Relationship advice needed?

HOW CAN I MAKE IT WORK? Me and my ex Alan split up after over a year together. We are now thinking about getting back together around 3 months since we split. How can i make our relationship work because we keep arguing about how we acted like in the past and the other people we had been with. It also doesn't help with friends sticking their noses into our Business. He keeps saying im acting to serious for him, when all that i am wanting to do is hang out or when i ring him. Also Alan has got a new job working nights which means i wont be able to see him. And i may be moving away but not to far away only say 40 Min's from where he lives but hes making a big deal out of it and has doubts about whether it will work out. How can me and Alan be happy again and forget the past and get back to the way we used to be and stop stressing?Relationship advice needed?
You should sit down with each other and have a very long conversation about what bothers you both about the past. Find the root of the problem, then go from there. It will take a lot from the both of you. I don't see why he would say you are acting too serious for him. You were together for over a year, so what exactly does he think, that you guys just started dating a week ago?





To me, it sounds like he isn't ready to settle down with anyone. He wants to do whatever, whenever. So that in mind, I would be worried that, if it were me, he would cheat while I was away and moved away. If you two honestly care so deeply about each other, you can make it work.





Maybe he is just making a big deal about the moving away thing because he is going to really miss you and realizes that you won't be able to see each other all the time or it may just be an excuse for him to use. Like, he doesn't wanna date you but doesn't wanna say no because you doesn't want to hurt your feelings. But if you guys are a good couple and the relationship you have is strong, then it can stand this test. You will be able to last even though you two won't see each other all the time. That will only happen if you guys care very deeply about one another.





I am in a long distance relationship right now, and I have been making it work for a very long time. So it is possible. And my relationship is more than 40 minutes apart. Regardless, what you need to do is have a heart to heart conversation. Just sit down and go over everything. Just look at each other the whole time.





So in the end, if you really really care about this guy, then you may be able to make it work. If you don't think you can make this work, then just try to look past it and move on.





If you have any other questions or need any advice, hit me up. I would be more than happy to help.





Best of luck!