Relationship advice: When a girl says things moved faster then she expected? Whats does that mean?

Me and this girl have known eachother for a month and a half. Everything was fine. We just had sex twice which was recent. We went away togther for a weekend and all was good but i noticed something was up. Yesterday she gave me a little attitude and i asked why. She claims that things are going to fast and she didnt expect it. She said she doesnt know what she wants right now, (to be single, what we have or a relationship) She said she wasnt sure if she could do the checking in thing yet that comes with a relationship. But has no issue of doing it if it came to that. She told me it was too fast for her, she said the sex had nothing to do with it. She told me she just needs time to think. Since our talk the phone calls and message have been at a minimum. But she does call me!! I asked her is she wanted to stop talking and she said no but she is not sure of still hanging out cause it may lead me on! How long is enough time, how do i act now? Thoughts?Relationship advice: When a girl says things moved faster then she expected? Whats does that mean?
Maybe she wants to know if your really into her or not. Sounds to me that if she didn't want things to move so fast she wouldn't have slept with you so soon.


I guess im an old fashioned kind of girl? I don't get it either. If she's going to treat you like that then stay away from her until she chases after you!Relationship advice: When a girl says things moved faster then she expected? Whats does that mean?
Just let it ride....


In otherwords quit pushing her if she says she doesn't know than how could she be planning something?


It is up to you to give her time or not.
sounds like a brush off my friend .you end it first !!
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Uh slow it down, give her room to breath. Its not how she saw things when she invisioned this.
wow okay, she's got a lot goin on. If she's still callin you thats a good sign. I would give her some space. dont call her as much and dont hangout for a while, it will def be hard. but it will give her the space and time she needs to fig things out. If she comes running back then she obviously realized that she wants you to be a part of her life. From the sounds of it she doesn't want to lose you she just got wrapped up in something fast, and now she just has to let her brain catch up. Its normal for girls to do this. and if she asks why you backed off tell her the truth. That you were respecting her space cuz you wanna let her fig things out. and that you really care about her, and didnt wanna push her into anything she wasn't ready for. and that when she is ready, to give you a call. Because at the same point you dont wanna be strung along and hurt either. She will respect you for this and realize what a great guy you are for taking her into consideration so much! hope all goes well!
well seeing how u guys had sex twice it seems like things are ging a lil bit fast
OK. Probably she didn't like your sex. Or, maybe, she doesn't know what she wants. Women are like that. Give her some time. I would leave her and do not insist on calling her or seeing her for a while.
It means that she did not expect her actions would precipitate such a rapid response or action.
Some women have high anxiety, meaning that she may feel pressured or rushed by you or the fact that you guys are ';trying'; to date. So simply allow her to truly think ';things'; over. do not rush her to any answer or make her feel uncomfortable in any way. allow her to gradually feel comfortable with you.
prepare yourself for the worst, because its not that she is unsure of what she wants its more of not wanting to hurt your feelings and figuring out a way to let you down easily...she doesn't want to be mean about but she clearly doesn't want a relationship with you..maybe a bc (booty call) every now and then but not a relationship....ask her if she thinks you two should just be friends and hang out every once in awhile, check out the reaction...you'll know for sure what she wants.
My advice would be to give her some space. Don't just ignore her, tell her you are WILLING to give her space and as much time as she needs. I do agree with others that maybe the sex was too far, but only because i have some friends in a similar position and that affected the issue. She is probably denying the fact it's the sex because she is frightened you want the sex and nothing else.


If you need eachother, it will happen, give it forever if you need to, but if you feel attatchment and cant let it go then TELL HER you know how SHE feels, but you are finding it tough not knowing what's going on.


I can't be of much help... maybe you could be friendly with her and one day suprise her... bring her something or tell her a joke. If you make her smile then maybe things'll start up again.





Hope it helped a bit


loraxx
She may have fallen in love with you or she's a bit confused whether to continue with you or not. Give her time to sort things out. How much time? That I'm not sure of. It depends between you two. Good luck!