy friends that I really like, but, alas, they're older. I have the propensity to place myself with older individuals. Based on my home life, I had to grow up a little faster than most.
Help. please help.Relationship advice for a girl with an intimidating personality?
I understand that you're feeling lonely, believe me I know that feeling. But you've got a good thing going. I'm sure you've heard that before, but read over what you wrote again and think about how much you've done/do that other people haven't.
You're obviously setting yourself up for a bright future and you should think about the type of person you want to share that future with. I've seen so many girls with great track records and great potential get involved with guys who ruined them emotionally and ruined their future.
I'm guessing the thought has crossed your mind by now that maybe it's pointless to wait for the right guy and you should settle for whatever you can get. And believe me, I know how tempting that is. But it's one of the worst mistakes you can possibly make.
Obviously you don't want to spend your great future alone. I'm sure you'd find that an empty future, despite your achievements. And it's completely normal to feel lonely even when you have all those things.
Unfortunately there's no easy way to find a relationship. Like I said, I completely sympathize with your loneliness, but just like other areas in your life, you need to be smart about how you approach the problem. First of all, you do have an impressive list of talents and I bet that's intimidating to a lot of guys. People probably see you as intense and driven.
I think you should try and let your hair down some. You have more than enough to be confident about so instead of viewing it as something that makes it harder for you to find a relationship, view it as something that will make it easier. You're obviously very talented and intelligent in more ways than one. You're a girl worth chasing after, and you will be chased after if you give guys the signs that you want them to.
Try striking up casual conversations with guys in your dance class, or other events that you participate in. Don't think about it as trying to get them to want you, just think of it as meeting new people and that can take some of the pressure off. It will also help you open up and seem more friendly. Like I said, you have a lot to be confident about so BE confident about it! So what if the guy you are talking to doesn't seem that into you? You're going places and you're not going to be the only one there. If he can't see that too bad for him.
I promise you, you won't be alone forever. Someday you'll find a guy who will sweep you off your feet, but only if you hang in there. There is nothing wrong with you. I know it hurts to be alone, but your heart is priceless even if it doesn't always feel like it. Keep it for the best and every bit of loneliness and pain will be worth it when you find him. (and you will).Relationship advice for a girl with an intimidating personality?
Maybe go for someone with similar life experiances, that wouldn't feel intimidated by you? Any guy should feel honoured to be noticed by a girl like you, hang in there!
I know what its like to like someone so much older... I'm 19 and I liked someone who was 23 but I talked to one of his friends, and she told me I definately wasn't his type. Lame.
You sound like quite a catch though, I'm sure you won't be waiting long ;-)
You spend a third of your words describing your ';resume.'; Now I'm a pretty patient person, but even I couldn't be bothered to read all of that long paragraph. This information being all I know about you, I'm guessing you like to talk about yourself too much, even though you claim to be the silent type.
From the sounds of it, the last thing you need to be advertising is your achievements. Make an effort to slow your personality down. You can still do all those back-breaking things, but at least give the impression of a more relaxed person; no one wants an up-tight girlfriend.
So set your sights on some men your own age and tone down your image. You don't need to dumb yourself down, necessarily. You can still talk intelligently, just not exclusively about resume-worthy activities.
I was a student at Berkeley for all of one semester and one of the things that used to drive me up the wall about the people there is that they didn't seem to do a single extracurricular activity just for the hell of it. Anything that didn't somehow advance their careers was seen as a waste of time. I find it reassuring that you do some wacky things, like juggle, but you sound too career-oriented for me to be interested in you, romantically.
Oh, and smile every now and then, too. There was a pretty girl in my high school I knew (somewhat) all four years. She never seemed to say a damned word to anyone but her closest friends and for the longest time I thought it was because she was stuck-up. Finally, during my senior year, I learned that she was actually a really sweet girl, but how was I to know all those years, given the way she suppressed her emotions?
I'm very much the silent type. I don't say much, but I always make sure things are done, then I step aside.
My resume sort of makes me sound like a guy, I'm into computers (legit) and I've won 5 national championships in design, I'm a serious juggler (as in clubs, balls, diabolos, circus stuff, haha) I'm a freshman in university, and I'm the president of a club, and an officer in two more, and I'm one of the only freshmen captains in our dance marrathon. (we have 300 captains, who then have 3,000 committee members who answer to them, with over 20,000 people involved) I also got into a program that only accepts 25 students.
So great. I have a rockin' resume. woopdie freakin do. I don't party. I don't drink. I don't make stupid decisions. and I don't have a relationship. And THATs where I need HELP!
HELP! I'm lonely, and just want somone! I have one friend who I've liked for a year or so now, but he's 25, and I'm 18, and I don't think he's comfortable with the age difference.
There are a couple of other guy friends that I really like, but, alas, they're older. I have the propensity to place myself with older individuals. Based on my home life, I had to grow up a little faster than most.
Help. please help.Relationship advice for a girl with an intimidating personality?
I understand that you're feeling lonely, believe me I know that feeling. But you've got a good thing going. I'm sure you've heard that before, but read over what you wrote again and think about how much you've done/do that other people haven't.
You're obviously setting yourself up for a bright future and you should think about the type of person you want to share that future with. I've seen so many girls with great track records and great potential get involved with guys who ruined them emotionally and ruined their future.
I'm guessing the thought has crossed your mind by now that maybe it's pointless to wait for the right guy and you should settle for whatever you can get. And believe me, I know how tempting that is. But it's one of the worst mistakes you can possibly make.
Obviously you don't want to spend your great future alone. I'm sure you'd find that an empty future, despite your achievements. And it's completely normal to feel lonely even when you have all those things.
Unfortunately there's no easy way to find a relationship. Like I said, I completely sympathize with your loneliness, but just like other areas in your life, you need to be smart about how you approach the problem. First of all, you do have an impressive list of talents and I bet that's intimidating to a lot of guys. People probably see you as intense and driven.
I think you should try and let your hair down some. You have more than enough to be confident about so instead of viewing it as something that makes it harder for you to find a relationship, view it as something that will make it easier. You're obviously very talented and intelligent in more ways than one. You're a girl worth chasing after, and you will be chased after if you give guys the signs that you want them to.
Try striking up casual conversations with guys in your dance class, or other events that you participate in. Don't think about it as trying to get them to want you, just think of it as meeting new people and that can take some of the pressure off. It will also help you open up and seem more friendly. Like I said, you have a lot to be confident about so BE confident about it! So what if the guy you are talking to doesn't seem that into you? You're going places and you're not going to be the only one there. If he can't see that too bad for him.
I promise you, you won't be alone forever. Someday you'll find a guy who will sweep you off your feet, but only if you hang in there. There is nothing wrong with you. I know it hurts to be alone, but your heart is priceless even if it doesn't always feel like it. Keep it for the best and every bit of loneliness and pain will be worth it when you find him. (and you will).Relationship advice for a girl with an intimidating personality?
Maybe go for someone with similar life experiances, that wouldn't feel intimidated by you? Any guy should feel honoured to be noticed by a girl like you, hang in there!
I know what its like to like someone so much older... I'm 19 and I liked someone who was 23 but I talked to one of his friends, and she told me I definately wasn't his type. Lame.
You sound like quite a catch though, I'm sure you won't be waiting long ;-)
You spend a third of your words describing your ';resume.'; Now I'm a pretty patient person, but even I couldn't be bothered to read all of that long paragraph. This information being all I know about you, I'm guessing you like to talk about yourself too much, even though you claim to be the silent type.
From the sounds of it, the last thing you need to be advertising is your achievements. Make an effort to slow your personality down. You can still do all those back-breaking things, but at least give the impression of a more relaxed person; no one wants an up-tight girlfriend.
So set your sights on some men your own age and tone down your image. You don't need to dumb yourself down, necessarily. You can still talk intelligently, just not exclusively about resume-worthy activities.
I was a student at Berkeley for all of one semester and one of the things that used to drive me up the wall about the people there is that they didn't seem to do a single extracurricular activity just for the hell of it. Anything that didn't somehow advance their careers was seen as a waste of time. I find it reassuring that you do some wacky things, like juggle, but you sound too career-oriented for me to be interested in you, romantically.
Oh, and smile every now and then, too. There was a pretty girl in my high school I knew (somewhat) all four years. She never seemed to say a damned word to anyone but her closest friends and for the longest time I thought it was because she was stuck-up. Finally, during my senior year, I learned that she was actually a really sweet girl, but how was I to know all those years, given the way she suppressed her emotions?
Relationship advice, what should I do?
I have been married for almost 4 years now. My husband the majority of the time is very sweet and fun to be around. However, he def. has his faults. His parents has given him this holier than thou attitude that didnt really bother me until we got married and I now have to suffer through it. For whatever reason he thinks that I have lesser values than him. We both come from a culture where modesty is important, among other things. I dont dress whorish, but i wear sleevless shirt, and capri pants, and wear a tankini to the beach. He would rather have me cover all over, but he knew how i was when we got married...anyway, every single time we have a fight some how my morals are brought into question, and he proceeds to talk down to me, about i have no values, or class, or he wouldnt want me to raise our kids. You guys get the idea. I get upset, i talk to him about it after the fight, he blames it on me, I stay quiet, i get over it in a few days, and then it happens again.
I am gettin really tired of all of it, and him not apologizing, and throwing dumb stuff in my face.... I befriended a girl from school who we think is gay, automatifally i had no values, what did your parents teach you, you are influenced by t.v. and magazines you read, etc...
our fight today was about a swim suit, the swim suit looks exactly like every other swim suit i have but a differtnt color, i didnt want to fight but wanted to make that point. he points out another swimsuit that is covered more, i say i dont like it, not because it is covered, but if i am going to wear something it has to be something i like, he then start with the values ---';go get some values'; i have no respect for you, this and that, i let him go on, later on in the night he notices i am upset, i mention why, he blows up on me, and reiterate everything he said earlier, says it is me, and i will have to get over him saying i have no values because i really dont, etc...
i dont know what do to anymore, it is not even about the dumb swim suit, i honestly beleive this guy has no respect for me, or is simply trying to hurt me. I feel like i am suffocating, i have such a weight on my chest. I dont know what to do,
i can t go through a divorce, what are my other options... the easiest thing will probably just stay in the relationship but stay emotionally detached, and maybe i can meet someone else..
i dont think he will ever change or see things from my point of view, and how bad he hurts me when he talks to me like that, he couldnt care less....what would you do if you were in my position?? please help...Relationship advice, what should I do?
He said it himself, ';I have no respect for you';. Without respect, there is nothing to hold a marriage together.
If divorce is not an option, then you need some couples counseling, and I suspect he wouldn't go, but regardless of that, you need counseling yourself, to get your self esteem back up again. No one should talk to you like that, in my book that qualifies as verbal abuse, and you need to stop it, and a therapist might help you in getting your self esteem up, and finding the courage to end this treatment, and possibly the relationship.
No, he will not change, not if you allow him to be a bully.Relationship advice, what should I do?
hun im sorry you are right he may not change or even try to till after ya leave it may wake him up it woke me up but unfortunately my wife didnt come back good luck just follow your heart and above all cherish what time you do have there will be things ya miss alot
it seems that men change when they get married. you are gonna feel like this til you decides what you want. you emotionally abused. he is trying to keep you like that because after years go by you will have been molded to his thinking. you will no longer know what you want it will be all about him. you wont be able to make a simple decision without him. is that the way you want to live. if you leave him you will get over it, if you stay you will loose you,
I personally would have left by now. Go to counseling and see what happens. But really I don't think things will change at all. So start saving for a new place. You need to get out and have some self worth and someone loving you as you are.
I understand your point.
But, I want to tell you that their are a certain type of men who want their wives to dress as modestly as possible. And those wives who don't, often wined up divorced.
Other men don't mind what you wear cause they don't care about other men looking at their wives.
Apparently yours does and can't take it. These type of men will not accept otherwise. If you love your husband and marriage enough you will accept his position and make accommodations according to his request.
I am gettin really tired of all of it, and him not apologizing, and throwing dumb stuff in my face.... I befriended a girl from school who we think is gay, automatifally i had no values, what did your parents teach you, you are influenced by t.v. and magazines you read, etc...
our fight today was about a swim suit, the swim suit looks exactly like every other swim suit i have but a differtnt color, i didnt want to fight but wanted to make that point. he points out another swimsuit that is covered more, i say i dont like it, not because it is covered, but if i am going to wear something it has to be something i like, he then start with the values ---';go get some values'; i have no respect for you, this and that, i let him go on, later on in the night he notices i am upset, i mention why, he blows up on me, and reiterate everything he said earlier, says it is me, and i will have to get over him saying i have no values because i really dont, etc...
i dont know what do to anymore, it is not even about the dumb swim suit, i honestly beleive this guy has no respect for me, or is simply trying to hurt me. I feel like i am suffocating, i have such a weight on my chest. I dont know what to do,
i can t go through a divorce, what are my other options... the easiest thing will probably just stay in the relationship but stay emotionally detached, and maybe i can meet someone else..
i dont think he will ever change or see things from my point of view, and how bad he hurts me when he talks to me like that, he couldnt care less....what would you do if you were in my position?? please help...Relationship advice, what should I do?
He said it himself, ';I have no respect for you';. Without respect, there is nothing to hold a marriage together.
If divorce is not an option, then you need some couples counseling, and I suspect he wouldn't go, but regardless of that, you need counseling yourself, to get your self esteem back up again. No one should talk to you like that, in my book that qualifies as verbal abuse, and you need to stop it, and a therapist might help you in getting your self esteem up, and finding the courage to end this treatment, and possibly the relationship.
No, he will not change, not if you allow him to be a bully.Relationship advice, what should I do?
hun im sorry you are right he may not change or even try to till after ya leave it may wake him up it woke me up but unfortunately my wife didnt come back good luck just follow your heart and above all cherish what time you do have there will be things ya miss alot
it seems that men change when they get married. you are gonna feel like this til you decides what you want. you emotionally abused. he is trying to keep you like that because after years go by you will have been molded to his thinking. you will no longer know what you want it will be all about him. you wont be able to make a simple decision without him. is that the way you want to live. if you leave him you will get over it, if you stay you will loose you,
I personally would have left by now. Go to counseling and see what happens. But really I don't think things will change at all. So start saving for a new place. You need to get out and have some self worth and someone loving you as you are.
I understand your point.
But, I want to tell you that their are a certain type of men who want their wives to dress as modestly as possible. And those wives who don't, often wined up divorced.
Other men don't mind what you wear cause they don't care about other men looking at their wives.
Apparently yours does and can't take it. These type of men will not accept otherwise. If you love your husband and marriage enough you will accept his position and make accommodations according to his request.
Relationship advice please?! easy ten points!?
i was with my boyfriend for two years
hes 17 and he acts like hes 5
i love him but his immature behavior is just sooo annnoying
one minute he tells me to leave him alone then when i dont contact him for just ONE day he keeps texting and calling
why does he do that?
and if i just never got in contact with him for like a month or maybe even more, WOULD HE MISS ME?
how can i solve this problem? i want us to grow up %26amp; for him to figure out what he wantsRelationship advice please?! easy ten points!?
he'd miss you, hes just immatureRelationship advice please?! easy ten points!?
Here's my advice sweetie; Move On.
You can't change anyone, and at 17, he doesn't know what he wants and might not for a long time. I know you say you love him and I believe you do, but just because you love someone is no excuse to stay with them if they treat you like crap! You have to love yourself more, you have to respect yourself and know what you deserve and what you are and are not willing to settle for.
If you leave him alone and move on, he might realize belatedly what he was missing. Then he can work to improve himself if he makes that decision. But we girls...we love to think we'll find someone who loves us enough to change for us!
That's ego talking, and it just doesn't work. You find a guy who you like AS IS....or stay with someone, flaws and all. There is no middle ground.
I've had a bf like this before, I ended up breaking up with him because it stressed me out all the time, everyday for 3 months.
Hes really dependent and lonely, depressed, probably cause of family problems and stuff.
We're still friends and he understands why we're not dating anymore.
Definitely talk to him, thats probably an answer that you don't wanna hear, but seriously, I would.
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dont call him for a week and make him make his mind up then tell him you love him and you ate always there for him.
you should act annoyed when he acts all immature and stuff. if he doesn't get the hint then talk to him. if he isnt grown up enough to talk about it calmly then take a break from being with him or break up with him (hopefully this will not have to happen).if you do this, at first you will miss each other, but you can get through it. remember that you deserve the best and try to get the problem resolved or *tear* move on (that tear was not sarcastic by the way)
Just tell him that you think he acts a bit immature for his age and ask him to stop acting so young. If he takes it well, then that's a sign that he would miss you. If it doesn't go too well, then he may not be that into you. Idk, that's just my opinion. : )
He sounds really immature. You should end it.
hes 17 and he acts like hes 5
i love him but his immature behavior is just sooo annnoying
one minute he tells me to leave him alone then when i dont contact him for just ONE day he keeps texting and calling
why does he do that?
and if i just never got in contact with him for like a month or maybe even more, WOULD HE MISS ME?
how can i solve this problem? i want us to grow up %26amp; for him to figure out what he wantsRelationship advice please?! easy ten points!?
he'd miss you, hes just immatureRelationship advice please?! easy ten points!?
Here's my advice sweetie; Move On.
You can't change anyone, and at 17, he doesn't know what he wants and might not for a long time. I know you say you love him and I believe you do, but just because you love someone is no excuse to stay with them if they treat you like crap! You have to love yourself more, you have to respect yourself and know what you deserve and what you are and are not willing to settle for.
If you leave him alone and move on, he might realize belatedly what he was missing. Then he can work to improve himself if he makes that decision. But we girls...we love to think we'll find someone who loves us enough to change for us!
That's ego talking, and it just doesn't work. You find a guy who you like AS IS....or stay with someone, flaws and all. There is no middle ground.
I've had a bf like this before, I ended up breaking up with him because it stressed me out all the time, everyday for 3 months.
Hes really dependent and lonely, depressed, probably cause of family problems and stuff.
We're still friends and he understands why we're not dating anymore.
Definitely talk to him, thats probably an answer that you don't wanna hear, but seriously, I would.
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Could you answer mine plz? =D
dont call him for a week and make him make his mind up then tell him you love him and you ate always there for him.
you should act annoyed when he acts all immature and stuff. if he doesn't get the hint then talk to him. if he isnt grown up enough to talk about it calmly then take a break from being with him or break up with him (hopefully this will not have to happen).if you do this, at first you will miss each other, but you can get through it. remember that you deserve the best and try to get the problem resolved or *tear* move on (that tear was not sarcastic by the way)
Just tell him that you think he acts a bit immature for his age and ask him to stop acting so young. If he takes it well, then that's a sign that he would miss you. If it doesn't go too well, then he may not be that into you. Idk, that's just my opinion. : )
He sounds really immature. You should end it.
Relationship Advice Please Help Me!?
Okay, so there is this guy who likes me, He isn't the good looking but i wouldnt say he is the ugliest guy out there, but he is really nice sometimes a little too nice. He isn't the kind of guy I envisioned myself spending the rest of my life with. He is 5'7'; and Im 5'5';, so he is kind of short. I always thought I would date a guy older than me but this guy is almost a year younger. My friends all think I should give him a chance, but I'm not sure. He has been text messaging me for a few days now and asking me if I want to hangout but I make up excuses to not go, because I'm scared of what my family will think of him. he would be my first boyfriend, He just turned 19 and Im about to be 20 so there is a small age difference. I dont want to hurt him, but im not sure what I want. Help me pleaseRelationship Advice Please Help Me!?
go out with himRelationship Advice Please Help Me!?
Don't make any promises to him. But at the same time not gonna hurt to hang out. You never know what good things may come of it. There are still good men out there who do really care.
if u r acting like that with him .... just think how u would act if something comes up with u and the person u really want. and the fact is u really dont know what kind of man u want. what if u give this guy up and look for your fantisy guy and find out he's not the one ( then you'll feel like a fool ). so im with your friends right now give the guy a really good chance without judgement
its abit strange coz u havnt said anything about ur physical attraction to him or his PERSONALITY!!! is he nice/kind/caring/loyal? what are some qualities you admire about him?? etc etc
i suggest get to know him abit more, talk to him see where hes heading in life and go from there if u see his future in tune with yours give it a shot plus u will only be dating for now its not like ur getting married just yet hahahah just relax and get to know his personality
go out with himRelationship Advice Please Help Me!?
Don't make any promises to him. But at the same time not gonna hurt to hang out. You never know what good things may come of it. There are still good men out there who do really care.
if u r acting like that with him .... just think how u would act if something comes up with u and the person u really want. and the fact is u really dont know what kind of man u want. what if u give this guy up and look for your fantisy guy and find out he's not the one ( then you'll feel like a fool ). so im with your friends right now give the guy a really good chance without judgement
its abit strange coz u havnt said anything about ur physical attraction to him or his PERSONALITY!!! is he nice/kind/caring/loyal? what are some qualities you admire about him?? etc etc
i suggest get to know him abit more, talk to him see where hes heading in life and go from there if u see his future in tune with yours give it a shot plus u will only be dating for now its not like ur getting married just yet hahahah just relax and get to know his personality
Relationship Advice! Any ideas on how to approach this issue? Please read?
Me and this girl were dating for 3 months. All of a sudden she says that she feels its not going anywhere. BUT she calls me and texts me like we are still dating. Do you think she just needs time. Today she texts me twice and calls me and I didn鈥檛 respond until an hour later and she thinks I am ignoring her. Is this a game???? I really like her and i felt we really never got to know eachother well enough. Would she still miss me if i just back off and would that be my only chance. We clicked very very well. Had sex 2 times and enjoyed each other company. Anyone have any life experiences to share etc.. I am 30 she 26.Why would she think I am ignoring her if she broke it off? Any advice or anything .. PLEASE. Could she just be thinking of still being with me? What does a girl think in this situation.Relationship Advice! Any ideas on how to approach this issue? Please read?
I know im only 14 and most people dont believe little kids but, as a young lady i think she's giving you signs that you're missing such as she still has feelings for you and she might want you back but she's scared that you're gonna say no, so she probably wants to be friends with benefits for right nowRelationship Advice! Any ideas on how to approach this issue? Please read?
go for it. or, move on . whatever. your thirty years old. shouldnt you have figured this out by now?
What is your deal, how many times are you going to post this, no wonder she said you two were going nowhere because this question is going nowhere, get a life and move on!!!
I know im only 14 and most people dont believe little kids but, as a young lady i think she's giving you signs that you're missing such as she still has feelings for you and she might want you back but she's scared that you're gonna say no, so she probably wants to be friends with benefits for right nowRelationship Advice! Any ideas on how to approach this issue? Please read?
go for it. or, move on . whatever. your thirty years old. shouldnt you have figured this out by now?
What is your deal, how many times are you going to post this, no wonder she said you two were going nowhere because this question is going nowhere, get a life and move on!!!
Relationship Advice Need Your Opinion?
There's this guy I met almost a month ago and I have fallin for him deeply... I am NOT in LOVE with him? (He is really not the guy I would date but something about him attracts me to him) He dissed me before by making some girl call my phone playing as if she is a girlfriend which made me mad at him for a bit but now were talking again. He is about to go to jail and I am so sad about it. We aren't dating but I do want to be with him and he wants to be with me what should I do keep in mind that he will be in jail for 6 months?Relationship Advice Need Your Opinion?
well if when is out in the ';free world'; he can get someone to call you pretending that they are his girlfriend,what do you think he will do when he is serving his time? he may be telling you or making you think that he wants to be with you only because he is about to be locked up and needs a ';pen pal'; or some one of that nature. from experience,guys will write or talk to almost anyone from behind bars.that meaning more than one person if possible. he may very well be preparing himself so that he knows for sure that you will be ';there for him'; during this time. i would really think about the situation again.you will more than likely find some one else during his incarceration.you can still be his friend and write him,but i wouldnt suggest a relationship with him because it will be very hard on you for the time he is locked up..........Relationship Advice Need Your Opinion?
if he cared he wouldnt have dont the girlfriend prank. if hes going to jail you dont need any part of him expecially if you know you dont love him
would you really want to take that home to meet your mother if not why waste your time you're just punishing yourself move on
Forget him you shouldn't associate with criminals.makeup look
well if when is out in the ';free world'; he can get someone to call you pretending that they are his girlfriend,what do you think he will do when he is serving his time? he may be telling you or making you think that he wants to be with you only because he is about to be locked up and needs a ';pen pal'; or some one of that nature. from experience,guys will write or talk to almost anyone from behind bars.that meaning more than one person if possible. he may very well be preparing himself so that he knows for sure that you will be ';there for him'; during this time. i would really think about the situation again.you will more than likely find some one else during his incarceration.you can still be his friend and write him,but i wouldnt suggest a relationship with him because it will be very hard on you for the time he is locked up..........Relationship Advice Need Your Opinion?
if he cared he wouldnt have dont the girlfriend prank. if hes going to jail you dont need any part of him expecially if you know you dont love him
would you really want to take that home to meet your mother if not why waste your time you're just punishing yourself move on
Forget him you shouldn't associate with criminals.
Relationship advice:I feel suffocated by my boyfriend's constant presence. How do I tell him I need space?
We only started dating on Valentine's Day and we happen to work in the same office so I see him 4 out of the 5 days I work and he wants to monopolize as much time with me. I understand that I should appreciate that he wants to spend so much time with me, but it's too much. Today I ignored one of his calls and when I called him back he told me he drove by my house but I wasn't home. I also had an email, a voicemail, several text messages and a message on facebook from him. He says I make him happy and I feel like he's too intense and suffocating.
How do I tell him nicely that I need my space, every time I run it by my friends they say I sound mean. I do like him, I like being with him, but not all the time. I don't feel ready for a relationship but committed because he seemed upset that I hadn't said ';I'm your girlfriend and we're exclusive.'; I was exclusive to him, I just didn't think we needed the titles and now everything is too much. Advice anyone?Relationship advice:I feel suffocated by my boyfriend's constant presence. How do I tell him I need space?
.Libby this guy is obviously ';over the top';.So you need to tell him quietly (John when we say cheerio,goodbye adieu or whatever when we part.That's it.I don't want or need you to use every method you know to keep in contact.And John if i don't answer the contact.Please don't keep sending messages.I'm suffocating under a snow storm of signals
How do I tell him nicely that I need my space, every time I run it by my friends they say I sound mean. I do like him, I like being with him, but not all the time. I don't feel ready for a relationship but committed because he seemed upset that I hadn't said ';I'm your girlfriend and we're exclusive.'; I was exclusive to him, I just didn't think we needed the titles and now everything is too much. Advice anyone?Relationship advice:I feel suffocated by my boyfriend's constant presence. How do I tell him I need space?
.Libby this guy is obviously ';over the top';.So you need to tell him quietly (John when we say cheerio,goodbye adieu or whatever when we part.That's it.I don't want or need you to use every method you know to keep in contact.And John if i don't answer the contact.Please don't keep sending messages.I'm suffocating under a snow storm of signals
Relationship advice for someone not feeling well at the moment?
Hi all. I got really sick almost 2 years ago with sleeping and breathing problems, etc. and my boyfriend stuck with me through it all and took really good care of me. We have been together for almost 4 years (both virgins) He is an awesome man of God and he wants to marry me. However, he says I need to be strong and fight my unknown illness and be happy with life if I expect us to stay together. He is leaving in 2 weeks for a 1 year graduate program in Florida and I am already missing him. I want to be with him, I love him and I want to make him happy. How do I get over the pain in my body, my persisting respiratory issues and sleepless nights. I feel really down sometimes and he hates it. Please any advice?.Relationship advice for someone not feeling well at the moment?
even if you don't feel well, try to be happy or at least pretend to be, for him. have you gone to the doctors? they should know what your illness is and help cure itRelationship advice for someone not feeling well at the moment?
Ok, first of let me say I'm so sorry to hear about your health situation. You two have been together for a long time so I know this might seem a little harsh, but from what you've described here, the way he has ';stuck by you'; all this time is not in fact supportive in any way. Encouragement to stay positive is one thing, but to me this sounds more like an ultimatum because he doesn't want to be brought down by your problems. You are ill, and it is perfectly normal to be affected and afraid. Who the hell is he to tell you how to feel? He's not the one suffering and wondering what's wrong with him. You need to take care of yourself first. Focus on getting better and feeling ok. Do it for you, not for him. If I was in your situation and my boyfriend even considered leaving me for a year under any circumstances, I would tell him to reconsider his priorities.
even if you don't feel well, try to be happy or at least pretend to be, for him. have you gone to the doctors? they should know what your illness is and help cure itRelationship advice for someone not feeling well at the moment?
Ok, first of let me say I'm so sorry to hear about your health situation. You two have been together for a long time so I know this might seem a little harsh, but from what you've described here, the way he has ';stuck by you'; all this time is not in fact supportive in any way. Encouragement to stay positive is one thing, but to me this sounds more like an ultimatum because he doesn't want to be brought down by your problems. You are ill, and it is perfectly normal to be affected and afraid. Who the hell is he to tell you how to feel? He's not the one suffering and wondering what's wrong with him. You need to take care of yourself first. Focus on getting better and feeling ok. Do it for you, not for him. If I was in your situation and my boyfriend even considered leaving me for a year under any circumstances, I would tell him to reconsider his priorities.
Relationship advice- weird stuff happening?
Background info: My b/f and I have been together 6 years in June. I used to sleep at his house nearly every night. His house is his Aunt's house really, and 3 Aunt's 1 Uncle, and 2 nephews live there too. He is black and I am white. We are both 24.
Issue at hand: Sunday morning I went home and showered, only to find when combing my hair that a chunk had been snipped out of the front of my hair, leaving a little section spiking up. It is not too noticable, so it didn't necessarily happen the night before.
My first thought was, the children. They are both under 3 though and of course don't run around with scissors. What is weird is that about 1 week ago the older child (age 2.5) said to me ';I cut your hair'; and I said ';You cut my hair?! You wouldn't cut my hair!'; and smiled at him.
I know ppl are weird and ppl do things to hurt ppl, and the kid saying this to me makes me wonder if he is repeating an adult.
I have since told my bf I don't feel safe sleeping over there (my car, other possessions, and my body are there of course when I sleep over- and I don't want to risk anything happening).
My Question: Is this ridiculous? Someone stole an old 100 dollar bill from his scrapbook 2 years ago in that house. Do you think someone could have actually cut my hair? I don't want to accuse ppl of things and it all upsets my bf but only bc im not sleeping over, he doesn't really stick up for me. But it's the kind of thing where- what can we do anyway? There's no way to tell what happened- if anything...
I am a heavy sleeper and we almoist always have the door locked.
Please help, I'm just afraid someone doesn't want me to be there. We all get along outright, but I know there are secret resentments bc my bf is allowed to have me sleep over and older aunts are not allowed to have their middle-aged bfs sleep there too.
Any rationalizations are appreciated- this is one of those things where you will never know what exactly happened. My bf says maybe ';new hair growth'; and his Aunt said ';are you sure its not breaking off?';- but my Mom says it has obviously been cut, as is the case.Relationship advice- weird stuff happening?
You guys are both 24 and have been dating for 6 years. Take your relationship to the next level, get jobs, and move-out. There will be no resentment on anyone's behalf. You won't accuse people or feel suspicious, your BF won't get mad at you or have to choose sides and the aunts will begin to resent you less because you won't be the only one that is not adhering to the normal rules. Problem solved.Relationship advice- weird stuff happening?
This is a tuff one. But when it comes down to it: if you don't feel safe there don't sleep there. I personally would not. Have your boyfriend sleep at your place for a little bit or something.
Good luck, I hope everything works out.
I would say that its a possibility and to be careful. Also tell your man to man up, maybe he should move out if he wants you to spend the night.
I think your kid cut your hair. Your thinking much too far into this..
Write much?
your writing to much,you made me lose some brain cells reading this
way 2 much info.my brain cells got killed
Are you dense? The 2.5 year old already confessed. Apparently, he got ahold of a pair of scissors and did it. It happens. Kids cut their own hair all the time. Get over it. Quit being paranoid. If they were out to get you, you wouldn't be allowed to spend the night there and the Auntie would have already kicked your butt out.
It seems to me that either the child, if the child did the snipping, did copy an adult around the house. But that doesn't necessarily mean that the child was copying what an adult was talking about. It is strange and I would seriously talk to your boyfriend if I were you. Make a discussion and what not one night before bed or something.
Issue at hand: Sunday morning I went home and showered, only to find when combing my hair that a chunk had been snipped out of the front of my hair, leaving a little section spiking up. It is not too noticable, so it didn't necessarily happen the night before.
My first thought was, the children. They are both under 3 though and of course don't run around with scissors. What is weird is that about 1 week ago the older child (age 2.5) said to me ';I cut your hair'; and I said ';You cut my hair?! You wouldn't cut my hair!'; and smiled at him.
I know ppl are weird and ppl do things to hurt ppl, and the kid saying this to me makes me wonder if he is repeating an adult.
I have since told my bf I don't feel safe sleeping over there (my car, other possessions, and my body are there of course when I sleep over- and I don't want to risk anything happening).
My Question: Is this ridiculous? Someone stole an old 100 dollar bill from his scrapbook 2 years ago in that house. Do you think someone could have actually cut my hair? I don't want to accuse ppl of things and it all upsets my bf but only bc im not sleeping over, he doesn't really stick up for me. But it's the kind of thing where- what can we do anyway? There's no way to tell what happened- if anything...
I am a heavy sleeper and we almoist always have the door locked.
Please help, I'm just afraid someone doesn't want me to be there. We all get along outright, but I know there are secret resentments bc my bf is allowed to have me sleep over and older aunts are not allowed to have their middle-aged bfs sleep there too.
Any rationalizations are appreciated- this is one of those things where you will never know what exactly happened. My bf says maybe ';new hair growth'; and his Aunt said ';are you sure its not breaking off?';- but my Mom says it has obviously been cut, as is the case.Relationship advice- weird stuff happening?
You guys are both 24 and have been dating for 6 years. Take your relationship to the next level, get jobs, and move-out. There will be no resentment on anyone's behalf. You won't accuse people or feel suspicious, your BF won't get mad at you or have to choose sides and the aunts will begin to resent you less because you won't be the only one that is not adhering to the normal rules. Problem solved.Relationship advice- weird stuff happening?
This is a tuff one. But when it comes down to it: if you don't feel safe there don't sleep there. I personally would not. Have your boyfriend sleep at your place for a little bit or something.
Good luck, I hope everything works out.
I would say that its a possibility and to be careful. Also tell your man to man up, maybe he should move out if he wants you to spend the night.
I think your kid cut your hair. Your thinking much too far into this..
Write much?
your writing to much,you made me lose some brain cells reading this
way 2 much info.my brain cells got killed
Are you dense? The 2.5 year old already confessed. Apparently, he got ahold of a pair of scissors and did it. It happens. Kids cut their own hair all the time. Get over it. Quit being paranoid. If they were out to get you, you wouldn't be allowed to spend the night there and the Auntie would have already kicked your butt out.
It seems to me that either the child, if the child did the snipping, did copy an adult around the house. But that doesn't necessarily mean that the child was copying what an adult was talking about. It is strange and I would seriously talk to your boyfriend if I were you. Make a discussion and what not one night before bed or something.
Monday, November 21, 2011
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE please?
Ok, theres this guy I like and he likes me back...the only problem is he has a gf.(and no I would NEVER ever let him cheat on her...even if I don't like her, I don't like guys that cheat). He told my friend that their relationship wasn't going so well because she was bitchy and annoying. He also said that if/when they do break up he really wants to ask me out...and I want to know do you think me and him have a chance and do you have any advice for me?RELATIONSHIP ADVICE please?
hey jessie
wait till you know for sure that he broke up with her. stuff like that gets out around the halls easily so that wont be hard to find out. then you might want to wait a little while cause if he dumps her and goes right for u that girl is going to think that he dumped you for her (which is true) and that will piss her off probably. She might even think you two did something while they were still dating. So put some buffer time to make sure she is completely out of the picture before you move in. byeRELATIONSHIP ADVICE please?
you should not raise ur time on him. is he dating your friend? If this is true, then this is a line you should not cross.
no harm trying... but do check him out first to confirm that he has broken up wif his earlier gal...
tell him that u like him and u want to go with him but he has to break up with his gf if he wants u cause ur not that kind of girl
well i would really have to know him. but if u guys do go out and he start acting distracted then he is thinkin about another girl or he is thinkin about breakin up with you....... i no from experience
Well so far so good, you're thinking the right way.
Never start a relationship with someone who is in another relationship.
If he does try to go too far with you, leave him by himself.
If he would cross the line and try to cheat on his girlfriend, he'll probably do the same with you.
It makes him untrustworthy.
Just keep being friendly and supportive and kind to him. If and when he breaks up he'll remember what a good friend you are and maybe want to be with you.
hey jessie
wait till you know for sure that he broke up with her. stuff like that gets out around the halls easily so that wont be hard to find out. then you might want to wait a little while cause if he dumps her and goes right for u that girl is going to think that he dumped you for her (which is true) and that will piss her off probably. She might even think you two did something while they were still dating. So put some buffer time to make sure she is completely out of the picture before you move in. byeRELATIONSHIP ADVICE please?
you should not raise ur time on him. is he dating your friend? If this is true, then this is a line you should not cross.
no harm trying... but do check him out first to confirm that he has broken up wif his earlier gal...
tell him that u like him and u want to go with him but he has to break up with his gf if he wants u cause ur not that kind of girl
well i would really have to know him. but if u guys do go out and he start acting distracted then he is thinkin about another girl or he is thinkin about breakin up with you....... i no from experience
Well so far so good, you're thinking the right way.
Never start a relationship with someone who is in another relationship.
If he does try to go too far with you, leave him by himself.
If he would cross the line and try to cheat on his girlfriend, he'll probably do the same with you.
It makes him untrustworthy.
Just keep being friendly and supportive and kind to him. If and when he breaks up he'll remember what a good friend you are and maybe want to be with you.
Relationship advice? Please?
Okay, here's the deal. My gf and I broke up a week ago for two reasons. One, she felt she didn't love me anymore. Two, she's going away for a few months and doesn't know for sure when she'll be back. We're still best friends, and we spend as much time as we can, however busy and limited we are. But she wants me to be happy and she thinks I should find someone else to love. Problem is...not that easy. I'm kind and understanding and all, but...I'm very shy, I don't talk much, and I'm very corny. She loves that; I doubt other girls do. Plus, I still love her as much as I always have. So, what do I do? Do I try to rekindle our relationship before she leaves and it's too late? Or do I struggle to find a new 'love?'Relationship advice? Please?
OK, I apologize for leaving you a nasty response to your answer to my question. Seriously.
Anyway, the answer to your question is that there is no easy answer. I suffered through a few long distance relationships and it's tough. Don't worry that you are shy. Lots of girls will still like you. Dude, you are only 15. Seriously, relax and try to enjoy yourself. You will find someone else.Relationship advice? Please?
One of the harsh realities in life is that you CANNOT make another person love you. If she said the love is gone, as far as she is concerned, I would let it go at that. You have a lot of good qualities which I'm sure would be welcomed by many other women. What you need to do do is to work on your self confidence. If you think that other girls will not have a relationship with you, you have already lost half the battle, before you stepped onto the battlefield.You have to take this girl at her word that she may not be coming back. You have to move on with your life. You don't want to live like a hermit, do you?I know that you still love this girl with all your heart, and your heart is breaking, but you can't just sit there and sulk.Life is what you make of it.If given a lemon, you make lemonade. Good luck to you.
Tough one man, But if she doesn't love you as much now as before...chances are, she didn't LOVE you at all. She probably feels that she needs time to ';live'; and see the world or something...girls are interesting. If you truly love her, then talk to her...Don't jump to conclusions and really think about what you truly feel before you say too much and kill your chances
Its not always good to hold onto a love. When you love something so much the saying is you have to let it free. There are other females out there that will want you
ummmm....why do you have to go straight from one relationship into another??
I have to be honest here though and tell you that it doesn't sound as though you have much of a chance to rekindle anything with this last girlfriend of yours. No matter what you do, she broke it up and if she isn't sure whether she loves you....that's quite a serious thing! Ask yourself....do you really want to be with someone who doesn't love you? Actually, she sounds like quite a strong girl who is able to make up her own mind. Sounds to me that she needs to have her freedom before she goes away. I think that deep down you know that too!
I wouldn't try to rekindle anything if I were you, just remain friends....who knows, she might miss you so much that when she comes back, she'll want you again....its possible!
As for you not finding anyone else....that's rubbish, you just need some confidence in yourself! Many many girls like shy guys, its not a negative quality....not is being corny...but it doesn't really sound that you should jump into another relationship, not until you've sorted yourself out!
It sounds as if she has already made up her mind and anything you do will only bring you grief in the long run. As far as being shy and corny, don't sweat it as there are women out there who are just looking for a guy like you. The ratio of women to men in this country is 10:1. At the very least there are 9 other women out there for you. Just be patient and be real. Time and experience may bring you out of your shell and you will do better.
U can say what u want but if she don't then accept it.
Plenty of fish in the sea...she will get over you!
Ever hear the saying ';A caged bird won't sing';? Well, that kind of fits. If she dosen't want to be in the relationship, trying to keep here there will only make her upset. If you don't want to search for someone new, don't. Stay friends with her and if she decides that she loves you, she'll come back. And I don't think its too strong for you to tell her that, either. Simply let her know, you don't want someone else right now, you still love her. You'll give her time to work out her feelings. If she decides that she dosen't want to come back, then fine. You'll find someone else when you're ready.
Are you kidding me dude? Girls love guys who are corny if you do it right. Thats how I got my wife and she is smoking hot
You give yourself time to heal...there's no need to rush into another relationship...just let her go and continue to be her friend, if you can...in time she may realize it's you that she wants....and by the way, girls do love corny guys..it's not just her :o)
Go fishing or something. Just hang out for a while. Your girlfriend told you in a very polite and kind way that its over. If you're less than 100 years old, you have plenty of time to live your life. Have fun.
be courageous,find someone,don't look for love because love is something that sneaks up on you,you will find the right person in due time.
If you love, set it free...
hey about your relationship, Let me tell you what i did when my hisband wasn't my hubby. We split i though it was best even though we were b.o.f. So like there's a saying that goes like this ';If you love something so bad, let it go but if it returns then there's a chance of you getting back'; I tried it and it really happen.
Don't try and ';rekindle'; anything. She made it obvious that she doesn't want to be with you anymore.
You will find someone else even though you are shy. You found this girl didn't you? There will be more.
dont rekidle ur love she is telling u she has someone on the side
Let her go. Her telling you to find other people is a sign that she is through, but does not want to say that.
Besides, there is no reason you have to go date right now. Give your heart a chance to grieve, reflect on what you've learned from this relationship, and move on.
if you still love her, tell her. let her know how you feol and leave it at that. i would not advise finding a new love right away. she may come back after you tell her how you feol.
I think you should find someone else. How our you going to move on with your life loving someone that is asking you to love someone else? If this is what she is asking from you she might not be the right girl for you to be with and suggest that you move on to someone that will appreciate all the love that you can give.
Wow you are in a pickle. with both the reasons that you have stated that she broken up with you it would be really hard to suggest that you try to work things out. As much as i would hate to admit it i would have to suggest moving on. its one of the hardest things to do in these situations but nine times out of ten its usually the best choice. but i would say give it some real thought maybe even have a long talk with her about it, i mean a good open discussion getting all cards on the table, and then make your decision.
OK, I apologize for leaving you a nasty response to your answer to my question. Seriously.
Anyway, the answer to your question is that there is no easy answer. I suffered through a few long distance relationships and it's tough. Don't worry that you are shy. Lots of girls will still like you. Dude, you are only 15. Seriously, relax and try to enjoy yourself. You will find someone else.Relationship advice? Please?
One of the harsh realities in life is that you CANNOT make another person love you. If she said the love is gone, as far as she is concerned, I would let it go at that. You have a lot of good qualities which I'm sure would be welcomed by many other women. What you need to do do is to work on your self confidence. If you think that other girls will not have a relationship with you, you have already lost half the battle, before you stepped onto the battlefield.You have to take this girl at her word that she may not be coming back. You have to move on with your life. You don't want to live like a hermit, do you?I know that you still love this girl with all your heart, and your heart is breaking, but you can't just sit there and sulk.Life is what you make of it.If given a lemon, you make lemonade. Good luck to you.
Tough one man, But if she doesn't love you as much now as before...chances are, she didn't LOVE you at all. She probably feels that she needs time to ';live'; and see the world or something...girls are interesting. If you truly love her, then talk to her...Don't jump to conclusions and really think about what you truly feel before you say too much and kill your chances
Its not always good to hold onto a love. When you love something so much the saying is you have to let it free. There are other females out there that will want you
ummmm....why do you have to go straight from one relationship into another??
I have to be honest here though and tell you that it doesn't sound as though you have much of a chance to rekindle anything with this last girlfriend of yours. No matter what you do, she broke it up and if she isn't sure whether she loves you....that's quite a serious thing! Ask yourself....do you really want to be with someone who doesn't love you? Actually, she sounds like quite a strong girl who is able to make up her own mind. Sounds to me that she needs to have her freedom before she goes away. I think that deep down you know that too!
I wouldn't try to rekindle anything if I were you, just remain friends....who knows, she might miss you so much that when she comes back, she'll want you again....its possible!
As for you not finding anyone else....that's rubbish, you just need some confidence in yourself! Many many girls like shy guys, its not a negative quality....not is being corny...but it doesn't really sound that you should jump into another relationship, not until you've sorted yourself out!
It sounds as if she has already made up her mind and anything you do will only bring you grief in the long run. As far as being shy and corny, don't sweat it as there are women out there who are just looking for a guy like you. The ratio of women to men in this country is 10:1. At the very least there are 9 other women out there for you. Just be patient and be real. Time and experience may bring you out of your shell and you will do better.
U can say what u want but if she don't then accept it.
Plenty of fish in the sea...she will get over you!
Ever hear the saying ';A caged bird won't sing';? Well, that kind of fits. If she dosen't want to be in the relationship, trying to keep here there will only make her upset. If you don't want to search for someone new, don't. Stay friends with her and if she decides that she loves you, she'll come back. And I don't think its too strong for you to tell her that, either. Simply let her know, you don't want someone else right now, you still love her. You'll give her time to work out her feelings. If she decides that she dosen't want to come back, then fine. You'll find someone else when you're ready.
Are you kidding me dude? Girls love guys who are corny if you do it right. Thats how I got my wife and she is smoking hot
You give yourself time to heal...there's no need to rush into another relationship...just let her go and continue to be her friend, if you can...in time she may realize it's you that she wants....and by the way, girls do love corny guys..it's not just her :o)
Go fishing or something. Just hang out for a while. Your girlfriend told you in a very polite and kind way that its over. If you're less than 100 years old, you have plenty of time to live your life. Have fun.
be courageous,find someone,don't look for love because love is something that sneaks up on you,you will find the right person in due time.
If you love, set it free...
hey about your relationship, Let me tell you what i did when my hisband wasn't my hubby. We split i though it was best even though we were b.o.f. So like there's a saying that goes like this ';If you love something so bad, let it go but if it returns then there's a chance of you getting back'; I tried it and it really happen.
Don't try and ';rekindle'; anything. She made it obvious that she doesn't want to be with you anymore.
You will find someone else even though you are shy. You found this girl didn't you? There will be more.
dont rekidle ur love she is telling u she has someone on the side
Let her go. Her telling you to find other people is a sign that she is through, but does not want to say that.
Besides, there is no reason you have to go date right now. Give your heart a chance to grieve, reflect on what you've learned from this relationship, and move on.
if you still love her, tell her. let her know how you feol and leave it at that. i would not advise finding a new love right away. she may come back after you tell her how you feol.
I think you should find someone else. How our you going to move on with your life loving someone that is asking you to love someone else? If this is what she is asking from you she might not be the right girl for you to be with and suggest that you move on to someone that will appreciate all the love that you can give.
Wow you are in a pickle. with both the reasons that you have stated that she broken up with you it would be really hard to suggest that you try to work things out. As much as i would hate to admit it i would have to suggest moving on. its one of the hardest things to do in these situations but nine times out of ten its usually the best choice. but i would say give it some real thought maybe even have a long talk with her about it, i mean a good open discussion getting all cards on the table, and then make your decision.
Relationship advice. PLEASE?
ok, here's the deal.
(its very complicated, so please be patient)
im totally in love with this guy named brian. well he started ignoring me after he found out. so then I got interested in my best friend paul(who i've had a crush on for years) but i realized i liked him AFTER he started dating my VERY BEST friend since kindergarten, but i love him. so who should i keep going after, brian(the guy that started ignoring me) or paul(who likes me, but neither of us want to hurt my friend)
PLEASE HELP ME!!!Relationship advice. PLEASE?
paul.
duh, obviously its not ';love'; if he doesn't even like you back.
and if you are def sure about him ignoring you, paul is the best answer to go.
but then the prob, is you don't want to hurt your friend?
you kinda have to see which is more important.
like would you seriously risk your friendship for a guy, that is no gaurentee to stick with you anyways?
just think it out.
and you might end up not dating either of them two.
[which can be for the best]Relationship advice. PLEASE?
No one, when the time comes you'll automatically receive your love. Here is a secret. How to behave to boys.
Behave as if u are an independent,silent girl. Boys like this kind of girls. Always simile!!
dont go after either
brian is the only option in this situation. paul is with your best friend, that makes him off limits permanently. but that's just my advice.makeup look
(its very complicated, so please be patient)
im totally in love with this guy named brian. well he started ignoring me after he found out. so then I got interested in my best friend paul(who i've had a crush on for years) but i realized i liked him AFTER he started dating my VERY BEST friend since kindergarten, but i love him. so who should i keep going after, brian(the guy that started ignoring me) or paul(who likes me, but neither of us want to hurt my friend)
PLEASE HELP ME!!!Relationship advice. PLEASE?
paul.
duh, obviously its not ';love'; if he doesn't even like you back.
and if you are def sure about him ignoring you, paul is the best answer to go.
but then the prob, is you don't want to hurt your friend?
you kinda have to see which is more important.
like would you seriously risk your friendship for a guy, that is no gaurentee to stick with you anyways?
just think it out.
and you might end up not dating either of them two.
[which can be for the best]Relationship advice. PLEASE?
No one, when the time comes you'll automatically receive your love. Here is a secret. How to behave to boys.
Behave as if u are an independent,silent girl. Boys like this kind of girls. Always simile!!
dont go after either
brian is the only option in this situation. paul is with your best friend, that makes him off limits permanently. but that's just my advice.
Relationship advice please?
ok so I am currently dateing a Jamacian guy and my dad is racist... I am 18 and he is 24 I live in my dads house and I am very close to him but he doesnt want me to date him cause of his skin color and u know my dad beleives in all that stereo typical stuff... what do u guys think I should doRelationship advice please?
Move out of your dads house so that you can do what you want, since you are living under his roof you need to respect his decisions whether you agree with them or not.Relationship advice please?
That's really hard, you're fighting two battles - one with your father and one with your boyfriend. Both aren't going to like each other very much.
Encourage your boyfriend to keep an open mind with your father, your dad was raised in a different home, different family, different time altogether. You need to assure your boyfriend as well that you DO NOT hold the same values, you're a free thinker and independent.
Talk to your father, ask him to please meet your boyfriend maybe? Judge him for his true character not the color of his skin.
It's going to be hard, I'm guessing those beliefs your father have are really really deep rooted. My grandmother was the same way, and I've dated black, asian and Caucasian men. She was never happy with me, but I had my parents on my side, and in the end I took on the attitude that you can't please everyone., nor did her approval matter
This is tough though because it's your father. What about your mom? She may get through to him as well.
Like I said though, please continue to reassure your boyfriend you love him, because he might feel insecure about your relationship with him after meeting or hearing about your father which is understandable!
Try and explain to your dad that he is acting out another stereotype; the overprotective father that hates other races. Old dogs can't learn new tricks, but they can be taught to shut up and respect others. Especially their offspring. He'll have to learn to live with the fact that you are a different person than him. That you are obviously more understanding and compassionate than him. If he is still against it, you have two choices. Move out on your own, or dump the Jamaican dude.
if you really like the guy you need to be with him and forget about your dad's racists ideas. i know he's your father but you are 18- a GROWN WOMAN and it's your decision to make. it is very possibel to say dad i respect your opinion but i have my own as well. you should'nt let racsism keep you apart- even if he is your dad.
Since you live in your dad's house, you must follow his rules. You can do what YOU want when you get out on your own and don't need his financial support.
well if u really love dat guy u dont listen to ur dad do wht u think is best ur already old enough to decied to be wit.ur dad is not always gonna be there for u hes not gonna give u wht ur boyfriend/husben could give u
i say, move out if possible, love shouldn't be stopped due to something as dumb as skin color who cares its the feelings that you guys share that matters, ignore your dad
um whatever you think is right. follow your heart.
Move out of your dads house so that you can do what you want, since you are living under his roof you need to respect his decisions whether you agree with them or not.Relationship advice please?
That's really hard, you're fighting two battles - one with your father and one with your boyfriend. Both aren't going to like each other very much.
Encourage your boyfriend to keep an open mind with your father, your dad was raised in a different home, different family, different time altogether. You need to assure your boyfriend as well that you DO NOT hold the same values, you're a free thinker and independent.
Talk to your father, ask him to please meet your boyfriend maybe? Judge him for his true character not the color of his skin.
It's going to be hard, I'm guessing those beliefs your father have are really really deep rooted. My grandmother was the same way, and I've dated black, asian and Caucasian men. She was never happy with me, but I had my parents on my side, and in the end I took on the attitude that you can't please everyone., nor did her approval matter
This is tough though because it's your father. What about your mom? She may get through to him as well.
Like I said though, please continue to reassure your boyfriend you love him, because he might feel insecure about your relationship with him after meeting or hearing about your father which is understandable!
Try and explain to your dad that he is acting out another stereotype; the overprotective father that hates other races. Old dogs can't learn new tricks, but they can be taught to shut up and respect others. Especially their offspring. He'll have to learn to live with the fact that you are a different person than him. That you are obviously more understanding and compassionate than him. If he is still against it, you have two choices. Move out on your own, or dump the Jamaican dude.
if you really like the guy you need to be with him and forget about your dad's racists ideas. i know he's your father but you are 18- a GROWN WOMAN and it's your decision to make. it is very possibel to say dad i respect your opinion but i have my own as well. you should'nt let racsism keep you apart- even if he is your dad.
Since you live in your dad's house, you must follow his rules. You can do what YOU want when you get out on your own and don't need his financial support.
well if u really love dat guy u dont listen to ur dad do wht u think is best ur already old enough to decied to be wit.ur dad is not always gonna be there for u hes not gonna give u wht ur boyfriend/husben could give u
i say, move out if possible, love shouldn't be stopped due to something as dumb as skin color who cares its the feelings that you guys share that matters, ignore your dad
um whatever you think is right. follow your heart.
I need relationship advice!!!?
Im not gonna lie its been awhile since ive had a girlfriend. and i dont think anyone likes me right now and i dont have anyone i think i would want to go out with. But i want to know what to say and do to a girl to make her atleast like me?I need relationship advice!!!?
There's nothing you can say to make a girl like you, but you can always be yourself (:
There's nothing you can say to make a girl like you, but you can always be yourself (:
I need relationship advice?
me and my boyfriend have been going out for 1 yr. and we never really got in to a fight and the other night we got in our first fight on the phone. and now he wont talk to me i call him. but no answer i really miss him and i want to talk to him but he wont what should i do?I need relationship advice?
You have to give him the chance to stop being angry. I don't know what you two were fighting about, but that is going to change what happens next. You cannot make him want to talk to you. You are going to have to wait and see what happens. Fights happen, but a relationship is determined by what you do AFTER the fight. You can choose to make up or walk away. But, being that he isn't talking all you can do is WAIT. Accept that.I need relationship advice?
Patience!! You have been with him for 1 year. You KNOW him. Reflect! How does he solve issues with others? Does he 'disconnect' with others like he did with you? If you did something wrong...apologize! and MEAN IT! Put yourself in his shoes. See it from his shoes. If you see it from his shoes communicate that with him not AT him. NOTHING is so big that time and patience and even God can't solve.
just try and talk to him. like maybe over e-mails? He just has too much pride to tell u he's sorry. He'll come around eventually!
You have to give him the chance to stop being angry. I don't know what you two were fighting about, but that is going to change what happens next. You cannot make him want to talk to you. You are going to have to wait and see what happens. Fights happen, but a relationship is determined by what you do AFTER the fight. You can choose to make up or walk away. But, being that he isn't talking all you can do is WAIT. Accept that.I need relationship advice?
Patience!! You have been with him for 1 year. You KNOW him. Reflect! How does he solve issues with others? Does he 'disconnect' with others like he did with you? If you did something wrong...apologize! and MEAN IT! Put yourself in his shoes. See it from his shoes. If you see it from his shoes communicate that with him not AT him. NOTHING is so big that time and patience and even God can't solve.
just try and talk to him. like maybe over e-mails? He just has too much pride to tell u he's sorry. He'll come around eventually!
Need relationship advice..?
Me and my boyfriend of 7 months just moved in together. Its been almost a month now but I already feel like things have changed between us. I also am able to see a lot of things in him that I didnt before. He has so much pride, and when we argue or disagree on something he is able to just shine me off like I am not even there, and that totally irritates me. I end being the one approaching him on the issue just so we can talk things out and I am getting tired of it. I have told him this, and we have talked about it, but for the men, what is a good way to get him to start stepping up and swallowing that pride of his to make an effort when he sees I am upset? I also notice our sex life went from every day to now once or twice a week, and I like a lot of affection. I feel like I am the one always going to hold him or kiss him. What can I do to let him know he needs to keep that flame burning or I am going to get bored without being mean? Any advice would be appreciatedNeed relationship advice..?
i think the problem is yall are up to each other necks. get some space go out and do something but also a relationship with fights do lead to good things. you dont want a fake relationshiop nothing is perfect some of hte things that he does tell him how you feel. but men dont respond well most of the time. and men are not as clean as we are most of hte time. there are some things my hub does for the past 10 years and i still hate it but i love him and that is how he is.Need relationship advice..?
Here's how I see it: if you are upset because of something he did or said, it is your responsibility as an adult to approach him on the matter and not expect him to be a mind-reader. Guys don't always pick up on body language either. The same goes for him. If he's upset with you, he needs to come to you about it. He should not expect you to read his mind either. As for the pride issues...he may never get over that. You have to decide whether or not you want to deal with it. You shouldn't have to deal with it, but you also need to realize that he may not want to work on it and if he does work on it things still may not change. With regards to the sex...weird that he's the one who is losing interest in a vigorous sex life, don't you think? Maybe he's gotten too comfortable with you thinking you'll always be there. You should go out with your girlfriends and not plan your whole day around him. Take some space for yourself and give him some. If that doesn't help, talk to him about what you want from the relationship. If he can deliver, fine, if not...well, look elsewhere because he's not ready to be in the same kind of relationship you're ready for.
well first off i know it helps things when two ppl live together but you went from seeing him a few hours a day to seeing him and being with him 24hrs day...that's when you really get to know someone...lots of ppl that date and go out just love each others company but you put them in the same house 24hrs day and they cant stand each other and that happens....sounds like he don't like giving in on nothing....and its different when you have to go get sex than when its just laying there waiting every night and really you don't have to do nothing to get it....you want it more when its not around but should you move out i think the interest might come back to him and maybe yall wouldn't argue as much either...so you might have to move out to get back where you want him to be...good luck.
i think the problem is yall are up to each other necks. get some space go out and do something but also a relationship with fights do lead to good things. you dont want a fake relationshiop nothing is perfect some of hte things that he does tell him how you feel. but men dont respond well most of the time. and men are not as clean as we are most of hte time. there are some things my hub does for the past 10 years and i still hate it but i love him and that is how he is.Need relationship advice..?
Here's how I see it: if you are upset because of something he did or said, it is your responsibility as an adult to approach him on the matter and not expect him to be a mind-reader. Guys don't always pick up on body language either. The same goes for him. If he's upset with you, he needs to come to you about it. He should not expect you to read his mind either. As for the pride issues...he may never get over that. You have to decide whether or not you want to deal with it. You shouldn't have to deal with it, but you also need to realize that he may not want to work on it and if he does work on it things still may not change. With regards to the sex...weird that he's the one who is losing interest in a vigorous sex life, don't you think? Maybe he's gotten too comfortable with you thinking you'll always be there. You should go out with your girlfriends and not plan your whole day around him. Take some space for yourself and give him some. If that doesn't help, talk to him about what you want from the relationship. If he can deliver, fine, if not...well, look elsewhere because he's not ready to be in the same kind of relationship you're ready for.
well first off i know it helps things when two ppl live together but you went from seeing him a few hours a day to seeing him and being with him 24hrs day...that's when you really get to know someone...lots of ppl that date and go out just love each others company but you put them in the same house 24hrs day and they cant stand each other and that happens....sounds like he don't like giving in on nothing....and its different when you have to go get sex than when its just laying there waiting every night and really you don't have to do nothing to get it....you want it more when its not around but should you move out i think the interest might come back to him and maybe yall wouldn't argue as much either...so you might have to move out to get back where you want him to be...good luck.
I need relationship advice?
Hi. I am 15 years old and need some help. I have never had one relationship in my whole life. I am nice to girls, but only my 'cute' friends get the girls. I'm just not good looking. Also, I'm pretty shy and I'm looking for a serious relationship. I need to know where to find girls who will judge me on personality not looks, so that I can find someone like me. Sorry if i sound corny, but this means a lot. ThanksI need relationship advice?
you're too toung.. ms. right will come your when at the right time, at your right age.. dont worry, im 23 and still hasn't found the right guy.I need relationship advice?
My advice to you: Just be yourself. You'll find someone. Sure she might not be the greatest looking person ever, but it's not the looks that matter. I've found that most of the time, the ';hot chicks'; are bitches. No offense to you ladies out there, but about half the time, it's true. Ultimately, just be yourself.
i think you're trying to hard, let mrs. right come to YOU.
look man if you are trying to score just relax and be confident around girls. if you aren't trying to score then still be confident no matter what you look like. girls are people too they get shy.
try looking the way u think u look good act nice and she';ll come to you!
A great man once said ';money is the ultimate aphrodisiac';
As long as you have money, girls will be attracted to you no matter how ugly you are. so just plan on getting rich..problem solved..I'll take my nobel prize now.
there is somone out there for you as there is all of us...when its time it will smack you right in the face..you will know..dont rush it your young still...she will find you
Aw. Well in today's society you gotta REALLY search for girls who judge you on personality. Like me! Yeah but...I think you just need to open yourself up a ot more and not care about what other people think. You needa take one good look in the mirror and truely see yourself and you need to be that cool funny guy you really are.
when you be sweet but not desoperate and kinda play hard to get .And ur 15 u got lots of time ivbe been with my fiance for 3 yrs now im 19 he 21 im his first gf and LASt lol soo... Just dont rush into things
man its this way oways girls go around for about the first 30o years or lless of there life giving away there bodys to idiots then nice guys like you and me show up as kids and are best freinds we secretly have a crush that we dont want to run the relationship or dont have the ballls to mintion soo we dont get girls lol till later
I think you should let a girl come to you, but looks aren't everything. I'm 13 and a girl and I know that. Lots of girls like guys who are funny, and romantic, so there's bound to be SOMEONE who will date you. Besides, if you have certain interests, you can join clubs, and maybe meet girls who like the same things as you do. *art clubs, guitar, etc* Hope this helps!
send me a pic and il tell you if your ugly or not.
and mybe go on one of those dating sites or like a chat room??
email me
A: ugly girls, life IS NOT fair, and thuss..u shall not finndd what u seek.
i totally get what you mean there, but the truth is that girls your age will almost always go for the ';hot'; or popular guy, unless she is a really exceptional girl. i'm sure you don't want to hear this, but wait until you're an adult, at which point women care a lot more about personality and a lot less about looks.
Maybe try having a little more confidence in yourself. If you can't find some thing in yourself that is good looking, who will?
Teenage years are very weird. It feels like you will be alone forever, but you won't. Have faith in yourself.
your question seems to be from bottom of your heart, the girl ur having crush must be the one who knows you well, she shouldn't see your wealth,your looks is her choice, u have to be more friendly to her,take a good CARE of her ,,never expect a sexual relationship without knowing her idea,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, be more specific about yourself,and never lie to her ..............................if u follow this ,i am sure that u will really win her heart .......................good luck buddy,%26amp; forget not to vote me
ooooooooooooh boy.
Trust me, you want your first relationshp to be as meaningless as possible. I went for the meaningful first relationship and it teared me down to shreds.
I know your gonna ignore me, but im telling you thats what your setting yourself up to.
Here's the honest truth......
A lot of girls are superficial at this age. Looks are pretty much all they are concerned about - Their looks and your looks. I'm sure I'll get a lot of ';thumbs down'; for that but man, it is the truth.
I want to ask you something. If a porker came up to you and said in a manly deepish voice, ';Let's go to the movies this weekend'; would you?
If your answer to this question is ';No'; then you need to realize that you may have just let the best thing that has ever happened to you get away.
One thing I think you need to address is the fact that you are shy - You said that you wished that girls would judge you on your personaliy but man if you don't show if they won't be able to.
I'm 30 now, I remember that being 15 was also hard for me. Hang in their dude, for me and plenty of others I know, the geeky, quite, shy nerdy guys always end up with more in the end.
You're 15 and you have your whole life ahead of you. Try not to grow up too fast and enjoy it now and in the end you'll find that MRS. RIGHT or she will find you.
if girls are juding on looks ( which a lot do ) then they're not good enough for u...just be yourself and one day a lucky girl will fall for u ( srry i no its corny...but true )
good luck!!! : )
At 15 there truly isn't so such a thing as a serious relationship. There are boyfriends/girlfriends, but kids your age lack the maturity and the consistency, because you are always changing and growing. Relax. Don't rush yourself to get a girlfriend. What are you looking for that is so horridly important? Girls your age are usually shallow because they want to like all the guys their other friends like, the ';cute'; guys... but it's the boys like you, who is not the typical cute guy, who will grow to be the guy every girl wants to date because you will know EXACTLY how to treat a girl.
If you really want a girlfriend, don't make it serious. Have fun with exploring relationships until you're older. Dating, in its most basic definition, is pretty much like trial periods to find someone to marry. You are not looking for marriage, so make it about having fun and exploring girls and getting to know the kind of girls you like and what girls like and don't like in relationships. Don't think long-term.
Just talk to girls, be their friend, make jokes, and girls will come to you. If you come on too eager, it scares them away. Be chill. :)
Good luck!
well do something unexpected dont always kiss up to much.just fool around tease themm little by little because most girls look for the cute guys but if ur fun to be around and u tease them a bit they will pay more attention to u
Let me start by saying you don't sound corny. The best thing you could do is, just be yourself and don't be in any rush to get into a serious relationship. I'm sure your just as cute as your friends are and you really shouldn't even give that a thought. Just continue being sweet and kind to girls and trust me; when the right one comes along you'll know. Enjoy being you and having fun and enjoying the people around and before you know it, there she'll be.
just find a girl who you think has the same feelings as you do and ask her out! it never hurts to try and if you dont try then you'll never know what couldve been. there are so many girls that are just waiting for the rite person. make a move!
just wait some one out there is for you
Most girls are accepting of appearances if they truly like a guy. Just start by being friends but don't touch her a whole lot because it makes some girls uncomfortable. Be friendly and crack jokes to her, and as you get to know her you can even tease her gently. As she warms up to you, she may start to crush on you. If you sense that she is flirting, try flirting back a little bit. Don't let shyness get in the way, give yourself enough credit to know that you are a great guy which is a rare find in high school. That alone is enough to get you a great girl. Just remember always be respectful and friendships can easily turn into something more.
nice ,sounds like u want someone that like u 4 who u are and understands u, how awesome. Lets see now.. Im 14 (and just happen 2 be a girl so I'll give u my best advice. I know u may be shy (Im also extremely nervous around guys I like) But you have to step out of ur comfort zone once in a while, in gym try to do the best u can in sports,be yourself.
1. If you tend to fall into the ';friend zone';, this is especially important. Girls don't like guys who have no lives, and who cling to them like plastic wrap. Actually, some girls do like that, but usually for all the wrong reasons--either they're insecure and needy for attention, or they're control freaks who like to dominate guys. Unless you want to sign up for either of those scenarios, focus filling your time with your own friendships, interests, and goals.
2. Make an impression. There's no one-size-fits-all solution here. What impresses one girl might make another roll her eyes. Your best bet is to be yourself. Demonstrate a unique skill or talent that you're proud of, something that sets you apart from the crowd. Not only will this make her feel good about you, but it can boost your confidence, too.
3. Flirt. When you see or meet a girl you like, make brief eye contact. Smile. Strike up a casual conversation. Most importantly, relax. Don't think of her as the girl of your dreams; don't worry about what will happen if you make a bad joke, or you've got something stuck to your teeth. Enjoy interacting with this attractive, friendly girl whose path crossed yours. Live in the moment.
4. Talk to her. Tell her what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what you want to leap out of bed to pursue. Ask her what she really loves in life and what gets her excited. Be positive. If you have had a bad day, still greet them with pleasure and a big smile. Most importantly, listen.
5. Be romantic. The stereotypical icons of romance (roses, candles and chocolate) can only go so far. Think about what really gets that special someone excited. Recognize what makes her unique, and find/do things for them that only they would appreciate. What are her quirky (perhaps secret) interests, obsessions and fantasies? Whenever she's shopping, talking, or watching a movie, what makes her eyes light up? Pay attention! Being romantic means acknowledging how special a person is, and that means demonstrating that you know--better than anyone else in the world--what makes her unique.
6. Break the touch barrier. There are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she's stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your elbow so she can link arms with you as you walk together. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. Rub her hands when they're cold. These are all polite ways to get a little closer without being creepy. Still, if you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she'll probably enjoy the affection.
7. Compliment her. If you really like this girl, you probably appreciate a lot of things about her. Why not let her know? If anything is different or new (her hairstyle, nail polish color, shirt), make note of it. The more unique the compliment, the better received it will be, unless she's shallow. Most girls like being complimented on something that makes them distinct, not something that plenty of other girls have. If you compliment her appearance, try to be original. Better yet, compliment her personality or skills.
8. Make her laugh. Telling jokes or funny stories is the classic way to make a person laugh, but not the only one. Find out which are her favorite comedians, funny movies, or sitcoms. Watch them with her. Be bold and think of some antics that'll make her laugh. Tell her to dare you to do something, then do it (as long as it's not dangerous or illegal, of course).
9. Ask her out. Invite her to go somewhere or do something with you--make sure it's something that you're both interested in. If you want, show her your world. Bring her somewhere that you feel comfortable and preferably, where you have or do something that you're proud of. Or, express interest in seeing her world. Is she a musician? Ask if you can see her perform. Is she a mathematician? Ask to read her report or thesis. Or, just go out for lunch or a cup of coffee and get to know her better.
Im sure u will find true love!
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Here's what i think i think that you should be yourself and go up to a girl and say ';hi'; there's someone who's out there who likes you but you don't know it.
I thought that nobody likes me since I'm not a pretty girly girl type but this guy likes me and i didn't have to try to be someone els I was myself and he liked me for it.
There is someone out there who likes you but you don't know that and just be yourself and when the right time comes she be there.
:)
They usually will appear out of nowhere and you'll be fine when the time is right. Your 15 and I'm 18 and I still don't have one. Take it easy and you'll be fine.
aww.. that's cute, but just keep being nice. most girls only judge on looks but that's not all they should judge on personality should be like 90% and looks like 10%. but just keep being nice and the girl that god has prepared for you will come along in life and you'll find '; the one '; good luck. =]
you're too toung.. ms. right will come your when at the right time, at your right age.. dont worry, im 23 and still hasn't found the right guy.I need relationship advice?
My advice to you: Just be yourself. You'll find someone. Sure she might not be the greatest looking person ever, but it's not the looks that matter. I've found that most of the time, the ';hot chicks'; are bitches. No offense to you ladies out there, but about half the time, it's true. Ultimately, just be yourself.
i think you're trying to hard, let mrs. right come to YOU.
look man if you are trying to score just relax and be confident around girls. if you aren't trying to score then still be confident no matter what you look like. girls are people too they get shy.
try looking the way u think u look good act nice and she';ll come to you!
A great man once said ';money is the ultimate aphrodisiac';
As long as you have money, girls will be attracted to you no matter how ugly you are. so just plan on getting rich..problem solved..I'll take my nobel prize now.
there is somone out there for you as there is all of us...when its time it will smack you right in the face..you will know..dont rush it your young still...she will find you
Aw. Well in today's society you gotta REALLY search for girls who judge you on personality. Like me! Yeah but...I think you just need to open yourself up a ot more and not care about what other people think. You needa take one good look in the mirror and truely see yourself and you need to be that cool funny guy you really are.
when you be sweet but not desoperate and kinda play hard to get .And ur 15 u got lots of time ivbe been with my fiance for 3 yrs now im 19 he 21 im his first gf and LASt lol soo... Just dont rush into things
man its this way oways girls go around for about the first 30o years or lless of there life giving away there bodys to idiots then nice guys like you and me show up as kids and are best freinds we secretly have a crush that we dont want to run the relationship or dont have the ballls to mintion soo we dont get girls lol till later
I think you should let a girl come to you, but looks aren't everything. I'm 13 and a girl and I know that. Lots of girls like guys who are funny, and romantic, so there's bound to be SOMEONE who will date you. Besides, if you have certain interests, you can join clubs, and maybe meet girls who like the same things as you do. *art clubs, guitar, etc* Hope this helps!
send me a pic and il tell you if your ugly or not.
and mybe go on one of those dating sites or like a chat room??
email me
A: ugly girls, life IS NOT fair, and thuss..u shall not finndd what u seek.
i totally get what you mean there, but the truth is that girls your age will almost always go for the ';hot'; or popular guy, unless she is a really exceptional girl. i'm sure you don't want to hear this, but wait until you're an adult, at which point women care a lot more about personality and a lot less about looks.
Maybe try having a little more confidence in yourself. If you can't find some thing in yourself that is good looking, who will?
Teenage years are very weird. It feels like you will be alone forever, but you won't. Have faith in yourself.
your question seems to be from bottom of your heart, the girl ur having crush must be the one who knows you well, she shouldn't see your wealth,your looks is her choice, u have to be more friendly to her,take a good CARE of her ,,never expect a sexual relationship without knowing her idea,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, be more specific about yourself,and never lie to her ..............................if u follow this ,i am sure that u will really win her heart .......................good luck buddy,%26amp; forget not to vote me
ooooooooooooh boy.
Trust me, you want your first relationshp to be as meaningless as possible. I went for the meaningful first relationship and it teared me down to shreds.
I know your gonna ignore me, but im telling you thats what your setting yourself up to.
Here's the honest truth......
A lot of girls are superficial at this age. Looks are pretty much all they are concerned about - Their looks and your looks. I'm sure I'll get a lot of ';thumbs down'; for that but man, it is the truth.
I want to ask you something. If a porker came up to you and said in a manly deepish voice, ';Let's go to the movies this weekend'; would you?
If your answer to this question is ';No'; then you need to realize that you may have just let the best thing that has ever happened to you get away.
One thing I think you need to address is the fact that you are shy - You said that you wished that girls would judge you on your personaliy but man if you don't show if they won't be able to.
I'm 30 now, I remember that being 15 was also hard for me. Hang in their dude, for me and plenty of others I know, the geeky, quite, shy nerdy guys always end up with more in the end.
You're 15 and you have your whole life ahead of you. Try not to grow up too fast and enjoy it now and in the end you'll find that MRS. RIGHT or she will find you.
if girls are juding on looks ( which a lot do ) then they're not good enough for u...just be yourself and one day a lucky girl will fall for u ( srry i no its corny...but true )
good luck!!! : )
At 15 there truly isn't so such a thing as a serious relationship. There are boyfriends/girlfriends, but kids your age lack the maturity and the consistency, because you are always changing and growing. Relax. Don't rush yourself to get a girlfriend. What are you looking for that is so horridly important? Girls your age are usually shallow because they want to like all the guys their other friends like, the ';cute'; guys... but it's the boys like you, who is not the typical cute guy, who will grow to be the guy every girl wants to date because you will know EXACTLY how to treat a girl.
If you really want a girlfriend, don't make it serious. Have fun with exploring relationships until you're older. Dating, in its most basic definition, is pretty much like trial periods to find someone to marry. You are not looking for marriage, so make it about having fun and exploring girls and getting to know the kind of girls you like and what girls like and don't like in relationships. Don't think long-term.
Just talk to girls, be their friend, make jokes, and girls will come to you. If you come on too eager, it scares them away. Be chill. :)
Good luck!
well do something unexpected dont always kiss up to much.just fool around tease themm little by little because most girls look for the cute guys but if ur fun to be around and u tease them a bit they will pay more attention to u
Let me start by saying you don't sound corny. The best thing you could do is, just be yourself and don't be in any rush to get into a serious relationship. I'm sure your just as cute as your friends are and you really shouldn't even give that a thought. Just continue being sweet and kind to girls and trust me; when the right one comes along you'll know. Enjoy being you and having fun and enjoying the people around and before you know it, there she'll be.
just find a girl who you think has the same feelings as you do and ask her out! it never hurts to try and if you dont try then you'll never know what couldve been. there are so many girls that are just waiting for the rite person. make a move!
just wait some one out there is for you
Most girls are accepting of appearances if they truly like a guy. Just start by being friends but don't touch her a whole lot because it makes some girls uncomfortable. Be friendly and crack jokes to her, and as you get to know her you can even tease her gently. As she warms up to you, she may start to crush on you. If you sense that she is flirting, try flirting back a little bit. Don't let shyness get in the way, give yourself enough credit to know that you are a great guy which is a rare find in high school. That alone is enough to get you a great girl. Just remember always be respectful and friendships can easily turn into something more.
nice ,sounds like u want someone that like u 4 who u are and understands u, how awesome. Lets see now.. Im 14 (and just happen 2 be a girl so I'll give u my best advice. I know u may be shy (Im also extremely nervous around guys I like) But you have to step out of ur comfort zone once in a while, in gym try to do the best u can in sports,be yourself.
1. If you tend to fall into the ';friend zone';, this is especially important. Girls don't like guys who have no lives, and who cling to them like plastic wrap. Actually, some girls do like that, but usually for all the wrong reasons--either they're insecure and needy for attention, or they're control freaks who like to dominate guys. Unless you want to sign up for either of those scenarios, focus filling your time with your own friendships, interests, and goals.
2. Make an impression. There's no one-size-fits-all solution here. What impresses one girl might make another roll her eyes. Your best bet is to be yourself. Demonstrate a unique skill or talent that you're proud of, something that sets you apart from the crowd. Not only will this make her feel good about you, but it can boost your confidence, too.
3. Flirt. When you see or meet a girl you like, make brief eye contact. Smile. Strike up a casual conversation. Most importantly, relax. Don't think of her as the girl of your dreams; don't worry about what will happen if you make a bad joke, or you've got something stuck to your teeth. Enjoy interacting with this attractive, friendly girl whose path crossed yours. Live in the moment.
4. Talk to her. Tell her what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what you want to leap out of bed to pursue. Ask her what she really loves in life and what gets her excited. Be positive. If you have had a bad day, still greet them with pleasure and a big smile. Most importantly, listen.
5. Be romantic. The stereotypical icons of romance (roses, candles and chocolate) can only go so far. Think about what really gets that special someone excited. Recognize what makes her unique, and find/do things for them that only they would appreciate. What are her quirky (perhaps secret) interests, obsessions and fantasies? Whenever she's shopping, talking, or watching a movie, what makes her eyes light up? Pay attention! Being romantic means acknowledging how special a person is, and that means demonstrating that you know--better than anyone else in the world--what makes her unique.
6. Break the touch barrier. There are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she's stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your elbow so she can link arms with you as you walk together. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. Rub her hands when they're cold. These are all polite ways to get a little closer without being creepy. Still, if you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she'll probably enjoy the affection.
7. Compliment her. If you really like this girl, you probably appreciate a lot of things about her. Why not let her know? If anything is different or new (her hairstyle, nail polish color, shirt), make note of it. The more unique the compliment, the better received it will be, unless she's shallow. Most girls like being complimented on something that makes them distinct, not something that plenty of other girls have. If you compliment her appearance, try to be original. Better yet, compliment her personality or skills.
8. Make her laugh. Telling jokes or funny stories is the classic way to make a person laugh, but not the only one. Find out which are her favorite comedians, funny movies, or sitcoms. Watch them with her. Be bold and think of some antics that'll make her laugh. Tell her to dare you to do something, then do it (as long as it's not dangerous or illegal, of course).
9. Ask her out. Invite her to go somewhere or do something with you--make sure it's something that you're both interested in. If you want, show her your world. Bring her somewhere that you feel comfortable and preferably, where you have or do something that you're proud of. Or, express interest in seeing her world. Is she a musician? Ask if you can see her perform. Is she a mathematician? Ask to read her report or thesis. Or, just go out for lunch or a cup of coffee and get to know her better.
Im sure u will find true love!
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Here's what i think i think that you should be yourself and go up to a girl and say ';hi'; there's someone who's out there who likes you but you don't know it.
I thought that nobody likes me since I'm not a pretty girly girl type but this guy likes me and i didn't have to try to be someone els I was myself and he liked me for it.
There is someone out there who likes you but you don't know that and just be yourself and when the right time comes she be there.
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They usually will appear out of nowhere and you'll be fine when the time is right. Your 15 and I'm 18 and I still don't have one. Take it easy and you'll be fine.
aww.. that's cute, but just keep being nice. most girls only judge on looks but that's not all they should judge on personality should be like 90% and looks like 10%. but just keep being nice and the girl that god has prepared for you will come along in life and you'll find '; the one '; good luck. =]
I need some relationship advice?
me and my gf are both 16. we have been going out for 5 months now. in the beginning it was awesome, we talked on the phone 24/7 and all nite long and when we wernt talking we were talking on aim and when we. we would also hang out at least 5 times a week. but now it seems that we've just lost our spark. we only talk online and thats sometimes and almost never hang out. i feel like im losing her and i need help. anyone have any advice?I need some relationship advice?
this is a normal phase in most relationships. ive been through it plenty of times, the beginning of any relationship ';honeymoon phase'; is full of mystery, you both are trying to get to really know the other person. after the ';honeymoon'; it kinda calms down. typicaly in the beginning guys pull out all the stops, (suprises, flowers, dates....) the best thing to do is let her have some space to go out with her friends, but just because you 2 are comfortable together, dont let that stop you from being the guy she fell for, remind her that you are the same guy she fell for, just because you already have her make her feel special and suprise her, the same way you would if you 2 were just starting a relationship. keep it interesting, let her know u still care about her, and if she wants to go off with her friends, let her know you trust her, and the next time you know she is home and doesnt have plans, surpise her, show up with her favorite movie or food or something and have a movie night, then when you get a chance let her know how you feel, and try to get her views on everything... good luckI need some relationship advice?
You might not want to hear this, but love tends to... die sometimes. It just happens, and there's really nothing you can do about it. But stopping it before both of you end up sinking further is probably a good idea, Jesse.
=( Good luck!
You are spending way to much time together, back off from each other a little, with out braking it off completely, and remember some times things are better when you do not have them around all the time!
Why not just talk to her?
If it's time to let go, u hv to. No point holding on something that is not yours anymore.
I'm not gonna blow you full of sunshine. You're sixteen. It's only been five months and it sounds as though the fire of your relationship is already dwindling to an ember, on at least your girlfriends part. While your feelings were real. You're by no means ready for a lasting committed relationship. At five months many relationships are just beginning to take off and burn sweetly, yours on the other hand is merely flickering. Can a high school sweetheart be your life long partner? It happens, And I have known a few couples well into their fifties that began as teenage sweethearts. But most of the time they're simply just a passing faze in life. I think more importantly you should put energy into enjoying being a teen. experience all the fun, ';safe fun'; that is while you can. And put most of your energy into things like school. So when the time comes in your adult years you're ready for a long term committed relationship.makeup look
this is a normal phase in most relationships. ive been through it plenty of times, the beginning of any relationship ';honeymoon phase'; is full of mystery, you both are trying to get to really know the other person. after the ';honeymoon'; it kinda calms down. typicaly in the beginning guys pull out all the stops, (suprises, flowers, dates....) the best thing to do is let her have some space to go out with her friends, but just because you 2 are comfortable together, dont let that stop you from being the guy she fell for, remind her that you are the same guy she fell for, just because you already have her make her feel special and suprise her, the same way you would if you 2 were just starting a relationship. keep it interesting, let her know u still care about her, and if she wants to go off with her friends, let her know you trust her, and the next time you know she is home and doesnt have plans, surpise her, show up with her favorite movie or food or something and have a movie night, then when you get a chance let her know how you feel, and try to get her views on everything... good luckI need some relationship advice?
You might not want to hear this, but love tends to... die sometimes. It just happens, and there's really nothing you can do about it. But stopping it before both of you end up sinking further is probably a good idea, Jesse.
=( Good luck!
You are spending way to much time together, back off from each other a little, with out braking it off completely, and remember some times things are better when you do not have them around all the time!
Why not just talk to her?
If it's time to let go, u hv to. No point holding on something that is not yours anymore.
I'm not gonna blow you full of sunshine. You're sixteen. It's only been five months and it sounds as though the fire of your relationship is already dwindling to an ember, on at least your girlfriends part. While your feelings were real. You're by no means ready for a lasting committed relationship. At five months many relationships are just beginning to take off and burn sweetly, yours on the other hand is merely flickering. Can a high school sweetheart be your life long partner? It happens, And I have known a few couples well into their fifties that began as teenage sweethearts. But most of the time they're simply just a passing faze in life. I think more importantly you should put energy into enjoying being a teen. experience all the fun, ';safe fun'; that is while you can. And put most of your energy into things like school. So when the time comes in your adult years you're ready for a long term committed relationship.
Relationship advice please? ?
i am in love with my girlfriend. deeply. i think about her constantly. the only thing is that she never gives me compliments anymore or tells me anything nice about me. i tell her things a lot. it starts to make me feel a little insecure especially since i envy her in certain ways. she intimidates me and sometimes i feel i don't deserve her but at the same time i feel i can't live without her. any advice/input? you can probably come to some psychological conclusions from this also and feel free to let me know those too. thank you for those who will answer this.Relationship advice please? ?
You are insecure,do somethings that make you proud of yourself.
You deserve her if you are good to her.
Build up your own confidence.Nobody wants to be the cheerleader all the time.
what are you good at what do you like to do. think of things that are positive and do them.
Hold yourself with pride.Give her pride in you.step up to the plate.Relationship advice please? ?
Look, I honestly don't think you have anything to worry about.
I am sure if your girlfriend wasn't feeling the same way for you she would have said something or made it more clear in other ways.
Perhaps you should talk to her about it and see what she says?
Maybe she hasn't been giving you so many compliments as she use to because she thinks you know how much she likes you already?
There are lots of reasons why she may be a little stand offish lately.
I don't think you should stress about it too much and just take everything as it comes.
Hope this helped you :)
You are insecure,do somethings that make you proud of yourself.
You deserve her if you are good to her.
Build up your own confidence.Nobody wants to be the cheerleader all the time.
what are you good at what do you like to do. think of things that are positive and do them.
Hold yourself with pride.Give her pride in you.step up to the plate.Relationship advice please? ?
Look, I honestly don't think you have anything to worry about.
I am sure if your girlfriend wasn't feeling the same way for you she would have said something or made it more clear in other ways.
Perhaps you should talk to her about it and see what she says?
Maybe she hasn't been giving you so many compliments as she use to because she thinks you know how much she likes you already?
There are lots of reasons why she may be a little stand offish lately.
I don't think you should stress about it too much and just take everything as it comes.
Hope this helped you :)
Relationship Advice Please?
Me and my girlfriend broke up 4 days ago and we have been together for 12 months and were both in are 20s, we both love each other very much and she told me that she can see herself marrying me and I'm everything in a guy she would want. she told me that she needs to see if this is real. 3 days past without contact with her and I said that I wanted her back but then she says '; I know babe there's no denying that. you just gotta let me figure myself out right now, just know that your all i think about, I know this is confusing but I love you for understanding';.
What does this mean? Do I have a chance to be with her again?Relationship Advice Please?
If she asked for some space you really need to give her some time to figure out where she's going and what she wants at this point in her life. The good thing is that she's already told you that she can see herself marrying you so chances are she will eventually come around. Absence makes the heart grow fonder so give her some space and time and if you are meant to be together things will work out.Relationship Advice Please?
It sounds like she is conflicted about something but not that it is necessarily you. It might be a fear of commitment or a fear of being hurt that she feels she needs to work through alone. give her the space she has asked for but not for too long. I would draw the line at about two weeks. Beyond that and this was just a nice way of blowing you off.
yes you definitely do have a chance with her, he just have to keep your distance. Your girlfriend obviously needs some space to understand what she really wants. The fact that she said your the only thing i think about means that she really wants to be with you. Just give it some time and things are sure to work out. Hope this helps! =]
she just needs space to figure out what she wants and if your really the guy for her,, give her time and she'll come to you, dont be pushy and give her her space, she will call you wen shes ready to let you kno what it is that she wants
good luck =)
I dont know she might need space and she really dont know what to do. Or she is leaving herself opne to explor other things and she felt breaking up with you is best. That would just say she wants you at arms reach but she wants to explore other options while your waiting.
You have to give her space. If she truely loves you she will come back to you. Dont smother her.
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She probably really does need time to think about her future with you, give her her space and she will come around:)
Good Luck
so, when you marry and she needs space and leaves what will you think???%26gt; you dont work things out separate
You have a chance if you dont push...she needs to breath...let her
HONESTLY! I have never heard of something like this b4. You have to ask her what is the purpose of you guys breaking up? That's Number 1!!!!! If she wasn't sure about the relationship why did she tell you she see's herself marrying you? I personally think there is something weird going on. Does she want to feel what the single life is by exploring what's out there? That's not fair to you!!!! Unless you do the same? To me she is leaving you for second best. If she don't find what she likes out there she'll come back! If she does like what she finds out there she don't need you! She knows you want her back and that's another reason why she can do this to you! This is just my opinion.... No one can really answer this question seriously! We don't know the true reason why she is doing this to you. Only she does. It's up to you if you agree with this relationship!
What does this mean? Do I have a chance to be with her again?Relationship Advice Please?
If she asked for some space you really need to give her some time to figure out where she's going and what she wants at this point in her life. The good thing is that she's already told you that she can see herself marrying you so chances are she will eventually come around. Absence makes the heart grow fonder so give her some space and time and if you are meant to be together things will work out.Relationship Advice Please?
It sounds like she is conflicted about something but not that it is necessarily you. It might be a fear of commitment or a fear of being hurt that she feels she needs to work through alone. give her the space she has asked for but not for too long. I would draw the line at about two weeks. Beyond that and this was just a nice way of blowing you off.
yes you definitely do have a chance with her, he just have to keep your distance. Your girlfriend obviously needs some space to understand what she really wants. The fact that she said your the only thing i think about means that she really wants to be with you. Just give it some time and things are sure to work out. Hope this helps! =]
she just needs space to figure out what she wants and if your really the guy for her,, give her time and she'll come to you, dont be pushy and give her her space, she will call you wen shes ready to let you kno what it is that she wants
good luck =)
I dont know she might need space and she really dont know what to do. Or she is leaving herself opne to explor other things and she felt breaking up with you is best. That would just say she wants you at arms reach but she wants to explore other options while your waiting.
You have to give her space. If she truely loves you she will come back to you. Dont smother her.
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She probably really does need time to think about her future with you, give her her space and she will come around:)
Good Luck
so, when you marry and she needs space and leaves what will you think???%26gt; you dont work things out separate
You have a chance if you dont push...she needs to breath...let her
HONESTLY! I have never heard of something like this b4. You have to ask her what is the purpose of you guys breaking up? That's Number 1!!!!! If she wasn't sure about the relationship why did she tell you she see's herself marrying you? I personally think there is something weird going on. Does she want to feel what the single life is by exploring what's out there? That's not fair to you!!!! Unless you do the same? To me she is leaving you for second best. If she don't find what she likes out there she'll come back! If she does like what she finds out there she don't need you! She knows you want her back and that's another reason why she can do this to you! This is just my opinion.... No one can really answer this question seriously! We don't know the true reason why she is doing this to you. Only she does. It's up to you if you agree with this relationship!
Relationship advice, please?
well this boy lets call him Bob, and i have been through a lot. I really loved him and he broke my heart. After being depressed for 3 months i started dating his best friend, who we are gunna call Tim. Tim and i have been dating for 5 months and i really do love him. But i am not over Bob and Bob and i are really close friends. Well now Bob is asking for me back, and he is very sincere. I still love Bob but i cant bring myself to hurt Tim, who i also love. What should i do? i cant hurt either one of them.. i love them both.. a lot. But i kinda have more of a background with Bob. PLEASE HELP ;'[ (i am 14) i attend LMS (lansing middle school)Relationship advice, please?
Honestly, i don't think you are in a good position to date either of them right now. I'm not going to tell you what to do, but worked for me in the past when i was in love with two women I told both that i needed a break for a while to think about things. Things became very clear after a while and i made a great decision. Good luck
Honestly, i don't think you are in a good position to date either of them right now. I'm not going to tell you what to do, but worked for me in the past when i was in love with two women I told both that i needed a break for a while to think about things. Things became very clear after a while and i made a great decision. Good luck
Relationship advice please.?
Ok so I am a 20 year old FTM and for the past 2 years have been dating this girl. Everytime we brake up it is always ';my fault'; Once I bought a pack of chew to try and she got all pissed off that I didn't ask her. Then she dumped me to get back with her ex. And one night we got drunk at her cousins house and I was upstairs chatting with one of her cousins she hates and she got all pissed off and decided to beat me up. When we first got together she would invite my ex who i hated to spend the night with her. Pretty much the only time she talks to me is when she wants me to get her drugs. It broke my heart that I was raped and she didn't call me for a month to see if i was ok. Now she is dating one of my friends and never talks to me unless she wants me to get her drugs. I love her with everything I have in me and do and get her everything she wants but the signs show she never loved me. I am tryin to get clean n she has the nerve to ask to get her drugs. what should i do?Relationship advice please.?
First.....good for you working on being clean!!! Don't be her drug dealer......take care of you and let this one go. Work on a positive life for yourself and your life will become better and you will meet people who are the type who will give to you what you give to them!!! Believe you deserve an amazing person in your life and it will happen!!!Relationship advice please.?
do what's best for you. because if you know whats best for you then you'll be able to tell her whats best for her. set yourself straight first. x]
OMG ! get that ***** told mate. shes using you, what you have to do is get some really fit lass and rub it in her druggy **** bag face that u can do better than her, OR u can do the tactic which my mate always does, completely ignore her, she wont understand why ur ignoring her and become interested in trying to get back on ur good side, then if she ever asks u out again, no matter how much u like her say no. then walk away with the biggest grin ever ;)
dude ol i cat tel u is, 4get bout her lose her numbers %26amp; tel her to get da **** outta yo lyf cuz u don need a person lyk her
Dude,its not the end of the world, she clearly uses you and treats you like ****. In my past, I did not believe that there is a person meant for each of us, I was always disappointes with romance or the likes, but then came the girl of my life, it really was coincidental that we have met, Im not saying that we may have the same fate, but man if you can't find the woman for you, let her find you instead.
Im sure you care alot about this girl.. But sometimes u have 2 face tha fact that some people just dont give a ****.. I say live ur life and forget her becuz she aint worth all this heart break
cut her out of ur life...she seems like nothing but trouble
First.....good for you working on being clean!!! Don't be her drug dealer......take care of you and let this one go. Work on a positive life for yourself and your life will become better and you will meet people who are the type who will give to you what you give to them!!! Believe you deserve an amazing person in your life and it will happen!!!Relationship advice please.?
do what's best for you. because if you know whats best for you then you'll be able to tell her whats best for her. set yourself straight first. x]
OMG ! get that ***** told mate. shes using you, what you have to do is get some really fit lass and rub it in her druggy **** bag face that u can do better than her, OR u can do the tactic which my mate always does, completely ignore her, she wont understand why ur ignoring her and become interested in trying to get back on ur good side, then if she ever asks u out again, no matter how much u like her say no. then walk away with the biggest grin ever ;)
dude ol i cat tel u is, 4get bout her lose her numbers %26amp; tel her to get da **** outta yo lyf cuz u don need a person lyk her
Dude,its not the end of the world, she clearly uses you and treats you like ****. In my past, I did not believe that there is a person meant for each of us, I was always disappointes with romance or the likes, but then came the girl of my life, it really was coincidental that we have met, Im not saying that we may have the same fate, but man if you can't find the woman for you, let her find you instead.
Im sure you care alot about this girl.. But sometimes u have 2 face tha fact that some people just dont give a ****.. I say live ur life and forget her becuz she aint worth all this heart break
cut her out of ur life...she seems like nothing but trouble
Relationship Advice Needed.?
Ok here is my situation. I have been with Jen for a little over 4 years now and engaged for two. She just told me last night that we need to break up. The reason for the breakup is me. I am a smoker and she WILL NOT be with a smoker. She has told me this from day 1 and I was completely aware of how she felt. I told her that I would quit. I did fairly well the first time I quit but failed and started to smoke again. She then found an ashtray in my apartment and was going to break up with me this was about a year an a half into the relationship. She gave me another chance. I did quit however started smoking once again. I was then caught again on 2 more occasions with I gave her my word that it was the last time. Well it wasn't I started again. Let me say that I tried SO hard and somehow always failed. As you can guess she has noticed that I have been smoking again lately and as left me this time. She says that she can't trust me, has lost respect for me, and is no longer attracted to me. Here is the problem I Love this woman more that anything in the world and would do anything for her. I KNOW that i will never smoke again. This has been a life altering experience for me. I want this woman in my life so bad. I WILL NOT let myself go back. She however does not believe me and I honestly cannot blame her. She has agreed to maybe try and work things out. We are going to see each other on mondays for dinner and go to a counseler in 3 weeks. We are supose to go to hawaii on the 26th of September for her birthday so it gives us a month. Does anybody have any advice for me? Did I really blow it? Can this relationship be saved? She does say that she still loves me. Any advice will be appreceated.Relationship Advice Needed.?
sounds like your smoking might just be her out
shes not attracted to you,cant trust you,and has no respect for you
why b/c your addicted to something hard to quit?
she should be supportive in your efforts and less criticalRelationship Advice Needed.?
Well if you really love her you will STOP even tough is hard for you but I think you should demonstrate her that your honest this time and that you will stop smoking just go to some classes.
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trust me i get all my answers from her, she's never turned me down!
Go to your doctor and tell them you need to quit.. they will help you with that.
Well just think about it. If she really loved you would she really care if you smoked or not? If I was her I really wouldn't care but then maybe there is a story behind this all, maybe she has lost someone because of this habit. I smoke as well and I know how hard it is to give so I know exactly how you feel, specially when your friend smoke and you're on a night out. Maybe the reason why she doesn't want you to smoke is because she doesn't want you dead in a few years time as you are engaged and as she must love you she doesn't wanna lose you and I kind of know what she feels like. But if you really want this girl to be yours then regain her trust, really make her believe that you won't do it again.
If she's breaking up with yo cause you smoke, then you need to re-evaluate your relationship hardcore. There are things that are going to come up in the future that are going to make this ';smoking'; episode pale in comparison and if she can't handle that, you are in some deep doo doo. You sound more like you are obsessed and that she's manipulative. YES smoking is bad, but she obviously knew you smoked and that you would have a problem with it. Someone who truly loves you will help you, not threaten you. She sounds like a manipulative, potentially abusive ***** to me. However, if you love that, who can say its wrong? But, you need to love yourself first, which it does not sound like you do. Good Luck.
Dude, there is no other way but to stick to your word. If you say that you're going to quit smoking, then quit smoking. That's the only way you'll get your lady-love back.
If you really find it hard quitting smoking, then I suggest you seek medical help. Go to your doctor and tell him your problem about smoking. I'm sure your doctor will give you something --- maybe a nicotine patch, or some tablets or whatever.
It's not enough that you KNOW that you won't smoke again. You have to make an effort --- maybe an extraordinary one --- to keep true to your word.
You can still save the relationship. She still loves you and that's a very bright spot, man. Go get her again and go get her for good!
Good luck! :-)
This is retarded. I was a smoker and my relationship was never in danger because of it. I took those Chantix pills, and then after two weeks I guess they are saying you could go blind, skin scarring, ect. So I quit taking them and don't have the desire to smoke, but even if I started back up my bf would still love me for it. I think she is over reacting. You smoked when she met you right? then what's the big deal. You quit when you are ready.
sounds like your smoking might just be her out
shes not attracted to you,cant trust you,and has no respect for you
why b/c your addicted to something hard to quit?
she should be supportive in your efforts and less criticalRelationship Advice Needed.?
Well if you really love her you will STOP even tough is hard for you but I think you should demonstrate her that your honest this time and that you will stop smoking just go to some classes.
http://myspace.com/amazingadvicegiver
trust me i get all my answers from her, she's never turned me down!
Go to your doctor and tell them you need to quit.. they will help you with that.
Well just think about it. If she really loved you would she really care if you smoked or not? If I was her I really wouldn't care but then maybe there is a story behind this all, maybe she has lost someone because of this habit. I smoke as well and I know how hard it is to give so I know exactly how you feel, specially when your friend smoke and you're on a night out. Maybe the reason why she doesn't want you to smoke is because she doesn't want you dead in a few years time as you are engaged and as she must love you she doesn't wanna lose you and I kind of know what she feels like. But if you really want this girl to be yours then regain her trust, really make her believe that you won't do it again.
If she's breaking up with yo cause you smoke, then you need to re-evaluate your relationship hardcore. There are things that are going to come up in the future that are going to make this ';smoking'; episode pale in comparison and if she can't handle that, you are in some deep doo doo. You sound more like you are obsessed and that she's manipulative. YES smoking is bad, but she obviously knew you smoked and that you would have a problem with it. Someone who truly loves you will help you, not threaten you. She sounds like a manipulative, potentially abusive ***** to me. However, if you love that, who can say its wrong? But, you need to love yourself first, which it does not sound like you do. Good Luck.
Dude, there is no other way but to stick to your word. If you say that you're going to quit smoking, then quit smoking. That's the only way you'll get your lady-love back.
If you really find it hard quitting smoking, then I suggest you seek medical help. Go to your doctor and tell him your problem about smoking. I'm sure your doctor will give you something --- maybe a nicotine patch, or some tablets or whatever.
It's not enough that you KNOW that you won't smoke again. You have to make an effort --- maybe an extraordinary one --- to keep true to your word.
You can still save the relationship. She still loves you and that's a very bright spot, man. Go get her again and go get her for good!
Good luck! :-)
This is retarded. I was a smoker and my relationship was never in danger because of it. I took those Chantix pills, and then after two weeks I guess they are saying you could go blind, skin scarring, ect. So I quit taking them and don't have the desire to smoke, but even if I started back up my bf would still love me for it. I think she is over reacting. You smoked when she met you right? then what's the big deal. You quit when you are ready.
Relationship Advice.PLS READ?
I'm been involved with two girls for three years now, I know its wrong but i love them both, i'm 24 now and all i think about is settling down with one, my friend told me to compare them side to side and their both pretty and it seems to be even with them. Even my friend's told me that choosing between them is so hard. Others implied i should stay with the one that has my initials tatoo'd on her.I Know I got myself into this mess and i never thought this kind of situation would suck. Just graduated college and starting my career and living like this is not an option for me anymore, should I just leave them both and start over, because thats the concusion i'm leaning tords.Relationship Advice.PLS READ?
First of all they should both dump you. But if you have to choose then choose the one that brings you the most joy and the least trouble. The one who makes your heart sing the most. The one who you think about when you first wake up in the morning. The one who when something happens to you, you think about telling first. The one who you have fun with and love being around. Don't go by looks. Don't go by what your friends says. Go by what your heart says. Also the one who has your same beliefs. The one who handles money and time the same as you do.Relationship Advice.PLS READ?
Put it this way.. if one knew about the other.. would they stay with you? Because, sooner or later.. one is going to find out. It may not even be until you marry her.. and she finds out in 10 years. This is about the saddest question I have ever read. Seriously.. you are cheating on two girls and you want people on the internet to determine who to become faithful to? Pathetic.
While that might get you out of the situation, how fair would it be to them? Does one know about the other? If not, then you are cheating on them both. Come clean with them. If they dump you, then you are off the hook. If one dumps you, then you have the other one left. Solved.
I hope you feel terrible about doing this. And you're trying to decide between them just based on their looks? Dump them both and tell them that you don't deserve them because you are a filthy cheater.makeup look
First of all they should both dump you. But if you have to choose then choose the one that brings you the most joy and the least trouble. The one who makes your heart sing the most. The one who you think about when you first wake up in the morning. The one who when something happens to you, you think about telling first. The one who you have fun with and love being around. Don't go by looks. Don't go by what your friends says. Go by what your heart says. Also the one who has your same beliefs. The one who handles money and time the same as you do.Relationship Advice.PLS READ?
Put it this way.. if one knew about the other.. would they stay with you? Because, sooner or later.. one is going to find out. It may not even be until you marry her.. and she finds out in 10 years. This is about the saddest question I have ever read. Seriously.. you are cheating on two girls and you want people on the internet to determine who to become faithful to? Pathetic.
While that might get you out of the situation, how fair would it be to them? Does one know about the other? If not, then you are cheating on them both. Come clean with them. If they dump you, then you are off the hook. If one dumps you, then you have the other one left. Solved.
I hope you feel terrible about doing this. And you're trying to decide between them just based on their looks? Dump them both and tell them that you don't deserve them because you are a filthy cheater.
Relationship Advice Needed....Please Read! Thanks.?
Ok so I'm 16 (17 on Sat.) and last week I went on vacation to Panama City Beach, FL. While I was there I met a guy. He's 15 (16 in Dec.) and he lives in Conyers, GA. About 1hr. 30min. away from me (Murrayville, GA). Anyway while we were there we hit it off pretty well. Since we've been home we've talked everyday and a couple of nights ago he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes. We are planning on hanging out this weekend and as much as we can, but I'm not sure that this relationship could ever really go anywhere. I see him more as just a boyfriend than someone I could spend my life with. So I guess what I'm asking is I'm not sure this is worth the effort we are both putting into it. But if it was meant to be I don't want to just give up because of distance becasue we both really care for each other and our feelings keep getting stronger. Any suggestions?Relationship Advice Needed....Please Read! Thanks.?
Be honest - try it for a while.
Like you said - if it is meant to be - it will happen.
But, hey - you might enjoy it this way, so relax and take things as they come.
Do talk with each other about this though - and don`t lie - be honest and talk about your doubts - and ask his idea about it.
Enjoy, and good luck
Be honest - try it for a while.
Like you said - if it is meant to be - it will happen.
But, hey - you might enjoy it this way, so relax and take things as they come.
Do talk with each other about this though - and don`t lie - be honest and talk about your doubts - and ask his idea about it.
Enjoy, and good luck
Relationship advice? Did I make the right choice or no?
My first relationship was on Februrary 4th 2006. It lasted a year and seven months, we were still messing but he was cheating on me so whatever, about a month after we broke up and while we were still messing, I met another guy who I fell in love with and he's so great. We've been going on for 1 year and 2 months. I'm 16 years old. Yeah, I love him and I really do, and I care about him SO much, but I don't know if I want to marry him. I wouldn't mind it when I get older, but for now I wanna have fun. It's my third year of high school and I haven't been single once. No I don't wanna mess around with guys, but I wanna have my fun, you know?
So I started talking to this guy who likes me. For two days now. He brings this huge crush-y feeling back to me. I miss that feeling. It's nice. I don't LIKE him, but I have a crush on him.
This was the cherry to the top of my decision.
I asked my boyfriend for a break.
He's sensitive so he started crying and didn't want it and whatever. He's really stressed out but so am I. I feel like I need this, but I don't want to break up with him, I just need to RELAX. Did I make the right choice? What Should I do? Help! My boyfriend is so sad :(Relationship advice? Did I make the right choice or no?
It sounds like your boyfriend really does love you from my personal view. There is no right or wrong choice. You need to follow your heart. The question you need to ask yourself is do you love your boyfriend? Because if you do, you don't need to leave him for someone you like. Love is a stronger emotion than like.
Don't listen to these people who say you don't know what love is till you are older. Everyone can experience love at a young age. I found love when I was 14 and I got married at 15. Everyone is different when it comes to love.
My main advice for you is if you love your boyfriend, You should not call a break because someone guy gave you a feeling that you liked. Its just a minor crush. Never leave the one you love for someone you ';think'; you like. You can never be sure if you like them or not. It can just be your head telling you that you like them. You need to follow your heart because it will NEVER lead you in the wrong directionRelationship advice? Did I make the right choice or no?
If you didn't want to be with your boyfriend, or felt like you *might* have the urge to cheat on him, then you did the best thing by dumping him. But if you're just messing with his mind... then that's not right.
Ultimately, you're only 16! You're living life and learning more about what you want in a guy and what makes you happy. Have fun and relax! Just like you said.
Figure stuff out. Who knows, maybe you'll end up back with him later in life. Maybe throughout this time you'll see how much you mean to him and later on you're willing to give it a second go. Just don't get weird on commitment issues I know a friend who may be ruined for life because of it
You made the right decision as long as he understands what you are going through. In the end it's for the best for your relationship :)
at 16 you don't know what love is, try like 20- 25
The right choice is only what feels best to you. But I believe that if you explained to your boyfriend why you wanted the break truthfully and completely, then you did the right thing; not that you did something wrong, feelings are feelings, but if your feeling towards boy #2 grew you could get yourself in some serious trouble. being truthful is always the best way to act towards almost every situation.
But about your marital thoughts, your only 16, you don't need to be thinking about marriage yet.
Live and let live, no worries :)
If your that happy with him i dont understand why you broke up with him, why cant you have ';your fun'; and be with him at the same time. Unless by ';your fun'; you do mean be with other guys. You can be in a relationship and have fun too. If you love him, be with him, and be truthful with him, tell him you want to be with him but you want to go out with your girls too, and he needs to trust you and i hope that you wouldnt do something to hurt him, If you think you might than you shouldnt be with him.
If you really LOVE your boyfriend a break wouldn't be ok. How would you like it if he ';loved you'; and then asked you for a break to mess around then get back together, thats like putting your boyfriend on lay a way.
I've been in the same type of stuff. Look at it though, if you love him why do you want a break...just to have ';fun'; I mean do you want to put him through that emotional roller coaster? If you LOVE him stay with him, if you don't break up and mess around.
i think u did the right thing
u r young and have sooo much time in front of you
lol
the funny thing is i am also 16
and am thinking about all the same things with my bf right now
i know u care A LOT about your bf but sometimes u need a break to put everything into perspective and someday he will understand that
just tell him u kno
its not lke we broke up
i just need some space to be me right now!!!
u kno??
well i hope i helped!!!!
=D
I totally agree with you Marley...From ages 16-20 a person learns a whole lot about them selves and life in general. I'm sure you care about him, but trust me your not in love. Someday when your older you'll understand. Honestly you are young and you should have fun, but stop making all of this relationship stuff to serious. Don't waste your time in a realtionship until you older.
i had a really similar problem in the summer,
and yeah i do think you made the right choice, like if you feel that you just want to have fun for a bit and not be in such a serious relationship maybe all you need is a break!
don't break up with him yet tho, be 100 % sure that you dont want him first then decide,
you don't want to end something so great for something that might not even work out for you.
and tell your boyfriend how you're feeling.. i wouldn't really bring up the crush tho, lol
sorry if that wasn't much help..
but goodluck with that :)
weel i no wat ur going thru but you shouldnt think about if ur gonne marry the guy youre only 16 live in the moment cuz in th elong run it will pay off if you rlly have a crush on this guy try to see if things would be better with him then with your current boyfriend , even tho ur bf is reallly sad its good to sometomes give each other some space just talk to him and tell him dat its not dat you dont feel the same way its just dat you need alil space to think things thru.
So I started talking to this guy who likes me. For two days now. He brings this huge crush-y feeling back to me. I miss that feeling. It's nice. I don't LIKE him, but I have a crush on him.
This was the cherry to the top of my decision.
I asked my boyfriend for a break.
He's sensitive so he started crying and didn't want it and whatever. He's really stressed out but so am I. I feel like I need this, but I don't want to break up with him, I just need to RELAX. Did I make the right choice? What Should I do? Help! My boyfriend is so sad :(Relationship advice? Did I make the right choice or no?
It sounds like your boyfriend really does love you from my personal view. There is no right or wrong choice. You need to follow your heart. The question you need to ask yourself is do you love your boyfriend? Because if you do, you don't need to leave him for someone you like. Love is a stronger emotion than like.
Don't listen to these people who say you don't know what love is till you are older. Everyone can experience love at a young age. I found love when I was 14 and I got married at 15. Everyone is different when it comes to love.
My main advice for you is if you love your boyfriend, You should not call a break because someone guy gave you a feeling that you liked. Its just a minor crush. Never leave the one you love for someone you ';think'; you like. You can never be sure if you like them or not. It can just be your head telling you that you like them. You need to follow your heart because it will NEVER lead you in the wrong directionRelationship advice? Did I make the right choice or no?
If you didn't want to be with your boyfriend, or felt like you *might* have the urge to cheat on him, then you did the best thing by dumping him. But if you're just messing with his mind... then that's not right.
Ultimately, you're only 16! You're living life and learning more about what you want in a guy and what makes you happy. Have fun and relax! Just like you said.
Figure stuff out. Who knows, maybe you'll end up back with him later in life. Maybe throughout this time you'll see how much you mean to him and later on you're willing to give it a second go. Just don't get weird on commitment issues I know a friend who may be ruined for life because of it
You made the right decision as long as he understands what you are going through. In the end it's for the best for your relationship :)
at 16 you don't know what love is, try like 20- 25
The right choice is only what feels best to you. But I believe that if you explained to your boyfriend why you wanted the break truthfully and completely, then you did the right thing; not that you did something wrong, feelings are feelings, but if your feeling towards boy #2 grew you could get yourself in some serious trouble. being truthful is always the best way to act towards almost every situation.
But about your marital thoughts, your only 16, you don't need to be thinking about marriage yet.
Live and let live, no worries :)
If your that happy with him i dont understand why you broke up with him, why cant you have ';your fun'; and be with him at the same time. Unless by ';your fun'; you do mean be with other guys. You can be in a relationship and have fun too. If you love him, be with him, and be truthful with him, tell him you want to be with him but you want to go out with your girls too, and he needs to trust you and i hope that you wouldnt do something to hurt him, If you think you might than you shouldnt be with him.
If you really LOVE your boyfriend a break wouldn't be ok. How would you like it if he ';loved you'; and then asked you for a break to mess around then get back together, thats like putting your boyfriend on lay a way.
I've been in the same type of stuff. Look at it though, if you love him why do you want a break...just to have ';fun'; I mean do you want to put him through that emotional roller coaster? If you LOVE him stay with him, if you don't break up and mess around.
i think u did the right thing
u r young and have sooo much time in front of you
lol
the funny thing is i am also 16
and am thinking about all the same things with my bf right now
i know u care A LOT about your bf but sometimes u need a break to put everything into perspective and someday he will understand that
just tell him u kno
its not lke we broke up
i just need some space to be me right now!!!
u kno??
well i hope i helped!!!!
=D
I totally agree with you Marley...From ages 16-20 a person learns a whole lot about them selves and life in general. I'm sure you care about him, but trust me your not in love. Someday when your older you'll understand. Honestly you are young and you should have fun, but stop making all of this relationship stuff to serious. Don't waste your time in a realtionship until you older.
i had a really similar problem in the summer,
and yeah i do think you made the right choice, like if you feel that you just want to have fun for a bit and not be in such a serious relationship maybe all you need is a break!
don't break up with him yet tho, be 100 % sure that you dont want him first then decide,
you don't want to end something so great for something that might not even work out for you.
and tell your boyfriend how you're feeling.. i wouldn't really bring up the crush tho, lol
sorry if that wasn't much help..
but goodluck with that :)
weel i no wat ur going thru but you shouldnt think about if ur gonne marry the guy youre only 16 live in the moment cuz in th elong run it will pay off if you rlly have a crush on this guy try to see if things would be better with him then with your current boyfriend , even tho ur bf is reallly sad its good to sometomes give each other some space just talk to him and tell him dat its not dat you dont feel the same way its just dat you need alil space to think things thru.
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