I have been with a man for a little over a year. He been in prison for 7 yrs so it hard in this MI econmy to find a job right now expecially with a criminal background... Any advice on how to get him a job in the Oakland country MI area???
Like maybe a # or a email address to someone that helps ex-cons get jobs?
THANKS SO MUCH !
Also any advice on if you would stay with a man that cant find a job? i cant afford to support us both... should i wait longer or stop it while i can.Relationship advice?
Employment agencies always have a list of places that accept ex-cons. He could also call the jail and ask if they have any recomendations. They would be happy to help him hearing that he is getting his life together. Also if he has a parol officer, could ask them for advice.Relationship advice?
Well maybe he can work for a landscaper, or in construction, somewhere where they don't really do a background check. It's up to you whether you want to stay with him or not.
I don't live in MI so I can't tell you were you'd go look to find job assistance. I have a lot of friends who served time tho.. but it was here in DC. Women have an easier time finding a job but most of the guys I know who've served time, work construction. I have a friend who had to have his record esponged to get a job- I think it cost him a pretty penny tho. I guess MI doesn't have readjustment programs designed to help cons (especially those on probation) find a job. Does your man have a trade? Most folks that I know who served time, took up a trade while in prison. Unfortunately, your man may have to climb his way up and work a customer service job (like fast food) to get his employment reputation straight. I can't offer any more advice than that.
As far as you staying with him, unless he lied to you about his past and you were unaware that he served time, it would be wrong of you to bail out on him. When you got with him, you got with him, accepting him as he presented himself. However, that doesn't mean you should play the fool. Why are you supporting the both of you?? Does he live with you?? If so, after only a yr of knowing him, that was your mistake right there. You could've gotten into a relationship with him living in a shelter, he doesn't have to live with you for you to show him support. Aside from that, if he's willing to take any job just to have a job- meaning, he'll work McDonalds until something better comes along- he's worth keeping. I don't know what he did to get locked up but anyone can have a setback. It's what you do afterwards that matters. If he has a slacking attitiude where he feels he's too good to do a certain type work, let him go. Because then it'll show that he's not doing what's best for you two as a couple, he's just looking out for his pride. You have nothing to do with that because you did nothing to put him in the predicament he's in.
I've been with my man almost 3yrs now. He served a couple months but it was only a misdemeanor charge, which drops off after 7yrs. When he went to go look for a job, his setback was his employment history. He got a hook up from a family friend making good money and good benefits but it was stressful for him, so he quit. I can pissed off enough to break up because he never considered me in his decision. He depended on me to take up the slack until he found a job. He refused to take a customer service job because he felt that it would mess with his pride. He was out of work for a year and all the while, I paid all the bills and it drained the hell outta me. I told him that if things didn't change we'd have to separate until he got himself together. As a result he started taking temp jobs, however, it wasn't enough to make ends meet, so we still had problems. Just when I thought things would never change and I was so frustrated I started looking around at other apartments, my man got a job- a good job. He took the opportunity and ran with it. He's even thinking about going back to college to finish his degree.
My point in saying all of that is that you have to listen to your heart. If you feel your man is a good man and is capable of more but just down on his luck, the love of a good woman might be enough to bring him around. However, if you feel that your man doesn't care enough to do something better if given the chance, it would be best to leave.
he can find a job no matter what his criminal record is
try the local employment agency
He may want to check with some government plans that will help him get training for something. They may even pay him a bit while he goes to school as well. He can check with his probabtion or parole officer, if he has one, or just go to the nearest county or state office building and ask about training programs for ex-cons. Ask specifically about the Michigan Re-entry Initiative program.
Monday, August 23, 2010
Relationship advice?
been thinking bout my ex, we got on really well and had loads in common but it ended kinda badly, found out he had been lying bout us to his friend that he fancied. apparently he has a new girlfriend but dont know for sure, just wanna text him and see if he wants to be friends. what do ppl think? we didnt go out for long at all and was never even close to serious, never slept together. dont know whether i want him back or just to have as a friend cus we got on so well. help!Relationship advice?
Just drop him a text saying ' Hi, haven't spoke in a while. Just wondering if your ok ? ' Keep it simple and casual and eventually just ask him if he's seeing anyone. Don't sound like desperate to speak to him :) I am the spiritual God :D Hope i helped !Relationship advice?
an ex is an ex for a reason honey.. move on and leave well alone... if he comes to you then yeah its ok but i wouldnt lower myself to text him if he has moved on..
well, i think that texting him to ask is a bad idea. i think you should text him and ask to get a coffee or go to lunch with you to discuss your future relationship with him. it is a LOT better to catch up in person rather than through a text message because you can tell whether or not he's lying. if he has a girlfriend, then you could still be friends but i highly recommend not seeing him too often if he's seeing someone. if you realize you still have romantic feelings for him after hanging out a few times, then talk to him about maybe giving your relationship another go. hope this helps! :]
try friendship first. see if feelings come again.
move on don't bother textin him it a waste of 10p
move on with your own life the same way that he did
and y would you want to be friends with a liar anyway
think yourself lucky u haven't slept with him aswell
let sleeping dogs lie
(forget him and move on)
Well, I'm on the same boat here... I've broken up with this guy, we got along great and I wanted to try and be his friend. But I'm not sure it'll work out or if I'm just kidding myself, because I might have feelings for him...
i think you should leave him alone because to me he was not a good friend
Just drop him a text saying ' Hi, haven't spoke in a while. Just wondering if your ok ? ' Keep it simple and casual and eventually just ask him if he's seeing anyone. Don't sound like desperate to speak to him :) I am the spiritual God :D Hope i helped !Relationship advice?
an ex is an ex for a reason honey.. move on and leave well alone... if he comes to you then yeah its ok but i wouldnt lower myself to text him if he has moved on..
well, i think that texting him to ask is a bad idea. i think you should text him and ask to get a coffee or go to lunch with you to discuss your future relationship with him. it is a LOT better to catch up in person rather than through a text message because you can tell whether or not he's lying. if he has a girlfriend, then you could still be friends but i highly recommend not seeing him too often if he's seeing someone. if you realize you still have romantic feelings for him after hanging out a few times, then talk to him about maybe giving your relationship another go. hope this helps! :]
try friendship first. see if feelings come again.
move on don't bother textin him it a waste of 10p
move on with your own life the same way that he did
and y would you want to be friends with a liar anyway
think yourself lucky u haven't slept with him aswell
let sleeping dogs lie
(forget him and move on)
Well, I'm on the same boat here... I've broken up with this guy, we got along great and I wanted to try and be his friend. But I'm not sure it'll work out or if I'm just kidding myself, because I might have feelings for him...
i think you should leave him alone because to me he was not a good friend
Relationship advice......?
ok im in a serious realtionship with someone and i need advice to make us grow stronger and healther! im very controling and i never want him to leave the house cuz i think he will find someone different, but he promises he wont....i need help on how i can be able to feel comforable with him leaving i trust him but i just dont wannt him to leave me...so plz let me no what i can do.Relationship advice......?
Sounds like you need a little ego boost! Just know that he is with you for a reason! There's obviously something about you that he loves and adores, otherwise he wouldn't waste his time, right? Trust in that and put a little trust in you.
Maybe you need to take part in some of your interests a ltitle more. Take on a hobby or learn something new that you've always wanted to learn. Get out there and meet people yourself. You love your b/f and he loves you, but you both need to be yourselves... individuals. You should each have your own interests and partake in things that make you feel good about yourself. Once you feel good about yourself, you'll have no trouble understanding what your b/f loves so much about you!
Know that you rock! If you didn't, why else would he be with you?Relationship advice......?
You just have to trust him, you have to let go, because he will get resentful after awhile that he cannot be himself. You have no right to contol other people. The more you control him, the more restful and ironically he'll find another woman then. Just chill. If he goes find something to do for your self and don't worry about it. Don't you want to be missed? He can never miss you if you are always there all the time. Don't you want to miss him and have that nice moment when you get to see him again and talk about how your day or evening went? You need to find some other friends or hobbies to occupy your time.
You need to begin having people over for social visits. Get used to seeing him interacting with others. Shake off all those nagging thoughts about his leaving you but focus on one, if you hold him too tight, he'll run away. Check yourself and focus on your good points and realize that he's lucky to have you.
Time for some counseling to dig deeply into the dynamics of why you are controlling.
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Sounds like you need a little ego boost! Just know that he is with you for a reason! There's obviously something about you that he loves and adores, otherwise he wouldn't waste his time, right? Trust in that and put a little trust in you.
Maybe you need to take part in some of your interests a ltitle more. Take on a hobby or learn something new that you've always wanted to learn. Get out there and meet people yourself. You love your b/f and he loves you, but you both need to be yourselves... individuals. You should each have your own interests and partake in things that make you feel good about yourself. Once you feel good about yourself, you'll have no trouble understanding what your b/f loves so much about you!
Know that you rock! If you didn't, why else would he be with you?Relationship advice......?
You just have to trust him, you have to let go, because he will get resentful after awhile that he cannot be himself. You have no right to contol other people. The more you control him, the more restful and ironically he'll find another woman then. Just chill. If he goes find something to do for your self and don't worry about it. Don't you want to be missed? He can never miss you if you are always there all the time. Don't you want to miss him and have that nice moment when you get to see him again and talk about how your day or evening went? You need to find some other friends or hobbies to occupy your time.
You need to begin having people over for social visits. Get used to seeing him interacting with others. Shake off all those nagging thoughts about his leaving you but focus on one, if you hold him too tight, he'll run away. Check yourself and focus on your good points and realize that he's lucky to have you.
Time for some counseling to dig deeply into the dynamics of why you are controlling.
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Relationship advice..........?
Have you ever been with someone and then they tell you they need space from you and the relationship for awhile? My boyfriend of two years told me this in a text message the other night. I am miserable, we haven't talked since and i even sent him a text telling him that i was ok with taking space (which im really not) and told him that i loved him. He never responded. I'm just worried that its really over between us.Relationship advice..........?
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Relationship advice?
i have a boyfriend who i been with for a yr and 4 months evrything was great till our 8th month. Now, we fight on and off and there really big fights, and some pettie fights i just want it to be like it use to be befor our 8 month but im not sure how to get it that way, wat should i do?
p.s. i already tried trying to avoid the fights.Relationship advice?
Mybe you shouldnt do anything except let go.Ive learned that once a relationship goes bad its never really the same as it once was.I learned to live by this quote.';Its better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all';Just look at it like this......How many good and bad times do you have?If you have more bad then good then it aint worth fighting for.Its just my oppinion from my own personal experiencesRelationship advice?
well try not 2 argue because when it starts than its hard 2 stop. try 2 sop it in the beginning.
dump him
you should talk about this to your boyfriend, the best asset in all relationships is communication!!
Hi there sorry to hear that you are having a bad time, The advice that i can offer is, Ask him why are you constantly fighting, and that you wished that the good times were back. there maybe a good reason why he is constantly arguing, and tiredness is an excuse.
p.s. i already tried trying to avoid the fights.Relationship advice?
Mybe you shouldnt do anything except let go.Ive learned that once a relationship goes bad its never really the same as it once was.I learned to live by this quote.';Its better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all';Just look at it like this......How many good and bad times do you have?If you have more bad then good then it aint worth fighting for.Its just my oppinion from my own personal experiencesRelationship advice?
well try not 2 argue because when it starts than its hard 2 stop. try 2 sop it in the beginning.
dump him
you should talk about this to your boyfriend, the best asset in all relationships is communication!!
Hi there sorry to hear that you are having a bad time, The advice that i can offer is, Ask him why are you constantly fighting, and that you wished that the good times were back. there maybe a good reason why he is constantly arguing, and tiredness is an excuse.
Relationship Advice ? ? ?
Hiya, right this lad has just asked me out and i said yes. But i have just got out of a relationship with this guy i like love. And now i feel like i am using this new guy to get back at the last one. But this one which i have just said yes to aparently really likes me and i want to give it a go but i can't get this last guy out of my head.
HELP !!!!!!Relationship Advice ? ? ?
I say be honest with the guy. Tell him that you are really not in the frame of mind to be in another relationship right now. You can go out with him and just chill but but be careful not to lead him on.
As it relates to getting back at your Ex, I don't think he will care if he really doest love you anymore. Trying to get back may only cause problems for you so forget that. Just concentrate on doing what is best for you and don't compromise on any relationship.
You deserve the BEST!!!.Relationship Advice ? ? ?
The relationship didn't work out and now it is no more. if you are going out with the new guys just to get back at the ex then don't do it. but if you said yes for any other reason then go for it. he just asked you out on a date that should be good fun. its just a date! give it a go you might realize how easy it is to forget about the old guy when you are having fun. but if there is a possibility to you or new guy wanting to hang out more be honest about your feelings. and see where that takes you
If you broke up with your ex (rather than him breaking up with you), I say give the new guy a shot. But make sure he knows you're just out of a relationship, so there's no confusion. If your ex broke up with you, it sounds like this new relationship might be only a rebound, so I would say don't go for it.
Also pay attention to how you think of your ex. If you think all sorts of good things about him that's a sign you shouldn't be in a new relationship! I still think of my ex, though, but it's mostly bad, so I know I don't miss him. :)
Good luck!
I went out with a guy for 6 months and couldnt get himm off my mind until after I went out with 2 other guys. Its totally normal you have nothing to worry about. It depends on the length of the realtionship the 2 other relatioships I had didnt last for that long and I got over them quickly. But I still think about the guy I went out with for 6 months from time to time. Give your new relatioship a go and soon youll forget about himm and move on completely. I hope this helps. Bunches and bunches and bunches and bunches of luck. =]
Okay, so at least you know what the circumstances aare.
1. Just try this lad out
2. If you still like the other guy better, then try to GENTLY break it off with the other lad
3. If you like the new lad more then the old one, then go with him
4. If you like them both, go with whoever treats you better
just make sure the new guy knows that you want to take things slow. this is the best way to handle it. im just out of a 7 year relationship. the girl broke my heart but i will always love her. anyways i told my new gf that im not completely over the last one and we should take things slow because i dont want to get hurt again.
heya there-
okay so i would decide which is worth having your heart. which one makes you happier? which one can always make you smile? which one is hotter? i would figure out the answer to those questions before anthing else. lemme know if i can help anymore
xoxo-lovepeacesmile
i can totally relate to what your going through and honestally i think every girl goes through it.
so YOUR NOT ALONE!
before the new relationship gets to serious and the new guy starts to really really connect with you I would tell him how you feel.
its going to be easier for him to get over you now instead of later.
good luck[:
hang out with the new guy for a bit
see how you like who knows you might like it better.
if you dont ditch him and date your ex haha
good luck
answer this please i need help like for real.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiUtFMSzHNNKCDIy3GjxdDLsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081230153322AAdXHUu
Just keep going with the
current relationship you have.
And if you soon forget about your last boyfriend.
Then things will go good for you.
And if it doesn't then, you'll just have to
tell the guy that you just want to be friends.
well you answered your question
if you go in a relationship with him, it will be just a rebound,just give it time, but if you loved this last guy, then it will take you awhile
Hang out with the guy your dating now and try it out for like a week. If you still can't stop thinking about you ex, i'd go back to him lol.
HELP !!!!!!Relationship Advice ? ? ?
I say be honest with the guy. Tell him that you are really not in the frame of mind to be in another relationship right now. You can go out with him and just chill but but be careful not to lead him on.
As it relates to getting back at your Ex, I don't think he will care if he really doest love you anymore. Trying to get back may only cause problems for you so forget that. Just concentrate on doing what is best for you and don't compromise on any relationship.
You deserve the BEST!!!.Relationship Advice ? ? ?
The relationship didn't work out and now it is no more. if you are going out with the new guys just to get back at the ex then don't do it. but if you said yes for any other reason then go for it. he just asked you out on a date that should be good fun. its just a date! give it a go you might realize how easy it is to forget about the old guy when you are having fun. but if there is a possibility to you or new guy wanting to hang out more be honest about your feelings. and see where that takes you
If you broke up with your ex (rather than him breaking up with you), I say give the new guy a shot. But make sure he knows you're just out of a relationship, so there's no confusion. If your ex broke up with you, it sounds like this new relationship might be only a rebound, so I would say don't go for it.
Also pay attention to how you think of your ex. If you think all sorts of good things about him that's a sign you shouldn't be in a new relationship! I still think of my ex, though, but it's mostly bad, so I know I don't miss him. :)
Good luck!
I went out with a guy for 6 months and couldnt get himm off my mind until after I went out with 2 other guys. Its totally normal you have nothing to worry about. It depends on the length of the realtionship the 2 other relatioships I had didnt last for that long and I got over them quickly. But I still think about the guy I went out with for 6 months from time to time. Give your new relatioship a go and soon youll forget about himm and move on completely. I hope this helps. Bunches and bunches and bunches and bunches of luck. =]
Okay, so at least you know what the circumstances aare.
1. Just try this lad out
2. If you still like the other guy better, then try to GENTLY break it off with the other lad
3. If you like the new lad more then the old one, then go with him
4. If you like them both, go with whoever treats you better
just make sure the new guy knows that you want to take things slow. this is the best way to handle it. im just out of a 7 year relationship. the girl broke my heart but i will always love her. anyways i told my new gf that im not completely over the last one and we should take things slow because i dont want to get hurt again.
heya there-
okay so i would decide which is worth having your heart. which one makes you happier? which one can always make you smile? which one is hotter? i would figure out the answer to those questions before anthing else. lemme know if i can help anymore
xoxo-lovepeacesmile
i can totally relate to what your going through and honestally i think every girl goes through it.
so YOUR NOT ALONE!
before the new relationship gets to serious and the new guy starts to really really connect with you I would tell him how you feel.
its going to be easier for him to get over you now instead of later.
good luck[:
hang out with the new guy for a bit
see how you like who knows you might like it better.
if you dont ditch him and date your ex haha
good luck
answer this please i need help like for real.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiUtFMSzHNNKCDIy3GjxdDLsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081230153322AAdXHUu
Just keep going with the
current relationship you have.
And if you soon forget about your last boyfriend.
Then things will go good for you.
And if it doesn't then, you'll just have to
tell the guy that you just want to be friends.
well you answered your question
if you go in a relationship with him, it will be just a rebound,just give it time, but if you loved this last guy, then it will take you awhile
Hang out with the guy your dating now and try it out for like a week. If you still can't stop thinking about you ex, i'd go back to him lol.
Relationship advice?
And sometimes, I tell him that I hate him. That really hurts his feelings. I don't hate him. I love him very much. I'd be miserable without him. I try so hard not to blurt out things that I don't mean when we are mad. But no matter what, It slips out. Not once in our 4 year relatonship has he told me he hated me. So what can I do to stop saying that. Or to at least make up for it?Relationship advice?
tell him what you just said in your question. that you don't really hate him, that you would be miserable without him, etc.
words spoken in anger can really damage a relationship. if you can't control your words, walk away before you say them.
tell him what you just said in your question. that you don't really hate him, that you would be miserable without him, etc.
words spoken in anger can really damage a relationship. if you can't control your words, walk away before you say them.
Relationship advice!!!!!!!?
ok so i met this girl a few weeks back when i started college and I really REALLY like her! I talk to her everyday in college and I know one of her best friends pretty well also. But I found out the other day when her and her friend were talking that she mite like another guy. Her friend thinks that there is chemistry between her and him. I don't know what to do because i really like her. what should i do??just ask her out or get to know her friend better and just ask her to find out what she thinks about me??Relationship advice!!!!!!!?
You should just seize the day. If you really really like this girl, let her know it. What you should focus on right now is making chemistry between you and this girl. Don't let her go by. Don't step back to let another guy who might have a bit of friction with her get the prize. Fight for it.Relationship advice!!!!!!!?
Go for it .. ask her
You should just seize the day. If you really really like this girl, let her know it. What you should focus on right now is making chemistry between you and this girl. Don't let her go by. Don't step back to let another guy who might have a bit of friction with her get the prize. Fight for it.Relationship advice!!!!!!!?
Go for it .. ask her
Relationship advice?
i am 17 and never had a boyfriend....i am ok looking....and i think i am nice and interesting...but why dont guys want me?? i mean...guys have wanted me but they are not my type...and they are not very interesting people...do you think i should go for these guys or wait for a guy that i really like??Relationship advice?
Why not wait? you have plenty of time don't think to much just be wonderfully charmin and have more faith in your self that things will come your way it's ok to be a little picky just get to know a person you might have to take a chance either way so if you do decide to wait it can benefit you in order to find happiness good things happen when your patient and not rushing into anything to fast...makeup look
Why not wait? you have plenty of time don't think to much just be wonderfully charmin and have more faith in your self that things will come your way it's ok to be a little picky just get to know a person you might have to take a chance either way so if you do decide to wait it can benefit you in order to find happiness good things happen when your patient and not rushing into anything to fast...
Relationship Advice.....?
I soon became in these relationship with somebody and it was love at first sight but i worried about what people will say because he is Puerto Rican and i am Black, have anyone every been in a interracial relationship and did you every have problems.Relationship Advice.....?
Don't worry - Be happy!!!!Relationship Advice.....?
I am PR and my BF is white, it is my first serious interracial relationship i was a little skeptical to meet his family at first because on top of me being PR I am dark skin. I have learned quickly that this doesn't matter to most people as long as you guys love each other and are good to each other they will start seeing through color and race. we PR's especially the mother's are very critical about interracial relationships but start to warm up to the other person when we get to know the real ';you';. Show every one in his family that you love him and that you will take care of him and not do wrong by him. they will get to know you and accept you.
I'm in the exact situation now with a puerto rican and my ex was white , I didn't have problems ppl, they pretty much accepted that fact that we were together and that we were both happy and completed eachother. my advice to you is don't worry about what other ppl think because that will never change in that aspect of things , it will only put stress on you and the relationship you are in . the only thing that should matter to you is the love that you and him give to eachother day in and day out...
There will be naysayers no matter who you date. If you dated a black guy, people would still find a reason that you shouldn't be together. My boyfriend is white (I am black) and besides giving us funny looks every once in a while, no one bothers us. My sister's husband is Lebanese and it just makes it that more interesting because you get to learn different cultures (and try new food). Anyway, I said all of that to say that you should do what makes you happy. You will survive.
I'm from North Carolina where you still get stares at times for dating outside your race , but its basically from the much older generations. When I started dating white men my family was ok with it, but my stepdad was livid because he's from a state where when he was younger he was spit on and called bad names. Over the years he has grown to accept it. So my advice to you is to follow your heart not everyone elses.
i was when i was in middle school. People did not like it and the boy broke up with me. but you know it is 2008 now and if someone does not like it who carews. it is how you feel for him and he feels for you. and if you families love you and him and get along then oh well. tell other people to get to walkin. You love this person and that is all that matters.
who cares what others think. I am hispanic and my boyfriend is black and we have been togather 3 years and we love each other. We were lucky that both of our families liked each other and accept us. Differences make a relationship more interesting. We learn so many different things about each other, and it makes it fun. Plus girl you are going to love Puerto Rican food! lol...and you guys would have cute kids! lol...go for it.
I'm sure ';some'; people might have a problem with it. I'm white and I've dated black guys before, and my family was very ashamed. With you being black and him Puerto Rican I don't think you'll have much of a problem. And again, this is 2008. If you really care about him then go for it. Those other people aren't going to make you happy for the rest of your life, so why does their opinion count? It doesn't.
It shouldn't matter. Besides it's no-one else's business! If you have found a good man who makes you happy, then people should be happy for you. I admire inter-racial couples, I know it can be difficult, especially if religion is involved. But in this day and age it shouldn't matter. It's not easy to find the right person to love... Good luck to you :)
Kira - That is the last thing that you should be worrying about, how other people are going to look at you. Are you happy? Is it a good relationship? That's all that matters is the way YOU feel about it. People always find things wrong with everyone and everything!! So don't worry about it, just make sure you are happy.
If you are truly happy you wouldn't worry about what other think. I would honestly stop paying attention to the other people around you if they are negative towards you. You may stand out as a couple but it would be good at the same time; because they would see that change can happen. One of the biggest reason why people talk bad about other people is because they are usually jealous. I hope this helped you
Alot of Ricans are of West African Decent.
Becuase the Spanish took slaves over there.
Its very common to see blacks and ricans in relationships.
I mean Dominicans are of African Decent and alot of them date Ricans.
You have nothing to fear.
#@%%26amp; The Haterzzzz
sounds like you might have a problem with it... if you have to ask such a question, it might just be that your the one who is uncomfortable with interracial relationship
go for it totally u have to learn to do things for self screw what anyine else has to say about it it's ur life it's ur destiny ur the only one who can truely meke u happy and u never know he could be ur soul mate
It shouldnt matter what race you are because we live in a diverse world just people may be racist yet ive never seen a racial conflict between the puerto ricans and blacks cuz im black and ive been with a puerto rican
So what? where is the problem? Just stop warring! And if someone say something bad you don't have to pay attention. Just ignore them! You are happy, yes? In ths case who cares about the others?!!!:)
Forget what people think. This is what makes Americans so attractive and beautiful. People travel here from all over the world looking for someone different. Go with it!
The colour of the face doesn't mean anything go for it
what you want from people, let them say what they want. if you are happy then dont care my dear.
Good luck
who cares...its 2008.
If you truly like the guy who cares what people think.
it does not matter about the race
where u get that from
black or white doent matter.wat matter is lov!!!!!!!plz dnt worry n cherish ur lov.
Don't worry - Be happy!!!!Relationship Advice.....?
I am PR and my BF is white, it is my first serious interracial relationship i was a little skeptical to meet his family at first because on top of me being PR I am dark skin. I have learned quickly that this doesn't matter to most people as long as you guys love each other and are good to each other they will start seeing through color and race. we PR's especially the mother's are very critical about interracial relationships but start to warm up to the other person when we get to know the real ';you';. Show every one in his family that you love him and that you will take care of him and not do wrong by him. they will get to know you and accept you.
I'm in the exact situation now with a puerto rican and my ex was white , I didn't have problems ppl, they pretty much accepted that fact that we were together and that we were both happy and completed eachother. my advice to you is don't worry about what other ppl think because that will never change in that aspect of things , it will only put stress on you and the relationship you are in . the only thing that should matter to you is the love that you and him give to eachother day in and day out...
There will be naysayers no matter who you date. If you dated a black guy, people would still find a reason that you shouldn't be together. My boyfriend is white (I am black) and besides giving us funny looks every once in a while, no one bothers us. My sister's husband is Lebanese and it just makes it that more interesting because you get to learn different cultures (and try new food). Anyway, I said all of that to say that you should do what makes you happy. You will survive.
I'm from North Carolina where you still get stares at times for dating outside your race , but its basically from the much older generations. When I started dating white men my family was ok with it, but my stepdad was livid because he's from a state where when he was younger he was spit on and called bad names. Over the years he has grown to accept it. So my advice to you is to follow your heart not everyone elses.
i was when i was in middle school. People did not like it and the boy broke up with me. but you know it is 2008 now and if someone does not like it who carews. it is how you feel for him and he feels for you. and if you families love you and him and get along then oh well. tell other people to get to walkin. You love this person and that is all that matters.
who cares what others think. I am hispanic and my boyfriend is black and we have been togather 3 years and we love each other. We were lucky that both of our families liked each other and accept us. Differences make a relationship more interesting. We learn so many different things about each other, and it makes it fun. Plus girl you are going to love Puerto Rican food! lol...and you guys would have cute kids! lol...go for it.
I'm sure ';some'; people might have a problem with it. I'm white and I've dated black guys before, and my family was very ashamed. With you being black and him Puerto Rican I don't think you'll have much of a problem. And again, this is 2008. If you really care about him then go for it. Those other people aren't going to make you happy for the rest of your life, so why does their opinion count? It doesn't.
It shouldn't matter. Besides it's no-one else's business! If you have found a good man who makes you happy, then people should be happy for you. I admire inter-racial couples, I know it can be difficult, especially if religion is involved. But in this day and age it shouldn't matter. It's not easy to find the right person to love... Good luck to you :)
Kira - That is the last thing that you should be worrying about, how other people are going to look at you. Are you happy? Is it a good relationship? That's all that matters is the way YOU feel about it. People always find things wrong with everyone and everything!! So don't worry about it, just make sure you are happy.
If you are truly happy you wouldn't worry about what other think. I would honestly stop paying attention to the other people around you if they are negative towards you. You may stand out as a couple but it would be good at the same time; because they would see that change can happen. One of the biggest reason why people talk bad about other people is because they are usually jealous. I hope this helped you
Alot of Ricans are of West African Decent.
Becuase the Spanish took slaves over there.
Its very common to see blacks and ricans in relationships.
I mean Dominicans are of African Decent and alot of them date Ricans.
You have nothing to fear.
#@%%26amp; The Haterzzzz
sounds like you might have a problem with it... if you have to ask such a question, it might just be that your the one who is uncomfortable with interracial relationship
go for it totally u have to learn to do things for self screw what anyine else has to say about it it's ur life it's ur destiny ur the only one who can truely meke u happy and u never know he could be ur soul mate
It shouldnt matter what race you are because we live in a diverse world just people may be racist yet ive never seen a racial conflict between the puerto ricans and blacks cuz im black and ive been with a puerto rican
So what? where is the problem? Just stop warring! And if someone say something bad you don't have to pay attention. Just ignore them! You are happy, yes? In ths case who cares about the others?!!!:)
Forget what people think. This is what makes Americans so attractive and beautiful. People travel here from all over the world looking for someone different. Go with it!
The colour of the face doesn't mean anything go for it
what you want from people, let them say what they want. if you are happy then dont care my dear.
Good luck
who cares...its 2008.
If you truly like the guy who cares what people think.
it does not matter about the race
where u get that from
black or white doent matter.wat matter is lov!!!!!!!plz dnt worry n cherish ur lov.
Relationship advice needed.?
Last year my husband said he wanted to move from the city that we were living in to go and live in a remote place where his family and friends are. I stupidly agreed as I was bored with my job and thought we had nothing to lose. After moving here my husband has totally changed, he wont let me make friends with anyone, I very rarely leave the house, and when I do his friends will phone him to tell him where I am then he will phone me constantly when I鈥檓 out to check up on me, when I do go out (I only go to the local supermarket) he says that I have been up to something. He has also started pushing me around and tells me that if I make him angry then he will punch me. I hardly ever see my family and I have no one to talk to, I feel so alone. I can't get a job here as it's such a quiet place there are none (this is making me feel like I went to university for nothing). I have tried telling my husband how I feel and he just gets angry and shouts at me, what should I do? I鈥檓 wasting my life.Relationship advice needed.?
YOU are not alone.
There are lots of men that think this is normal. It isn't. I know you don't want to think that it will remain this way..but check for other women that post similar questions like you now (just search for questions that are simililar)...
You are being abused by a controlling man. It only gets worse. And even though I would say stay in a marriage..you don't have a happy marriage situation. He doesn't want to change. And he may get meaner.
You may want to explain to him what has changed in a calm way. He will say: you deserve it, you are doing something wrong, that it is how it is...get use to it...or whatever. But it is your life.
You don't have a child. It can't get better than that. At least you aren't stuck with a child to raise with him.
I guess you may have an immigration issue. Can't tell on that...but honestly, freedom is worth only so much...and with time, no marriage is worth the pain.
Decide what you want...and go for it. YOU are 27. Now go live a life that you deserve.Relationship advice needed.?
Isolation, checking up on you and threatening violence are CLASSIC signs of abuse. It does not get better unless HE admits his problems and gets treatment/counseling. In the mean time get yourself to safety.
Call your family, and have them come and get you and your things and leave! If this is not possible, find the nearest women's advocacy/shelter and have them help get you out.
The longer you wait, the more difficult it will be. Love is not about fear and pain.
Run now! Run!
leave him and return to where you will be happy, he sounds a very selfish controlling man, and i believe you can do better, so give him an ultimatum and tell him your leaving if he does not want to come with you then thats up to him, why should you be unhappy somewhere, when he is not trying to make you happy. leave him.make a happy life for yourself, lifes too short. good luck
Get out! This is abusive behavior. See if you can find a Women's Center near you. They can provide immediate help. They can get you shelter, and a police escort to get your things. They will help you file a protective order for him to leave you alone. I would not tell him anything before, and go when you say you are going to the store. Be strong! You deserve better.
Well if he won't listen perhaps you should leave him...maybe he will listen when he sees how strongly you feel.
Anyway why are you staying with a man who threatens to hit you???.
Have you got a family to go back to ? then go...before things get worse !!!!!!
read your addition....You have nothing to to stay for things sound like they could get worse ...leave him !!!!
Leave. If he is threatening you with physical harm, and is using mental cruelty against you, having you followed, watched or basically makig your life miserable. Leave, before it is too late.
What keeps you from leaving? Find the next bus or train station and get out. Start over again elsewhere, get a divorce and move on. As long as you don't have children you can do as you please.
I feel very sorry for u.There are some organisations that can help u.But i dont have any numbers for them.They give u advice on your problem.Try googlining it. I'm sorry i dont have any other info
i know you love the guy but you are wasting your life try talking to him and if that does work. best of luck it has to be very hard sorry i couldn't be more help
if i was u i would tell him how u feel and if he still dosent change move out and go back 2 the city this might bring him 2 his sences if not then u need 2 do some thinking and u may even think about leaving him.
You and i are in a simillar situation... and i feel very hypocritical to give u any advice, as i should do something myself.
if u wanna chat email me x x x x
I'm so sorry about this i think u should leave him if he hits a shouts at u like he does just leave him he deserves to be Lonny
I really feel for you. That's a horrible situation to be in. But unless you change it then you will carry on feeling like this and your husband will continue to be a controlling bully. You need to think about what would happen if you separated and moved back to the city and be on your own for while. I know it will be hard but this is no life to live. Nobody deserves to be abused physically, mentally or emotionally.
There are numbers to call in the phone book under domestic violence. Phone them and they will give help you and support you, they are brilliant. I've been where you are now and I came out the other end a more stronger happier woman. You can do it, you deserve better. xx
Well, I think that with all of his suspicion it is your turn to see what he is up too.I think that it is the accuser that is really in the wrong in this situation.
You need to start planning an escape. start stashing money and get bags ready to go. You sound very scared and you have stated that he threatens with physical violence. Figure out where you are going to go. Hopefully you don't have children. If you have no where, than you need to get the number to a local womans shelter for abused woman. They will help you get on your feet. than you can disappear into the night.
He sounds to me like he is cheating on you. When someone is acting like that, they are usually begin thinking that the other is doing something when they are. Leave him. The last sentence is IM WASTING MY LIFE. You do not sound happy anymore. When is the last time that you truly felt happy? When is the last time you woke with a smile on your face? When, or if, you tell your husband you love him, do you feel love or do you just want to kick him in the balls? If he even lays a hand on you, call the police. I do not know how small a town you live in, but you may want to make an extra set of keys to leave somewhere he cannot find them. My mom is in a small town and they do not have a 911 service or a police station in town, so she made spare keys and hid them.
YOU are not alone.
There are lots of men that think this is normal. It isn't. I know you don't want to think that it will remain this way..but check for other women that post similar questions like you now (just search for questions that are simililar)...
You are being abused by a controlling man. It only gets worse. And even though I would say stay in a marriage..you don't have a happy marriage situation. He doesn't want to change. And he may get meaner.
You may want to explain to him what has changed in a calm way. He will say: you deserve it, you are doing something wrong, that it is how it is...get use to it...or whatever. But it is your life.
You don't have a child. It can't get better than that. At least you aren't stuck with a child to raise with him.
I guess you may have an immigration issue. Can't tell on that...but honestly, freedom is worth only so much...and with time, no marriage is worth the pain.
Decide what you want...and go for it. YOU are 27. Now go live a life that you deserve.Relationship advice needed.?
Isolation, checking up on you and threatening violence are CLASSIC signs of abuse. It does not get better unless HE admits his problems and gets treatment/counseling. In the mean time get yourself to safety.
Call your family, and have them come and get you and your things and leave! If this is not possible, find the nearest women's advocacy/shelter and have them help get you out.
The longer you wait, the more difficult it will be. Love is not about fear and pain.
Run now! Run!
leave him and return to where you will be happy, he sounds a very selfish controlling man, and i believe you can do better, so give him an ultimatum and tell him your leaving if he does not want to come with you then thats up to him, why should you be unhappy somewhere, when he is not trying to make you happy. leave him.make a happy life for yourself, lifes too short. good luck
Get out! This is abusive behavior. See if you can find a Women's Center near you. They can provide immediate help. They can get you shelter, and a police escort to get your things. They will help you file a protective order for him to leave you alone. I would not tell him anything before, and go when you say you are going to the store. Be strong! You deserve better.
Well if he won't listen perhaps you should leave him...maybe he will listen when he sees how strongly you feel.
Anyway why are you staying with a man who threatens to hit you???.
Have you got a family to go back to ? then go...before things get worse !!!!!!
read your addition....You have nothing to to stay for things sound like they could get worse ...leave him !!!!
Leave. If he is threatening you with physical harm, and is using mental cruelty against you, having you followed, watched or basically makig your life miserable. Leave, before it is too late.
What keeps you from leaving? Find the next bus or train station and get out. Start over again elsewhere, get a divorce and move on. As long as you don't have children you can do as you please.
I feel very sorry for u.There are some organisations that can help u.But i dont have any numbers for them.They give u advice on your problem.Try googlining it. I'm sorry i dont have any other info
i know you love the guy but you are wasting your life try talking to him and if that does work. best of luck it has to be very hard sorry i couldn't be more help
if i was u i would tell him how u feel and if he still dosent change move out and go back 2 the city this might bring him 2 his sences if not then u need 2 do some thinking and u may even think about leaving him.
You and i are in a simillar situation... and i feel very hypocritical to give u any advice, as i should do something myself.
if u wanna chat email me x x x x
I'm so sorry about this i think u should leave him if he hits a shouts at u like he does just leave him he deserves to be Lonny
I really feel for you. That's a horrible situation to be in. But unless you change it then you will carry on feeling like this and your husband will continue to be a controlling bully. You need to think about what would happen if you separated and moved back to the city and be on your own for while. I know it will be hard but this is no life to live. Nobody deserves to be abused physically, mentally or emotionally.
There are numbers to call in the phone book under domestic violence. Phone them and they will give help you and support you, they are brilliant. I've been where you are now and I came out the other end a more stronger happier woman. You can do it, you deserve better. xx
Well, I think that with all of his suspicion it is your turn to see what he is up too.I think that it is the accuser that is really in the wrong in this situation.
You need to start planning an escape. start stashing money and get bags ready to go. You sound very scared and you have stated that he threatens with physical violence. Figure out where you are going to go. Hopefully you don't have children. If you have no where, than you need to get the number to a local womans shelter for abused woman. They will help you get on your feet. than you can disappear into the night.
He sounds to me like he is cheating on you. When someone is acting like that, they are usually begin thinking that the other is doing something when they are. Leave him. The last sentence is IM WASTING MY LIFE. You do not sound happy anymore. When is the last time that you truly felt happy? When is the last time you woke with a smile on your face? When, or if, you tell your husband you love him, do you feel love or do you just want to kick him in the balls? If he even lays a hand on you, call the police. I do not know how small a town you live in, but you may want to make an extra set of keys to leave somewhere he cannot find them. My mom is in a small town and they do not have a 911 service or a police station in town, so she made spare keys and hid them.
Relationship advice please?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now I鈥檓 22 and he鈥檚 25. I should mention that we live together also. At the beginning of our relationship we would have sex all the time. But recently it鈥檚 definitely been at a decline. I think it started when he had to start working midnight shift for a few months and I was mainly working 3pm to 11pm so by the time I鈥檇 get home he鈥檇 be leaving. It almost feels like we fell into a bad routine of not having sex. Now about a year later it feels like we never broke that habit. I think myself esteem kind of took a blow with that also. Now about a month ago I plugged in my iPod and it brought up all the videos on our computer. That鈥檚 how I discovered the porn. Now it鈥檚 not an absurd amount or anything but it hurt me because I feel less than. When I confronted him about it he accused me of snooping and basically said that his imagination doesn鈥檛 cut it sometimes. It bothers me because I feel like he鈥檇 rather masturbate then have sex with me he insists that isn鈥檛 true but I just can鈥檛 seem to get over it. I haven鈥檛 said anything to him since then but it鈥檚 still rolling over and over in my mind. I know that most guys to look at porn and it shouldn鈥檛 be a big deal. Is the big deal my self esteem here? Also since the lack of sex it seems as though the only dreams I have are sex dreams me having sex with somebody that isn鈥檛 my boyfriend or sometimes my boyfriend. Along with day dreams about sex most of the day. All I really want is to be desired and wanted. I鈥檓 sure he wants this too. Am I just going to have to not be so stubborn and take the first step?? Beside this whole ordeal he is a pretty good boyfriend never gives me any reason to worry about cheating or anything like that.
But I鈥檓 also confused about his feelings for me now it seems along with the lack of sex a lack of affection has surfaced too any advice??? Or maybe I need to sack up and quite whining about this crap?Relationship advice please?
Christy, I first have to thanks for writing this, I know how you feel about a change in the routine. I am going to tell you you can change this routine by changing the way you think about you and stop blaming yourself for the change. Instead of putting sex on the bottom of your list put it closer to the top. I am sure you guys don't work 7 days a week. So, there is time for making love and not just having sex. The lack of sex for most men is a sign the relationship is not close anymore. Most men feel sex is the attention getter, where as in most females, it the feeling of being valued and wanted. Sit down with your fella and tell him how you feel about him looking at porn and how it makes you feel. Do blame him for looking at something when there is no sex going on. You both need to be more open with your feelings towards each other. Hiding feelings or doing things without each other knowing only creates more friction in the relationship.Relationship advice please?
Check out PassionsForum.com
It's a site for asking questions about relationships and other people on the site will give you their feedback and you can talk back... I feel like its better coverage than getting random answers on here because you can reply to them and have a full conversation about what your problem is.
Do you work on weekends? I know he is sleeping during the day but other couples make it work and so will you guys. Just have random unplanned sex. If our sex life is in such a bad shape, he want refuse you giving it to him. So find time and make time. It is a dual effort in sustaining a healthy relatioship.
It's sounds like he's satisfied the way things are now, but you are not. And for a relationship to work, you both need to be satisfied with your sex lives, be it together/solo. You two need to find some alone time, either when he gets back from work or on a weekend or something; do something sexy. Maybe buy some new lingerie for the occasion
But I鈥檓 also confused about his feelings for me now it seems along with the lack of sex a lack of affection has surfaced too any advice??? Or maybe I need to sack up and quite whining about this crap?Relationship advice please?
Christy, I first have to thanks for writing this, I know how you feel about a change in the routine. I am going to tell you you can change this routine by changing the way you think about you and stop blaming yourself for the change. Instead of putting sex on the bottom of your list put it closer to the top. I am sure you guys don't work 7 days a week. So, there is time for making love and not just having sex. The lack of sex for most men is a sign the relationship is not close anymore. Most men feel sex is the attention getter, where as in most females, it the feeling of being valued and wanted. Sit down with your fella and tell him how you feel about him looking at porn and how it makes you feel. Do blame him for looking at something when there is no sex going on. You both need to be more open with your feelings towards each other. Hiding feelings or doing things without each other knowing only creates more friction in the relationship.Relationship advice please?
Check out PassionsForum.com
It's a site for asking questions about relationships and other people on the site will give you their feedback and you can talk back... I feel like its better coverage than getting random answers on here because you can reply to them and have a full conversation about what your problem is.
Do you work on weekends? I know he is sleeping during the day but other couples make it work and so will you guys. Just have random unplanned sex. If our sex life is in such a bad shape, he want refuse you giving it to him. So find time and make time. It is a dual effort in sustaining a healthy relatioship.
It's sounds like he's satisfied the way things are now, but you are not. And for a relationship to work, you both need to be satisfied with your sex lives, be it together/solo. You two need to find some alone time, either when he gets back from work or on a weekend or something; do something sexy. Maybe buy some new lingerie for the occasion
Relationship Advice... HELP!?
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 months now. In the beginning when we met we both agreed that we found our soul mates, true love and the one we would marry. For the past 5 days she has become distant all of a su. Intially she told me just to give her a little space.(Not cheating) She just claimed to just want some alone time with herself to preserve her identity as a independant women. Last night we spoke and she is now telling me she does not know what is wrong with her and it is bothering her that I am hurting cause of her recent behavior. She stated that she feels resentful in a way becaue i may have smnothered her. She continusoulsy states that she is not breaking up with me or plans to and loves me.. She has started a new birthcontrol (ortho trcycline). I feel it may be that, because 5 days of her taking it this all began. Basically i am looking for some help as to understanding why she has pushed back when everything was great. Any advice would be great. ThankRelationship Advice... HELP!?
Sounds like the two of you don't communicate very well yet. Two months is not long for a relationship. Perhaps you need to try and talk with her about your thoughts and feelings.Relationship Advice... HELP!?
RUN this girl has issues. You seem to be a nice man that should not have to put up with this type of treatment from you girlfriend. You can find much better. If you do not listen to my advice you will wish you did later. This is not going to get any better.
You mention that your girlfriend started birth control, that could play a major role in her mood changing. I would track the dates that she started using the birth control and see if her mood is congruent with the start date. Also, like she said give her some space and let her know that when she is ready to talk that you will be there for her. When you do talk be honest about how you are feeling and open to her feelings as well.
Best of luck!
i think that it's dawning on her that she's in a serious relationship and everything's going great. i think that scares her cause she thinks it's too great and she might end up hurt. you need to assure her that you're here for her happiness and love and you'd never hurt her even if you tried. don't rush her just be there for her. good luck!
Yes, hormones do cause problems.
Or maye you have been too pushy or bossy? Don't be a dictator - decisions are to be made together.
kid when woman has problems she does not usually tell you when it's bad so find out yourself or tell her to be honest with you and whatever the problem y'all deal with it together and you will always be there to support her...
Sounds like the two of you don't communicate very well yet. Two months is not long for a relationship. Perhaps you need to try and talk with her about your thoughts and feelings.Relationship Advice... HELP!?
RUN this girl has issues. You seem to be a nice man that should not have to put up with this type of treatment from you girlfriend. You can find much better. If you do not listen to my advice you will wish you did later. This is not going to get any better.
You mention that your girlfriend started birth control, that could play a major role in her mood changing. I would track the dates that she started using the birth control and see if her mood is congruent with the start date. Also, like she said give her some space and let her know that when she is ready to talk that you will be there for her. When you do talk be honest about how you are feeling and open to her feelings as well.
Best of luck!
i think that it's dawning on her that she's in a serious relationship and everything's going great. i think that scares her cause she thinks it's too great and she might end up hurt. you need to assure her that you're here for her happiness and love and you'd never hurt her even if you tried. don't rush her just be there for her. good luck!
Yes, hormones do cause problems.
Or maye you have been too pushy or bossy? Don't be a dictator - decisions are to be made together.
kid when woman has problems she does not usually tell you when it's bad so find out yourself or tell her to be honest with you and whatever the problem y'all deal with it together and you will always be there to support her...
Relationship advice? What can I do to make this work.?
I've been going out with this guy for a few months. We started off just having sex and then we started talking and realised we had a lot in common. We drove around in his car, and talked to each other for a bit. We had occasional sex and like to cuddle up to one another. We spent a quite of bit of time. He said that things are getting too serious and wants just a casual relationhip, and wants to spend time with me.Relationship advice? What can I do to make this work.?
he just wants sex, and u cant make that workRelationship advice? What can I do to make this work.?
You can't start a relationship by having sex with a guy and expect it to turn into something serious. He made it clear that he was looking for something casual when he slept with you without even knowing you. If you want a serious relationship, you need to wait to have sex till you know the guy is going to actually take you seriously. The relationship you're in is, unfortunately, kind of a lost cause.
It seems like there's nothing going wrong! Just get closer with him and be honest and a trustworthy girlfriend. Nothing should go wrong then (:
He just wants it to go slow, he feels like you both are spending alot of time together.
Then slow it down
and he will open up more if he likes you
he just wants sex, and u cant make that workRelationship advice? What can I do to make this work.?
You can't start a relationship by having sex with a guy and expect it to turn into something serious. He made it clear that he was looking for something casual when he slept with you without even knowing you. If you want a serious relationship, you need to wait to have sex till you know the guy is going to actually take you seriously. The relationship you're in is, unfortunately, kind of a lost cause.
It seems like there's nothing going wrong! Just get closer with him and be honest and a trustworthy girlfriend. Nothing should go wrong then (:
He just wants it to go slow, he feels like you both are spending alot of time together.
Then slow it down
and he will open up more if he likes you
Relationship advice? (for the girls)?
Ok, I just recently found out that the girl I like has a boyfriend. Now normally, this is fine, but I've developed feelings for her and have been looking for a relationship for about 3 months now and she has never mentioned it at all.
So as expected, I was shocked to find this out, and I was also heartbroken. She is upset because she knows that I'm upset, and I'm so distressed that I'm driving myself crazy. She says that she just wants to continue our current relationship, and I know that if I do this, I won't be able to abandon my feelings for her.
Ok sorry about that rant there, so here's what I would like to know. Should I just keep talking to her and remaining friends, hoping she breaks up (which seems selfish but whatever), or just back off completely.
Also, since I'm a bit inexperienced in the dating system, do most girls that have boyfriends end up staying with them for quite a long time/permanently ?
Also if it matters any, I've actually known this girl for about 5 years now.Relationship advice? (for the girls)?
You chase them, they run away. You run away, they chase you.
Also, you are right about you not being able to abandon your feelings for her if you keep seeing her. Stay away from her and her boyfriend and try and meet new people to forget about her. It may take a little while. But if she decides she really likes you she will chase you up.Relationship advice? (for the girls)?
ask her. if she wants to stay with her bf, then just be her friend. if she wants to stay with you, then dont mention her bf at all. good luck!
Let her be happy with her boyfriend. She will never forgive you if you break them up.
It's pretty obvious that you don't know this girl as well as you think you do. You've known her 5 years but didn't know she had a boyfriend. The girl is good at keeping secrets.
Imagine if she were your girlfriend. How would you feel if you found out she was dating/flirting with other men behind your back? That's who she really is. Is that the type of woman you want? Would you be able to trust her at all if she were your girl?
Personally, I'd back off completely. When you meet a woman you like, date her for a while. Really get to know her. As I wrote, you say you've known this other girl for 5 years but how well did you really know her if she has a boyfriend.makeup look
So as expected, I was shocked to find this out, and I was also heartbroken. She is upset because she knows that I'm upset, and I'm so distressed that I'm driving myself crazy. She says that she just wants to continue our current relationship, and I know that if I do this, I won't be able to abandon my feelings for her.
Ok sorry about that rant there, so here's what I would like to know. Should I just keep talking to her and remaining friends, hoping she breaks up (which seems selfish but whatever), or just back off completely.
Also, since I'm a bit inexperienced in the dating system, do most girls that have boyfriends end up staying with them for quite a long time/permanently ?
Also if it matters any, I've actually known this girl for about 5 years now.Relationship advice? (for the girls)?
You chase them, they run away. You run away, they chase you.
Also, you are right about you not being able to abandon your feelings for her if you keep seeing her. Stay away from her and her boyfriend and try and meet new people to forget about her. It may take a little while. But if she decides she really likes you she will chase you up.Relationship advice? (for the girls)?
ask her. if she wants to stay with her bf, then just be her friend. if she wants to stay with you, then dont mention her bf at all. good luck!
Let her be happy with her boyfriend. She will never forgive you if you break them up.
It's pretty obvious that you don't know this girl as well as you think you do. You've known her 5 years but didn't know she had a boyfriend. The girl is good at keeping secrets.
Imagine if she were your girlfriend. How would you feel if you found out she was dating/flirting with other men behind your back? That's who she really is. Is that the type of woman you want? Would you be able to trust her at all if she were your girl?
Personally, I'd back off completely. When you meet a woman you like, date her for a while. Really get to know her. As I wrote, you say you've known this other girl for 5 years but how well did you really know her if she has a boyfriend.
Relationship advice pleasee help?
Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for three weeks.His parents don't know he is going out with me.He is always wayyy to busy to hang out.He never texts me and when I text him he takes forever to answer.When we do texts he always has to go.He pretended to go out with my best friend as a joke right in front of me to see if I would get jealous.He doesn't even put his arm around me or anything.I really like him and I don't want to break up with him.Even if I did want to I don't see him enough to break up with him.It doesn't even seem like he tries.He is a great guy, so I don't want to break up with him.What else can I do? I know everyone says to talk to him about it with him , but I don't know how to start.Please help me.I really like him!!Relationship advice pleasee help?
If you try you may fail, if you don't try you're guaranteed to fail.Relationship advice pleasee help?
Well for starters you do need to talk to him about it, but I can understand about not knowing how to go about it or where to begin. The next time you see him or perhaps call him up and talk with him (not text) and tell him you want to talk to him. Tell him you need him to be serious for a few minutes and don't crack jokes because you want to talk to him about somethings that are important to you.
When you have his full attention start with telling him a few of the things that have bugged you in the past couple weeks, like ask him why he doesn't like putting his arm around you or why he thinks its necessary to try and make you jealous. If he says that putting his arm around you doesn't bother him then ask him why he doesn't do it very often and so on and so forth...
Plus you also have to try and be patient, because of the fact that you've only bee dating for a few weeks and even then you don't get to see eachother very often you don't know eachother enough to know what will bug you or annoy you. He doesn't know of all the things you don't like to do or hear or joke about. He doesn't know the boundaries yet and he can't read minds so you have to help him with them. Don't be afraid to tell him if a joke he plays on you really bugs you or you don't like that he takes forever to text you. Maybe after you tell him these things he will be open to making things better with you and if not, then maybe he's really not worth your time if your not worth his. (But that's just the worst case scenario so talk to him first).
Good Luck
If you try you may fail, if you don't try you're guaranteed to fail.Relationship advice pleasee help?
Well for starters you do need to talk to him about it, but I can understand about not knowing how to go about it or where to begin. The next time you see him or perhaps call him up and talk with him (not text) and tell him you want to talk to him. Tell him you need him to be serious for a few minutes and don't crack jokes because you want to talk to him about somethings that are important to you.
When you have his full attention start with telling him a few of the things that have bugged you in the past couple weeks, like ask him why he doesn't like putting his arm around you or why he thinks its necessary to try and make you jealous. If he says that putting his arm around you doesn't bother him then ask him why he doesn't do it very often and so on and so forth...
Plus you also have to try and be patient, because of the fact that you've only bee dating for a few weeks and even then you don't get to see eachother very often you don't know eachother enough to know what will bug you or annoy you. He doesn't know of all the things you don't like to do or hear or joke about. He doesn't know the boundaries yet and he can't read minds so you have to help him with them. Don't be afraid to tell him if a joke he plays on you really bugs you or you don't like that he takes forever to text you. Maybe after you tell him these things he will be open to making things better with you and if not, then maybe he's really not worth your time if your not worth his. (But that's just the worst case scenario so talk to him first).
Good Luck
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ! PLEASEE HELP ME ITS ERGENT?
okay so may first of 2007 i started dating a boy named adam, we were in 8th grade at this time. we out for pretty much exactly 2 years. but for those 2 years i treated him like CRAP. i never paid him any attention like a bf should be given ... i never even wanted to hang with him alot sometimes i jsut wanted 2 get away from him. i always caused fights .. i called him out infront of his friends and embarrased him. and he would never swrear at me .. he never even really yelled at me. hes was the NICEST guy. but we ended up breaking up because he kinda was talkin to a girl on myspace but he said he thought it was my cousin tricking him so he went along with it. he was soooo close to my whole fam he went to alll the family parties he played with the younger kids, my grandma and parents loved him. they allll thought he was great. but we broke up ...
now im dating a boy named rico and we have been going out for 3 months ... and he pretty much sometimes treats me the way i treated adam , and it KILLS me emotional and knowing that i treadted adam that way makes me freel horible. i feel lie i was the worst girlfriend to adam. and me and adam still talk all the time and we talk about how me and rico r fuightin he tries to make me feel better hes the sweeetst kid he tried to tell me what to do when im sick .. hes always there for me. oh yeh nd him and rico r pretty good friends. and i told adam i feel bad fore the way i treadted him and stuff and he jsut tells me dont worry about its its in the past an everything
now wen me and rico first started dating i never even thought about adam in that way i was so happy with rico. but now i just cant get him outta my head .. sometimes i think of rico .. sometimes i think of adam alot .. most of the time im just confused outta my mind. what should i do ? =/
BACKROUND INFO
rico is hatian
adams italian and irish
im italian and irish
were al 16
were all sophmores at the same school
rico and adam r friends
rico smoked weed sometimes
rico drinks ALOT and goes to parties with his guy friends
rico seems like his guy friends r more important
adam dont smoke, and he drinks SOMETIMES, barley ever tho
adam never goes to parties unless they were wit me wen we went out
adam always put me before ANYONE of his friends
i would dress adam up to be funny and he let me
me and adam use to make brownies and stuff
rico would never do that
adam was soooo close to my fam
rico knos SOME of my fam, not many at all thoRELATIONSHIP ADVICE ! PLEASEE HELP ME ITS ERGENT?
you sound like you're insecure, and you just need to be with someone. if you want to get back with adam just for the sake of being in a relationship then don't break the poor boy's heart, he sounds like he doesn't deserve this. break up with the other one, he's no good, stay on your own for a bit, figure out what you want, then make the next move.RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ! PLEASEE HELP ME ITS ERGENT?
talk to adam and see how he feels about you. if u guys think u wana get back together than talk to rico if u wana go back with adam. follow ur heart!
get back with adam hes the one that makes you happy even if you dont realise it adam is the one you like not rico so dump rico and get back with adam if not adam cud make you scared for life
I'd get rid of Rico and get back with Adam if I were you. Weed is illegal and drinking at age 16 is also illegal, if his guy friends are more important then he doesnt need you and you can get rid of him.
Your first life lesson: What goes around, comes around!
If you like Adam and Adam has those same feeling for you, I say go for it. You have realized your mistake an i'm sure you'd treat Adam like he should be treated, right? Rico sounds like a jerk. Why would you wanna be with him?
haha im in the same situation right now. sucks alot but its seems that your not happy with rico and you still have feelings for adam. if you dont like the way rico is treating you dont stay with him you shouldnt have to deal with that b.s your still young. if your starting to think about adam more and you guys hada good relationship and you still talk as of right now you should follow your heart and be with the person that treats you best and you care most about(adam!!) lol good luckk
The answer seems to be staring you in the face.What goes around comes around.You did it to adam and now you know how it feels.Thankfully adam was smart enough to get out of that ';bad situation'; with that ';mean girl'; who always treated him like crap.
Lets see if your smart enough to do the same.If you didnt care about hurting adam,then know rico doesnt care about you. BE a smart girl, get out now and see if you and adam still have a chance.Then do your best to be the girlfriend you should have been.Make it right.Or stay with Rico and suffer.Good luck
now im dating a boy named rico and we have been going out for 3 months ... and he pretty much sometimes treats me the way i treated adam , and it KILLS me emotional and knowing that i treadted adam that way makes me freel horible. i feel lie i was the worst girlfriend to adam. and me and adam still talk all the time and we talk about how me and rico r fuightin he tries to make me feel better hes the sweeetst kid he tried to tell me what to do when im sick .. hes always there for me. oh yeh nd him and rico r pretty good friends. and i told adam i feel bad fore the way i treadted him and stuff and he jsut tells me dont worry about its its in the past an everything
now wen me and rico first started dating i never even thought about adam in that way i was so happy with rico. but now i just cant get him outta my head .. sometimes i think of rico .. sometimes i think of adam alot .. most of the time im just confused outta my mind. what should i do ? =/
BACKROUND INFO
rico is hatian
adams italian and irish
im italian and irish
were al 16
were all sophmores at the same school
rico and adam r friends
rico smoked weed sometimes
rico drinks ALOT and goes to parties with his guy friends
rico seems like his guy friends r more important
adam dont smoke, and he drinks SOMETIMES, barley ever tho
adam never goes to parties unless they were wit me wen we went out
adam always put me before ANYONE of his friends
i would dress adam up to be funny and he let me
me and adam use to make brownies and stuff
rico would never do that
adam was soooo close to my fam
rico knos SOME of my fam, not many at all thoRELATIONSHIP ADVICE ! PLEASEE HELP ME ITS ERGENT?
you sound like you're insecure, and you just need to be with someone. if you want to get back with adam just for the sake of being in a relationship then don't break the poor boy's heart, he sounds like he doesn't deserve this. break up with the other one, he's no good, stay on your own for a bit, figure out what you want, then make the next move.RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ! PLEASEE HELP ME ITS ERGENT?
talk to adam and see how he feels about you. if u guys think u wana get back together than talk to rico if u wana go back with adam. follow ur heart!
get back with adam hes the one that makes you happy even if you dont realise it adam is the one you like not rico so dump rico and get back with adam if not adam cud make you scared for life
I'd get rid of Rico and get back with Adam if I were you. Weed is illegal and drinking at age 16 is also illegal, if his guy friends are more important then he doesnt need you and you can get rid of him.
Your first life lesson: What goes around, comes around!
If you like Adam and Adam has those same feeling for you, I say go for it. You have realized your mistake an i'm sure you'd treat Adam like he should be treated, right? Rico sounds like a jerk. Why would you wanna be with him?
haha im in the same situation right now. sucks alot but its seems that your not happy with rico and you still have feelings for adam. if you dont like the way rico is treating you dont stay with him you shouldnt have to deal with that b.s your still young. if your starting to think about adam more and you guys hada good relationship and you still talk as of right now you should follow your heart and be with the person that treats you best and you care most about(adam!!) lol good luckk
The answer seems to be staring you in the face.What goes around comes around.You did it to adam and now you know how it feels.Thankfully adam was smart enough to get out of that ';bad situation'; with that ';mean girl'; who always treated him like crap.
Lets see if your smart enough to do the same.If you didnt care about hurting adam,then know rico doesnt care about you. BE a smart girl, get out now and see if you and adam still have a chance.Then do your best to be the girlfriend you should have been.Make it right.Or stay with Rico and suffer.Good luck
Relationship Advice Needed?
I've known this girl since we were both 5 and we've always been good friends. I've always had a crush on her and I just recently got up the courage to try to do something about it. I asked her a while ago about how she felt about me and she said ';I like you as a friend... but maybe a bit more.'; I told her how I felt about her. And ever since then nothing's really been said of it, and I'm not sure if anything's been really done physically about it either. Whenever we go to the gym together (her mom drives me go over with them when they go), she generally does stuff in different parts of the gym than I do, so we don't really talk, but then I can hear her telling my mom how she wishes I would talk to her more since I never say anything. We went to a bow and arrow range a while back too and she was always having me help her pull the arrows out of the targets even though they weren't that far in... I don't know if she really had a problem pulling them out or if there's something to that, but I had no problem getting them out at all so it kind of makes me think the latter. Whenever we're together doing stuff like playing Wii or whatever we generally make fun of eachother and tease eachother; both of our parents have told us that we're just flirting with eachother (my mom told me directly that she's flirting with me and I overheard her mom telling her the same thing). I don't really know what I should think about this, y'know? Could anyone give me some advice? We're both 13 now btw.
Thanks.Relationship Advice Needed?
yeah yr both 13. exactly. there is plenty of time. if you truly, truly care about her you will let her flirt with you and flirt back, but push no further. remember women and men flirt for different reasons. most of the time anyway. women flirt for attention, to feel sexy about themselves, to feel like the princess daddy said they are; and while men may do it for some of the same reasons, let's not forget the true ';sexual beings'; that they are and the motives behind. ask yourself do you want to be around untill she's 15 or untill she's 25? ( if you can hang till 25 you've figured it out.) paitence? (sp) is a virtue. take it from a woman of 30 who is finally gonna marry her 15 yr sweetheart.Relationship Advice Needed?
Sounds like you two are going to get married someday.
Try to kiss her.
she soo is into u just telll her
She's definitely interested in you--how much clearer can she make it? She wants you to be a little more aggressive; calling her, hanging out. But here's the deal--you're THIRTEEN YEARS OLD! That's barely into puberty. So if you're smart, you'll stay friends and enjoy your youth. All that other stuff comes along way too soon. You never did say what YOU wanted. Sounds like the situation may be a little bit over your head. Go play ball or something. Good luck!
C.B.
well, first of all im not your mother but if you were my child at 13 i dont thinki would let you be dating , and second of all i dont think a 13 year old knows what love is .
but it seems to me that since you told her she might seem a lil bit happy/sad that you told her , just ask her when you 2 are alone of how she felt about what you had to say , if she says she just wants to be friends then , be just friends , you all way young and you cant never tell what might happen in the next 10 years .
invite her to your place just to have a normal get together like how you always do it, then go to internet on yahoo answer..pretend that you saw something..say it out loud.. ';oh!! theres this guy needs our help and call her to show her the message you posted and let her read it'; then see what she says ;) trust me it will work because its your story between you and if she reads it she might think it sounds familiar so thats where the truth will come out if shes really into you. :) good luck.
Thanks.Relationship Advice Needed?
yeah yr both 13. exactly. there is plenty of time. if you truly, truly care about her you will let her flirt with you and flirt back, but push no further. remember women and men flirt for different reasons. most of the time anyway. women flirt for attention, to feel sexy about themselves, to feel like the princess daddy said they are; and while men may do it for some of the same reasons, let's not forget the true ';sexual beings'; that they are and the motives behind. ask yourself do you want to be around untill she's 15 or untill she's 25? ( if you can hang till 25 you've figured it out.) paitence? (sp) is a virtue. take it from a woman of 30 who is finally gonna marry her 15 yr sweetheart.Relationship Advice Needed?
Sounds like you two are going to get married someday.
Try to kiss her.
she soo is into u just telll her
She's definitely interested in you--how much clearer can she make it? She wants you to be a little more aggressive; calling her, hanging out. But here's the deal--you're THIRTEEN YEARS OLD! That's barely into puberty. So if you're smart, you'll stay friends and enjoy your youth. All that other stuff comes along way too soon. You never did say what YOU wanted. Sounds like the situation may be a little bit over your head. Go play ball or something. Good luck!
C.B.
well, first of all im not your mother but if you were my child at 13 i dont thinki would let you be dating , and second of all i dont think a 13 year old knows what love is .
but it seems to me that since you told her she might seem a lil bit happy/sad that you told her , just ask her when you 2 are alone of how she felt about what you had to say , if she says she just wants to be friends then , be just friends , you all way young and you cant never tell what might happen in the next 10 years .
invite her to your place just to have a normal get together like how you always do it, then go to internet on yahoo answer..pretend that you saw something..say it out loud.. ';oh!! theres this guy needs our help and call her to show her the message you posted and let her read it'; then see what she says ;) trust me it will work because its your story between you and if she reads it she might think it sounds familiar so thats where the truth will come out if shes really into you. :) good luck.
Relationship advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
Ok so my boyfriend always complains that I never want to have sex and that I'm never in the mood..when in reality he just picks the wrong times to be intimate..and its not even being intimate; its trying to go down my pants or go up my shirt. He picks times when other people are home and that we can get caught or when I'm not feeling good. So because of this he watches porn 5 out of 7 nights a week and jerks off daily. Then when we do decide to have sex like tonight, he can't finish. He tells me he cant, so he will just finish it himself in the house...to porn! So we got into a big fight tonight, because I told him I feel like I'm not good enough, since he has to finish off the porn. He tells me thats not the case..but wtf. why else wouldnt he be able to finish? I seriously think its because he watches porn wayyy too much so therefore he isnt able to finish with me. This isnt the first time this has happened either..It happens often.
this just makes me feel awful about myself, like I'm not good enough for him.
Tell me what you think pleaseRelationship advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
Hes the one with issues and is addicted to porn. When guyis that obsessed they cant get off to a real girl. He knows he has a problem and is trying to put it off on you so he doesnt have to deal with it. You not being good enough has nothing to do with HIS problem. My ex was this way but could still get off with he but he ended up cheating due to his lack of self control issues. Watch out this is a bad sign of your future with him. He trys things on you at bad times intentionally so he doesnt have to have sex and fail doing it with you. Then he turns it around on you.Relationship advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
He probably has a porn addiction, but either way he has a nice ***** that could do it, so prob there. And he should respect you when u say no. And if he is jerking off that much he has a sex prob i dont even jerk off that much, every once in a while when i need to. I dont have a gf and im doing just fine. and if he gets in a fight about sex thats sad cause thats not wut a realationship is about.
There u go baby cakes. :) Enjoy
this just makes me feel awful about myself, like I'm not good enough for him.
Tell me what you think pleaseRelationship advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
Hes the one with issues and is addicted to porn. When guyis that obsessed they cant get off to a real girl. He knows he has a problem and is trying to put it off on you so he doesnt have to deal with it. You not being good enough has nothing to do with HIS problem. My ex was this way but could still get off with he but he ended up cheating due to his lack of self control issues. Watch out this is a bad sign of your future with him. He trys things on you at bad times intentionally so he doesnt have to have sex and fail doing it with you. Then he turns it around on you.Relationship advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
He probably has a porn addiction, but either way he has a nice ***** that could do it, so prob there. And he should respect you when u say no. And if he is jerking off that much he has a sex prob i dont even jerk off that much, every once in a while when i need to. I dont have a gf and im doing just fine. and if he gets in a fight about sex thats sad cause thats not wut a realationship is about.
There u go baby cakes. :) Enjoy
Relationship advice needed from those in the know, please?
Hi from England!
Long story short: I've been with my g-friend for four years; we met at University, and now we're in the 'real world'. We live in the same city but in different houses, as she moved here a few weeks before I did so we had to get different contracts.
I am off to the Army in a few months, early summer 09. We have agreed that it will be too hard to keep things going while I am miles away at basic training, but until then we'd just have a good time together. However, things have taken an odd turn. We're still great mates, but that's all really. We spend a lot of time together and enjoy one another's company, but the sex life has dried up and we're so comfortable around one another that when we're out with friends we don't engage in the usual 'coupley' activites (hugging, holding hands etc).
We think that we're ready to split up, but as we're both so close it seems as if neither of us actually has the balls to do it. At the moment we're just plodding along in limbo, knowing that come summer that'll be the end of it anyway.
Even if we do split up now, we will remain very close friends and probably spend time sleeping over and going out together, which is obviously nice but does not support tyhe fact that we'd have to move on as inidividuals in this strange new city.
What, from your experience, would you offer as insight?
Thanks!Relationship advice needed from those in the know, please?
I was in the same situation and the guy and I have become best friends and our relationship has endured for many years. We are so comfortable with each other that we share all our problems as platonic friends but we never interfere in each others private lives. It is great. We know we can count on each other for support at any time. Having a true friend is very important. Do not be afraid of taking your relationship to the friendly level. Good luck.Relationship advice needed from those in the know, please?
you're already acting like you're broken up, so just make it mutually ';official.'; give each other permission to see other people, etc. it should be really easy and painless considering what you've said.
on the other hand, you could take Perpetual's advice. spice up your relationship by doing something different and surprising.
either way, don't put too much pressure on her or yourself.
good luck!!
Don't give up on your relationship! Just spice it up with new things you've never done before. For example, if she really likes art, sign yourself and her up for a few art classes. Doing new things for each other will bring the passion back in the relationship. :)
Btw, I love the way your wrote that out. Very....British. :)
I think your very lucky in a way. The split is coming and its going to be a happy parting. I would enjoy the time you have left together, the fact is, its in your mind and your subconciously ending it now. Enjoy your friendship.
My boyfriend's in the navy and we went through a similar situation. I broke up with him a month before he left for basic training but we still hung out and honestly, we still had sex and acted like a couple. I know you said you guys don't act like a couple, but hopefully this might help:
He left 6 months ago and I thought I would never really see him or talk to him again and we were just making the best of the time left. After he left though he began writing me letters and calling once a week, when they were allowed. And even though it's been 6 months and we don't have the label of ';girlfriend/boyfriend'; we basically are together. Turns out even though we thought it'd be hard to be together long distance, not being together at all was even harder.
So just play it by ear and see how it goes. Who knows what'll happen.
hey sweetheart..
i dont think your gf was comfy being your gf til you went to the army..
knowin she wont see you for so long..
you said the sex has dried up and your just great mates..
it seems to have happened itself..
maybe she has been pulling away from you for a while?
talk to her about if cause if you dont, you'll go off to the army and maybe regret not talking to her
go for it hun..
you need to know where you stand
good luck in the army
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Long story short: I've been with my g-friend for four years; we met at University, and now we're in the 'real world'. We live in the same city but in different houses, as she moved here a few weeks before I did so we had to get different contracts.
I am off to the Army in a few months, early summer 09. We have agreed that it will be too hard to keep things going while I am miles away at basic training, but until then we'd just have a good time together. However, things have taken an odd turn. We're still great mates, but that's all really. We spend a lot of time together and enjoy one another's company, but the sex life has dried up and we're so comfortable around one another that when we're out with friends we don't engage in the usual 'coupley' activites (hugging, holding hands etc).
We think that we're ready to split up, but as we're both so close it seems as if neither of us actually has the balls to do it. At the moment we're just plodding along in limbo, knowing that come summer that'll be the end of it anyway.
Even if we do split up now, we will remain very close friends and probably spend time sleeping over and going out together, which is obviously nice but does not support tyhe fact that we'd have to move on as inidividuals in this strange new city.
What, from your experience, would you offer as insight?
Thanks!Relationship advice needed from those in the know, please?
I was in the same situation and the guy and I have become best friends and our relationship has endured for many years. We are so comfortable with each other that we share all our problems as platonic friends but we never interfere in each others private lives. It is great. We know we can count on each other for support at any time. Having a true friend is very important. Do not be afraid of taking your relationship to the friendly level. Good luck.Relationship advice needed from those in the know, please?
you're already acting like you're broken up, so just make it mutually ';official.'; give each other permission to see other people, etc. it should be really easy and painless considering what you've said.
on the other hand, you could take Perpetual's advice. spice up your relationship by doing something different and surprising.
either way, don't put too much pressure on her or yourself.
good luck!!
Don't give up on your relationship! Just spice it up with new things you've never done before. For example, if she really likes art, sign yourself and her up for a few art classes. Doing new things for each other will bring the passion back in the relationship. :)
Btw, I love the way your wrote that out. Very....British. :)
I think your very lucky in a way. The split is coming and its going to be a happy parting. I would enjoy the time you have left together, the fact is, its in your mind and your subconciously ending it now. Enjoy your friendship.
My boyfriend's in the navy and we went through a similar situation. I broke up with him a month before he left for basic training but we still hung out and honestly, we still had sex and acted like a couple. I know you said you guys don't act like a couple, but hopefully this might help:
He left 6 months ago and I thought I would never really see him or talk to him again and we were just making the best of the time left. After he left though he began writing me letters and calling once a week, when they were allowed. And even though it's been 6 months and we don't have the label of ';girlfriend/boyfriend'; we basically are together. Turns out even though we thought it'd be hard to be together long distance, not being together at all was even harder.
So just play it by ear and see how it goes. Who knows what'll happen.
hey sweetheart..
i dont think your gf was comfy being your gf til you went to the army..
knowin she wont see you for so long..
you said the sex has dried up and your just great mates..
it seems to have happened itself..
maybe she has been pulling away from you for a while?
talk to her about if cause if you dont, you'll go off to the army and maybe regret not talking to her
go for it hun..
you need to know where you stand
good luck in the army
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Relationship advice needed?
I am confused and I need some advice. Ever since I can remember I've thought about the day when I could meet ';the one'; and have a family. I feel like I've lived my life, I'm 26 and done with school so there is nothing holding me back from starting a relationship. I feel like everyone around me has somebody except me and I get really envious and mad about it.
The catch is, I can't seem to meet the right man. I want someone who I am attracted to physically and mentally....meaning he needs to stimulate my minds and my body. So far, I only get one or the other....the guy will either be attractive and we fight all the time or the guy will be unattractive and we get along great. I hate the fact that everyone around me are happy and have perfect relationships. I have an idea of my man in my head and he just won't come along.
I'm really tired of being alone. I don't want to end up being an old maid. What should I do? Relationship advice needed?
My advice to you is be patient! Whatever you do, don't just settle with someone who makes you feel so so..... I was married for almost six years and found myself divorced because i was not happy, AT ALL!!! I have since found someone who makes me happier than i could have ever imagined! So all the time you spend feeling disappointed over not having found that special someone just give yourself the opportunity to find true happiness and take your time. I found the love of my life when i least expected to! You will find yours too!Relationship advice needed?
I think your situation is more like Physique vs. Personality. What I can advise is that lower your standards and be more open to other people. Who knows? Your Mr. Right might be just around the corner.
And oh, ';perfect relationships'; don't exist. The happiness that you see around you exist because the people involved in those relationships made it that way. Don't despair... Love yourself first and people will love you for it. :-)
i met my husband on eharmony. there are some scary people out there, but i truly met the perfect person for me. and you don't have to meet anyone in person you don't want to unless you're ready. don't give up, just because you're ready for him, doesn't mean he's ready for you this minute. give it some time, and try some online dating.
I think you need to just relax and do you what your heart tells you to do and not what your head tells you to do. There is a lot more to life than good looks. Besides that you don't know what someone is going to look like when they are old than what?
hi hun
the truth is there are very few relationships that work that well . people show one side ' and the other is kinda diff't . so don't put yourself down 2 much .the right guy ' just as not come along yet .
good hunting .
xx
maybe try internet matching sites that's all i can think of or someplace one night and maybe hopefully u will see someone u like both mentally and physically try eharmony or match.com
Just kep your eyes open, you will find Mr Right when you least expect it
The first thing you need to do is to remember you're only 26 years old.
The second thing you need to do is relax. The guys that might normally be attracted to you, and that you'd find attractive, are probably turned off by what sounds like your ';desperation.'; The guys who would find that ';attractive'; aren't the kind of guys you'd want anyway.
Finally, I think you need to find a way to be ';whole'; without being in a relationship. Learn to do things by yourself, and enjoy your own company. That's how you'll find someone who enjoys your company as well.
First off, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. It might look that way, but trust me it isn't. Not saying they aren't happy, but you don't know what their problems are.
Also, you aren't that old. You will be fine. Get out and do stuff where you can meet people. It is hard to meet quality people but there are some out there. It seems like when people give up looking they find somebody. Try to make more friends. Something will happen for you. In the mean time, be healthy and have fun.
First let me state that no matter how it seems from the outside, there are no perfect relationships. Everybody fights, everybody has problems, and everybody wants what you are looking for. Most people think love is all butterfly's and flowers. Love is not anything like that, at least not in the long run. Once the initial euphoric interlude wears off. It takes a lot of time before it comes back. My best advice to you is, stop looking for perfect. Find someone who's sh*t you can put up with for the rest of your life. It's easy to love someone, but it takes a hell of a lot to like someone.
I totally understand how you feel, but there is always something a person can be doing to better their life.so your done with school take the next step or accomplish another goal. Guys will come and go. Just never look for a man he will find you. Because when you look for a guy thats when you get the wrong one. I bet if you stopped thinking about it so much the right guy will come along, but it has to be when you least expect, people dont know this really, but you can give off vibes. things that you fear or have doubts about or whatever can come off in your body language... so in your mind its making you mad that you see other people together, you want to find this relationship so bad etc.. So you could be giving the vibe to guys that she is desperate.. Just know whatever you feel on the inside comes out and sometimes you dont have to say anything.. Just do your thing keep accomplishing goals for yourself and when its time for Mr Right to come along he will def find you.. =)makeup look
The catch is, I can't seem to meet the right man. I want someone who I am attracted to physically and mentally....meaning he needs to stimulate my minds and my body. So far, I only get one or the other....the guy will either be attractive and we fight all the time or the guy will be unattractive and we get along great. I hate the fact that everyone around me are happy and have perfect relationships. I have an idea of my man in my head and he just won't come along.
I'm really tired of being alone. I don't want to end up being an old maid. What should I do? Relationship advice needed?
My advice to you is be patient! Whatever you do, don't just settle with someone who makes you feel so so..... I was married for almost six years and found myself divorced because i was not happy, AT ALL!!! I have since found someone who makes me happier than i could have ever imagined! So all the time you spend feeling disappointed over not having found that special someone just give yourself the opportunity to find true happiness and take your time. I found the love of my life when i least expected to! You will find yours too!Relationship advice needed?
I think your situation is more like Physique vs. Personality. What I can advise is that lower your standards and be more open to other people. Who knows? Your Mr. Right might be just around the corner.
And oh, ';perfect relationships'; don't exist. The happiness that you see around you exist because the people involved in those relationships made it that way. Don't despair... Love yourself first and people will love you for it. :-)
i met my husband on eharmony. there are some scary people out there, but i truly met the perfect person for me. and you don't have to meet anyone in person you don't want to unless you're ready. don't give up, just because you're ready for him, doesn't mean he's ready for you this minute. give it some time, and try some online dating.
I think you need to just relax and do you what your heart tells you to do and not what your head tells you to do. There is a lot more to life than good looks. Besides that you don't know what someone is going to look like when they are old than what?
hi hun
the truth is there are very few relationships that work that well . people show one side ' and the other is kinda diff't . so don't put yourself down 2 much .the right guy ' just as not come along yet .
good hunting .
xx
maybe try internet matching sites that's all i can think of or someplace one night and maybe hopefully u will see someone u like both mentally and physically try eharmony or match.com
Just kep your eyes open, you will find Mr Right when you least expect it
The first thing you need to do is to remember you're only 26 years old.
The second thing you need to do is relax. The guys that might normally be attracted to you, and that you'd find attractive, are probably turned off by what sounds like your ';desperation.'; The guys who would find that ';attractive'; aren't the kind of guys you'd want anyway.
Finally, I think you need to find a way to be ';whole'; without being in a relationship. Learn to do things by yourself, and enjoy your own company. That's how you'll find someone who enjoys your company as well.
First off, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. It might look that way, but trust me it isn't. Not saying they aren't happy, but you don't know what their problems are.
Also, you aren't that old. You will be fine. Get out and do stuff where you can meet people. It is hard to meet quality people but there are some out there. It seems like when people give up looking they find somebody. Try to make more friends. Something will happen for you. In the mean time, be healthy and have fun.
First let me state that no matter how it seems from the outside, there are no perfect relationships. Everybody fights, everybody has problems, and everybody wants what you are looking for. Most people think love is all butterfly's and flowers. Love is not anything like that, at least not in the long run. Once the initial euphoric interlude wears off. It takes a lot of time before it comes back. My best advice to you is, stop looking for perfect. Find someone who's sh*t you can put up with for the rest of your life. It's easy to love someone, but it takes a hell of a lot to like someone.
I totally understand how you feel, but there is always something a person can be doing to better their life.so your done with school take the next step or accomplish another goal. Guys will come and go. Just never look for a man he will find you. Because when you look for a guy thats when you get the wrong one. I bet if you stopped thinking about it so much the right guy will come along, but it has to be when you least expect, people dont know this really, but you can give off vibes. things that you fear or have doubts about or whatever can come off in your body language... so in your mind its making you mad that you see other people together, you want to find this relationship so bad etc.. So you could be giving the vibe to guys that she is desperate.. Just know whatever you feel on the inside comes out and sometimes you dont have to say anything.. Just do your thing keep accomplishing goals for yourself and when its time for Mr Right to come along he will def find you.. =)
Relationship advice please. ?
My gf and I recently took a week of space (she was feeling smothered). It was hard at first and I resisted A LOT but eventually I gave it to her. In the beginning all I could think about was how to fix our relationship and how to make it work so it was fun again. Then I started to feel like she didnt want to work things out so I began taking steps to secure and ground myself in prep for a break up. I made a few new friends, went out a lot, and focused on all the negative things in our relationship so I would feel better when she wanted to leave. She didnt want to and she came back after the week was up. During the week I met a girl and we hit it off (two hottie surfer girls who love to camp and talk theology is a rad combo). We hit it off and were making out a lot; things were getting pretty heated. This carried over after my gf and I got back together. I told her I was making out with hottie surfer girl and she supported me in it cuz thats how our relationship is...relatively open.
Unfortunately, she just got out of a 4 year relationship a month or two ago and I know shes not over her ex and I'm still technically in a relationship. I'm struggling because I put my defenses up before I met hottie surfer girl and i'm trying to decide what to do about my relationship w out having her influencing my decision.
I need to decide what is best for me in terms of staying or going with my girlfriend and I DONT want outside influences,
My question: Is it human nature to be so socialized that the choice to break up can only be made with the interest and influence of other people in mind?
Also: Am I being rational or am i seriously about to throw away a year long relationship filled with so much growth over an imbalanced hormonal level from which the desire to make out and forge a new relationship is constantly bombarding my thought process?
Relationship advice please. ?
The answer is relatively simple: do you love your girlfriend enough to endure the good times and the bad? Or are you willing to just give it up at one pot hole in the road? If the answer is yes to the latter than perhaps you are being slightly irrational and seriously about to throw away a year long relationship filled with so much growth over an imbalanced hormonal level from which the desire to make out and forge a new relationship is constantly bombarding your thought process.
Relationship advice please. ?
True love is stronger than any other desire. My girlfriend and I after being together for three years decided to ';take a break';. Dating other women only convinced me of how much I love my girlfriend. Nobody else holds a candle to her. We are back together and our relationship is stronger than ever. My advice? Sounds like you two aren't really in love and you should probably call it off.
All of this happened in the span of one week? You tried ';at first'; to find ways to make it work..at first? Girl, it was one week! How can there be anything of substance happen in one week? You HAVE to have been thinking of breaking with her for a while prior to her moving out for a week. And hooking up with some surfer chick, making out with her while you were supposed to be evaluating your relationship with your girlfriend? Wow. If I were your girlfriend or the surfer chick I sure the heck wouldn't want you ~ relationships are not supposed to be so easily tossed to the wind. You need to rethink your values, as in, what matters in a relationship to you.
Unfortunately, she just got out of a 4 year relationship a month or two ago and I know shes not over her ex and I'm still technically in a relationship. I'm struggling because I put my defenses up before I met hottie surfer girl and i'm trying to decide what to do about my relationship w out having her influencing my decision.
I need to decide what is best for me in terms of staying or going with my girlfriend and I DONT want outside influences,
My question: Is it human nature to be so socialized that the choice to break up can only be made with the interest and influence of other people in mind?
Also: Am I being rational or am i seriously about to throw away a year long relationship filled with so much growth over an imbalanced hormonal level from which the desire to make out and forge a new relationship is constantly bombarding my thought process?
Relationship advice please. ?
The answer is relatively simple: do you love your girlfriend enough to endure the good times and the bad? Or are you willing to just give it up at one pot hole in the road? If the answer is yes to the latter than perhaps you are being slightly irrational and seriously about to throw away a year long relationship filled with so much growth over an imbalanced hormonal level from which the desire to make out and forge a new relationship is constantly bombarding your thought process.
Relationship advice please. ?
True love is stronger than any other desire. My girlfriend and I after being together for three years decided to ';take a break';. Dating other women only convinced me of how much I love my girlfriend. Nobody else holds a candle to her. We are back together and our relationship is stronger than ever. My advice? Sounds like you two aren't really in love and you should probably call it off.
All of this happened in the span of one week? You tried ';at first'; to find ways to make it work..at first? Girl, it was one week! How can there be anything of substance happen in one week? You HAVE to have been thinking of breaking with her for a while prior to her moving out for a week. And hooking up with some surfer chick, making out with her while you were supposed to be evaluating your relationship with your girlfriend? Wow. If I were your girlfriend or the surfer chick I sure the heck wouldn't want you ~ relationships are not supposed to be so easily tossed to the wind. You need to rethink your values, as in, what matters in a relationship to you.
Relationship Advice girls and experienced guys only?
I am a guy.
I like this girl. I have liked her for the past year. I have only known her for 3 years. Me and her liked each other 2 years ago but that got nowhere because both of us were to scared to ask each other out. She now goes out with a partial friend. I like her and want to go out with her. I don't no how to get her to like me and go out with me without ruining our friendship.if you can, plz tell me how to get her to like me, she is goofy fun funny and always happy. about once a week i go out with her and some of our mutual friends. we hang walk around and talk its never really akward cuz one friend will keep everything buzyRelationship Advice girls and experienced guys only?
There is very Little one can do to make another person like you, They either like you or they don't. It's mostly chemistry, between you. It's there or it's not.
If she won't ask you out alone, they you have to ask her out. There is no other way, as you well know, from two years at least.
If you want more of her, you have to risk more, to get that. But just asking her out, and going out on a date, shouldn't ruin your friendship, assuming you do nothing stupid. She may just say, well that was fun, but it's not what I'm looking for. The same may be true of you. So far you have been friends in a group, so when it comes down to one on one, the whole dynamic, changes.
But you should at least give it a try,nothing ventured, nothing gained.Relationship Advice girls and experienced guys only?
Very typical situation. I would suggest just tell the girl that you like her rather than not telling at all. Who knows? When she refuses, so what at least you tried. It's not like she's gonna refuse your love forever. She maybe feel awkward at first which will affect your friendship but it's up to you on how you're gonna make her feel that you still want to continue as friends.
hmm... Maybe try talking to her alot. You can't reaally do much now, since she is going out with someone. I suggest waiting until they break-up (be patient). When they break-up, give her a week, and then ask her out. If you ask her before, she is likly to be uspest about her break-up, and reject you. Good Luck!
I like this girl. I have liked her for the past year. I have only known her for 3 years. Me and her liked each other 2 years ago but that got nowhere because both of us were to scared to ask each other out. She now goes out with a partial friend. I like her and want to go out with her. I don't no how to get her to like me and go out with me without ruining our friendship.if you can, plz tell me how to get her to like me, she is goofy fun funny and always happy. about once a week i go out with her and some of our mutual friends. we hang walk around and talk its never really akward cuz one friend will keep everything buzyRelationship Advice girls and experienced guys only?
There is very Little one can do to make another person like you, They either like you or they don't. It's mostly chemistry, between you. It's there or it's not.
If she won't ask you out alone, they you have to ask her out. There is no other way, as you well know, from two years at least.
If you want more of her, you have to risk more, to get that. But just asking her out, and going out on a date, shouldn't ruin your friendship, assuming you do nothing stupid. She may just say, well that was fun, but it's not what I'm looking for. The same may be true of you. So far you have been friends in a group, so when it comes down to one on one, the whole dynamic, changes.
But you should at least give it a try,nothing ventured, nothing gained.Relationship Advice girls and experienced guys only?
Very typical situation. I would suggest just tell the girl that you like her rather than not telling at all. Who knows? When she refuses, so what at least you tried. It's not like she's gonna refuse your love forever. She maybe feel awkward at first which will affect your friendship but it's up to you on how you're gonna make her feel that you still want to continue as friends.
hmm... Maybe try talking to her alot. You can't reaally do much now, since she is going out with someone. I suggest waiting until they break-up (be patient). When they break-up, give her a week, and then ask her out. If you ask her before, she is likly to be uspest about her break-up, and reject you. Good Luck!
Relationship advice-boy trouble (help!)?
So I have this very close friend of mine for 5 years. He is the one person who knows everything about me, and the same goes for me. Last week when we were drinking together at a party we happened to kiss, and a bunch of people saw it. I do regret it ever happened but for the moment it just felt right. Afterwards my friend kept pushing me for a relationship, but even he knows that I like someone else, and I told him that night was a mistake.
My friend lives in another city and told me he'ld like to visit here again next week if I will see him. I told him I would but he should know that I do like someone else and that he doesn't have a chance with me.
He got mad. Stopped talking to me. and then the next day he told me he was mistaken about his feelings and that he didnt wanted anything serious, still he'ld like to see me preferably in the company of my ';hot'; friends';.
One minute it was all about me and now he's just telling me about all these girls he's interested in.
What a coincide it happened right after I told him I like someone else! :(
I am furious. And can't decide what I should do or tell him?
a) should I still meet him? being ';cool'; friends and all that
b)tell him that I dont want to see him?
or what
it's just driving me nuts.
:(
Relationship advice-boy trouble (help!)?
That is what he wants you to feel like. To me it sounds like you like him alot! I don't care what you say you want to be with him and you know you do. So stop playing dumb and tell him that you don't like no one else and that you like him. He will then want a relationship and there you go a happy relationship. But if that is not what you want then still meet him and be cool friends and show him that you don't want nothing more with him!Relationship advice-boy trouble (help!)?
He is only trying to upset you because he feels rejected by you. Let him know how he made you feel, and definitely explain to him the value he has in your life as a friend. Hopefully you can salvage the friendship. If not, I wouldn't hang around too long waiting to patch things up... it would only complicate things and result in hurt feelings on both sides. If he's going to keep throwing this fit about it he isn't worth your time... who needs that extra drama?
My friend lives in another city and told me he'ld like to visit here again next week if I will see him. I told him I would but he should know that I do like someone else and that he doesn't have a chance with me.
He got mad. Stopped talking to me. and then the next day he told me he was mistaken about his feelings and that he didnt wanted anything serious, still he'ld like to see me preferably in the company of my ';hot'; friends';.
One minute it was all about me and now he's just telling me about all these girls he's interested in.
What a coincide it happened right after I told him I like someone else! :(
I am furious. And can't decide what I should do or tell him?
a) should I still meet him? being ';cool'; friends and all that
b)tell him that I dont want to see him?
or what
it's just driving me nuts.
:(
Relationship advice-boy trouble (help!)?
That is what he wants you to feel like. To me it sounds like you like him alot! I don't care what you say you want to be with him and you know you do. So stop playing dumb and tell him that you don't like no one else and that you like him. He will then want a relationship and there you go a happy relationship. But if that is not what you want then still meet him and be cool friends and show him that you don't want nothing more with him!Relationship advice-boy trouble (help!)?
He is only trying to upset you because he feels rejected by you. Let him know how he made you feel, and definitely explain to him the value he has in your life as a friend. Hopefully you can salvage the friendship. If not, I wouldn't hang around too long waiting to patch things up... it would only complicate things and result in hurt feelings on both sides. If he's going to keep throwing this fit about it he isn't worth your time... who needs that extra drama?
Relationship Advice Please Help?
Help would be appreciated... Does she like me? How should I break the Ice?
First of all thank you all for responding... This girl that I have known for a very long time because of school... not very well though asked me now in grade 11 if I want to be co-head of a department at our school with her. Is she flirting with me? Does she like me? I find her attractive and i'm just curious as to what she is thinking
I accepted the invite for co-head and we've been spending more time together because of this and I really have come to like her...like like...
At a party we were both drunk and we hooked up.. it was in a hottub and someone dared her to give me a hickey which turned into a little more... we had our own little corner in the tub and she began to stroke me I in reaction after this began to finger her... Now its afterwords and its been a little bit awkward like I see her in the halls she smiles at me and says hello and so do I but we haven't talked about it.... Just for the record we were NOT outrageously drunk just buzzed
Thank you for your help!!!Relationship Advice Please Help?
well you like her and she likes you then the next step is ask her to be your girlfriend...........................Relationship Advice Please Help?
I think you should just get her away from everyone else, and very calmly talk about what happened. Just calmy bring it up and mention that you don't want things to be awkward. Tell her that you enjoyed spending time with her..Feel out the situation..If shee seems to be in to you just tell her that you would love to spend time with her again, but maybe not quite the way it turned out last time. You will never know until you talk to her..
If all else fails, as her best friend.
First of all thank you all for responding... This girl that I have known for a very long time because of school... not very well though asked me now in grade 11 if I want to be co-head of a department at our school with her. Is she flirting with me? Does she like me? I find her attractive and i'm just curious as to what she is thinking
I accepted the invite for co-head and we've been spending more time together because of this and I really have come to like her...like like...
At a party we were both drunk and we hooked up.. it was in a hottub and someone dared her to give me a hickey which turned into a little more... we had our own little corner in the tub and she began to stroke me I in reaction after this began to finger her... Now its afterwords and its been a little bit awkward like I see her in the halls she smiles at me and says hello and so do I but we haven't talked about it.... Just for the record we were NOT outrageously drunk just buzzed
Thank you for your help!!!Relationship Advice Please Help?
well you like her and she likes you then the next step is ask her to be your girlfriend...........................Relationship Advice Please Help?
I think you should just get her away from everyone else, and very calmly talk about what happened. Just calmy bring it up and mention that you don't want things to be awkward. Tell her that you enjoyed spending time with her..Feel out the situation..If shee seems to be in to you just tell her that you would love to spend time with her again, but maybe not quite the way it turned out last time. You will never know until you talk to her..
If all else fails, as her best friend.
Relationship advice my slutty girlfriend?
I have been talking to this girl for 7yrs and we recently broke up for a period of 5 months, we are back 2gether now but i recently found out that she had been having one night stands with a bunch of different guys, 15 guys in the course of 5 months i only had 1 female,which was a constant girl friend, she even acts differently and also when we have sex its because she say its a reward for treating her good which hasnt been much, she say things like she'll make me wait 2 months before she give me any again, but yet and still if she wasnt with me she would give it up easily to someone she barely knows i thinks she's a whore and i want to break up with her now, all my friends think i should break up with her, i want to, its just that i love the whore and cant seem to let go, how do i let go. please any advice would be greatly appreicated.Relationship advice my slutty girlfriend?
you can't change the way you feel about someone, if you really don't want to be with her straight up tell her how you feel. when you do break up with her be sure to tell her you don't want to see her again because you don't want to waste your time.Relationship advice my slutty girlfriend?
I think you gotta go easier on her for her sex history- I doubt you'd have an issue if you had done the same.
Chances are she rebounded hard from you and lost her self esteem she tried to make up by sleeping with all these guys (if she indeed did).
But her using sex as a reward is wrong. You need to lay down your expectations clearly, but be aware she's probably trying to salavage some of her self esteem by making you wait.
No no no,you cant love this gal, you seriously dont deserve this for Gods sake! just give yourself another chance and you will meet a decent woman who deserves your love and the love making not just a whore who feel it for the sake of her own good,what about you,your feelings your dignity pliz let go and tell her to the face that you cant go on and its final.
make the hard decision and make your life a happy one with a deserving woman.
It sounds like both of you have a lot of psychological problems. I think you should decide what you want to do with your life and if you want to stoop that low or if you are better than that. I hope you don't have any infectious diseases.
She is a loser. Are you going to hang around a loser or do you have higher grounds to walk?
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
dude lol
forget her shes a **** lol
15 guys in 5 months?
3 guys a month?
lets say thats 2 guys every two weeks give or take.
thats a guy a week
wow
thats gross
';so does it have any tread left or is it like throwing a hotdog down the hallway?'; %26lt;%26lt;%26lt; stuie griffin
You love the whore? Yet you belittle her by calling her names? Do you hate women? I think you do. You seem abusive and narcissistic, not to mention stuck in the middle ages where women were not allowed to be as sexually free as men.
You deserve to be single.
i do not condone her actions
but, she has been honest and upfront with you
you seem to thrive on it
why do you want to change things??
you say your friends think you shoudl break up with her
but do you???
You now wat its going to hurt getting over her but time makes things better trust me you deserve better no one needs people like that in their lives, its only going to hurt you on the long run if you stay with her :( sorry i know it hurts
an interesting question... in so many ways. She doesnt sound very nice!
I suggest you imagine 'your baby sister' asking you the same question....and do what you advise her to.
Just break up with her, and then deal with the depression! which can usually be settled by a good drink :P ! x
DUMP HER ON THE SIDE OF THE ROAD.
this is call the crying game ,she sounds like the Tip that need to hurt people to feel good about her self..good luck ..p.s give her my web address. hell what one more !
There are lots of girls like that, which is ok if you're one of the random hookups, but not so good if you're the boyfriend. You don't need that in your life. Eventually she'll leave you again, even if she's not cheating now. Find a new girl and forget about her. I know it's not easy, but things between you and her will not get better- they will only get worse.
Not gonna give you any for 2 months? Tell her that's ok, I'll get it somewhere else. Then show her the door.
Get rid of her now before you end up raising some other guy's baby. If she gets pregnant, don't sign the birth certificate, and demand a blood test- she WILL claim that it's yours.
Your Relationship sounds Mutually challenged .... or in big Trouble !
Note i said Mutual.... well , lets start with you , because you wrote
on here and we don't have her side of things. YOu continue to call
her '; '; certain names..... Let me tell you, no matter what your friends
have been working into a frenzy to make you break up with her, YOU
have no right to call any girl such names!
And further, by doing so ...... you make it very clear you don't want her
in your life. So really, why even the question on here ?
As for her, if she is as bad as you say ...... R e A l l Y ..... then don't
make excuses.... there are lots of other girls who would treat you like
gold ! Ask yourself , do you like to have somebody dictate to you when you can eat, love , breath, ........... and so on .
I am already guessing the answer, your best bet is LEAVE.
Ponder on this one :
Which sucks more - going out with someone who sleeps with a lot of men but doesnt feel any emotional connection to them OR having a relationship with someone who only sleeps with one other girl but has constant contact with her (rebound/f*buddy with emotional attachment)?
And who started to sleep first with another person? You or your girlfriend.
The real question here is which is more important to you - the exclusivity of your sexual relationship or your emotional fidelity?
I麓m stressed you have the nerve to call your GF a **** but you are also doing the same thing but with a possible emotional attachment.
Talk to her about this. Open up to why she does it and be honest also to her on how you feel about the other girl.
Trust is important in a relationship. Work on that one. :)
man it sucks when you first hear it i dumped my girlfriend for a day and she did that reason why she said to numb the pain im sorry but thats wrong no matter what and 15 in 5 months i just say break up with her its going hurt but if she did that you will get over it trust me you dont want to stay with a women who did that then tell your kids if you ever get married that its wrong to have sex that much you will be a whore when your wife did it just break the relationship off sorry man
hmmmn... interesting there, but really you should ask yourself-
as to why you sound so driven to make an end to your relationship?
Is it due to the fact that she's been around the block several times? or is it because all of your buddies want you to break it up with her?
i just do not understand how you can let the smallest factor have such a grand reflection towards your romance life!
thus, you still love this 'whore' so why allow your guy friends to basically tell you what you should and shouldn't do??
0_O
you can't change the way you feel about someone, if you really don't want to be with her straight up tell her how you feel. when you do break up with her be sure to tell her you don't want to see her again because you don't want to waste your time.Relationship advice my slutty girlfriend?
I think you gotta go easier on her for her sex history- I doubt you'd have an issue if you had done the same.
Chances are she rebounded hard from you and lost her self esteem she tried to make up by sleeping with all these guys (if she indeed did).
But her using sex as a reward is wrong. You need to lay down your expectations clearly, but be aware she's probably trying to salavage some of her self esteem by making you wait.
No no no,you cant love this gal, you seriously dont deserve this for Gods sake! just give yourself another chance and you will meet a decent woman who deserves your love and the love making not just a whore who feel it for the sake of her own good,what about you,your feelings your dignity pliz let go and tell her to the face that you cant go on and its final.
make the hard decision and make your life a happy one with a deserving woman.
It sounds like both of you have a lot of psychological problems. I think you should decide what you want to do with your life and if you want to stoop that low or if you are better than that. I hope you don't have any infectious diseases.
She is a loser. Are you going to hang around a loser or do you have higher grounds to walk?
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
dude lol
forget her shes a **** lol
15 guys in 5 months?
3 guys a month?
lets say thats 2 guys every two weeks give or take.
thats a guy a week
wow
thats gross
';so does it have any tread left or is it like throwing a hotdog down the hallway?'; %26lt;%26lt;%26lt; stuie griffin
You love the whore? Yet you belittle her by calling her names? Do you hate women? I think you do. You seem abusive and narcissistic, not to mention stuck in the middle ages where women were not allowed to be as sexually free as men.
You deserve to be single.
i do not condone her actions
but, she has been honest and upfront with you
you seem to thrive on it
why do you want to change things??
you say your friends think you shoudl break up with her
but do you???
You now wat its going to hurt getting over her but time makes things better trust me you deserve better no one needs people like that in their lives, its only going to hurt you on the long run if you stay with her :( sorry i know it hurts
an interesting question... in so many ways. She doesnt sound very nice!
I suggest you imagine 'your baby sister' asking you the same question....and do what you advise her to.
Just break up with her, and then deal with the depression! which can usually be settled by a good drink :P ! x
DUMP HER ON THE SIDE OF THE ROAD.
this is call the crying game ,she sounds like the Tip that need to hurt people to feel good about her self..good luck ..p.s give her my web address. hell what one more !
There are lots of girls like that, which is ok if you're one of the random hookups, but not so good if you're the boyfriend. You don't need that in your life. Eventually she'll leave you again, even if she's not cheating now. Find a new girl and forget about her. I know it's not easy, but things between you and her will not get better- they will only get worse.
Not gonna give you any for 2 months? Tell her that's ok, I'll get it somewhere else. Then show her the door.
Get rid of her now before you end up raising some other guy's baby. If she gets pregnant, don't sign the birth certificate, and demand a blood test- she WILL claim that it's yours.
Your Relationship sounds Mutually challenged .... or in big Trouble !
Note i said Mutual.... well , lets start with you , because you wrote
on here and we don't have her side of things. YOu continue to call
her '; '; certain names..... Let me tell you, no matter what your friends
have been working into a frenzy to make you break up with her, YOU
have no right to call any girl such names!
And further, by doing so ...... you make it very clear you don't want her
in your life. So really, why even the question on here ?
As for her, if she is as bad as you say ...... R e A l l Y ..... then don't
make excuses.... there are lots of other girls who would treat you like
gold ! Ask yourself , do you like to have somebody dictate to you when you can eat, love , breath, ........... and so on .
I am already guessing the answer, your best bet is LEAVE.
Ponder on this one :
Which sucks more - going out with someone who sleeps with a lot of men but doesnt feel any emotional connection to them OR having a relationship with someone who only sleeps with one other girl but has constant contact with her (rebound/f*buddy with emotional attachment)?
And who started to sleep first with another person? You or your girlfriend.
The real question here is which is more important to you - the exclusivity of your sexual relationship or your emotional fidelity?
I麓m stressed you have the nerve to call your GF a **** but you are also doing the same thing but with a possible emotional attachment.
Talk to her about this. Open up to why she does it and be honest also to her on how you feel about the other girl.
Trust is important in a relationship. Work on that one. :)
man it sucks when you first hear it i dumped my girlfriend for a day and she did that reason why she said to numb the pain im sorry but thats wrong no matter what and 15 in 5 months i just say break up with her its going hurt but if she did that you will get over it trust me you dont want to stay with a women who did that then tell your kids if you ever get married that its wrong to have sex that much you will be a whore when your wife did it just break the relationship off sorry man
hmmmn... interesting there, but really you should ask yourself-
as to why you sound so driven to make an end to your relationship?
Is it due to the fact that she's been around the block several times? or is it because all of your buddies want you to break it up with her?
i just do not understand how you can let the smallest factor have such a grand reflection towards your romance life!
thus, you still love this 'whore' so why allow your guy friends to basically tell you what you should and shouldn't do??
0_O
Relationship advice needed!?
I have nowhere else to go.. So, I've been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and initially it was an awesome relationship. We saw eachother lots, he picked me up, we rented movies, ate out, it was great.
Gradually, other things seemed to become important to him.. games like World of Warcraft (which was kind of my fault because I suggested playing together) and sleep. It's not like he has a job or goes to school (at 23!?), but he would just keep blowing me off over and over. Now I'm always the one asking to come over, always the one bussing to his place, we never do anything interesting, and he's not willing to go places with me when I want to. I haven't seen him for about two weeks for no apparent reason.
So, like any smart girlfriend, I tried last night to break up with him. He was shocked, then mad, then accepted it, then begged, and now he's offering to change back to before, he's offering to see me more and he says he'll do anything.
Of course, I don't know if he WILL actually change.. but I don't know if I should give him a chance because within these past two weeks I've cried everyday, felt like ****, and I don't want that ever to happen. I even started liking other people and got used to being on my own, now I don't know what to do.. the thought of never cuddling with him again makes me hurt and I honestly can't decide.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is depressing.Relationship advice needed!?
TO BE HONEST YOU SHOULD MOVE ON.
HES CLEARLY GETTIN BORED OF THE RELATIONSHIP
GUYS NEED SPACE TO THINK AND JUST BE BY THEMSELVES
BUT CLEARLY THEY JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL US.
SO THEY DO WHAT HE WAS DOING.ALL OF A SUDDEN HE
STARTED BECOMING MORE BUSY.N NOT SEE EACHOTHER ALOT.HE MOST LIKELY FEELS TRAPPED AND IS
PROBALY THINKIN THE SAME THING THAT U ARE.
WETHER HE SHUD STAY I THE RELATIONSHIP OR MOVE ON.
I SUGGEST JUST GIVE HIM SPACE ALL HE REALLY NEED IS TIME TO CLEAR HIS HEAD.
SO HE CAN MAKE UP HIS MIND.eyeshadow makeup
Gradually, other things seemed to become important to him.. games like World of Warcraft (which was kind of my fault because I suggested playing together) and sleep. It's not like he has a job or goes to school (at 23!?), but he would just keep blowing me off over and over. Now I'm always the one asking to come over, always the one bussing to his place, we never do anything interesting, and he's not willing to go places with me when I want to. I haven't seen him for about two weeks for no apparent reason.
So, like any smart girlfriend, I tried last night to break up with him. He was shocked, then mad, then accepted it, then begged, and now he's offering to change back to before, he's offering to see me more and he says he'll do anything.
Of course, I don't know if he WILL actually change.. but I don't know if I should give him a chance because within these past two weeks I've cried everyday, felt like ****, and I don't want that ever to happen. I even started liking other people and got used to being on my own, now I don't know what to do.. the thought of never cuddling with him again makes me hurt and I honestly can't decide.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is depressing.Relationship advice needed!?
TO BE HONEST YOU SHOULD MOVE ON.
HES CLEARLY GETTIN BORED OF THE RELATIONSHIP
GUYS NEED SPACE TO THINK AND JUST BE BY THEMSELVES
BUT CLEARLY THEY JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL US.
SO THEY DO WHAT HE WAS DOING.ALL OF A SUDDEN HE
STARTED BECOMING MORE BUSY.N NOT SEE EACHOTHER ALOT.HE MOST LIKELY FEELS TRAPPED AND IS
PROBALY THINKIN THE SAME THING THAT U ARE.
WETHER HE SHUD STAY I THE RELATIONSHIP OR MOVE ON.
I SUGGEST JUST GIVE HIM SPACE ALL HE REALLY NEED IS TIME TO CLEAR HIS HEAD.
SO HE CAN MAKE UP HIS MIND.
Relationship Advice Needed Please ?
I am feeling quite frustrated today. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now and we didn't sleep together until about 4 months into the relationship which was his decision. For the last 2 months he has totally lost his sex drive which we have talked about but he gets incredibly defensive about and goes quiet.
I love this man dearly, and it hurts me that we are so in love yet that side of the relationship isn't happening and when it does it feels as if he is doing it just to keep me happy. I just don't know what to do, this is all making me feel quite rejected. Every time I try and broach the subject he says he is 'tired' yet he has all the energy in the world for cleaning his car.
What doesn't help me is that I was cheated on in my previous relationship after being with the guy for 7 years. My new boyfriend is constantly on his laptop and is very secretive about it - I have investigated (I know) and it seems that he isn't doing anything untoward yet it still bothers me.
Please help, any opinions and advice would eb much appreciatedRelationship Advice Needed Please ?
thats horrible. i think hes not sexually attracted to you as they say it takes two to tango. you seem to be making all the effort and he is cleaning his car? sounds like you need a man who puts you first.
you could try finding new ways to spice up the sex life but it seems he has lost interest and is taking you for granted.
I love this man dearly, and it hurts me that we are so in love yet that side of the relationship isn't happening and when it does it feels as if he is doing it just to keep me happy. I just don't know what to do, this is all making me feel quite rejected. Every time I try and broach the subject he says he is 'tired' yet he has all the energy in the world for cleaning his car.
What doesn't help me is that I was cheated on in my previous relationship after being with the guy for 7 years. My new boyfriend is constantly on his laptop and is very secretive about it - I have investigated (I know) and it seems that he isn't doing anything untoward yet it still bothers me.
Please help, any opinions and advice would eb much appreciatedRelationship Advice Needed Please ?
thats horrible. i think hes not sexually attracted to you as they say it takes two to tango. you seem to be making all the effort and he is cleaning his car? sounds like you need a man who puts you first.
you could try finding new ways to spice up the sex life but it seems he has lost interest and is taking you for granted.
Relationship advice please?
I need advice please!!?
I'm sorry this may be long
Okay so my boyfriend and I of going on 4 years went on a break yesterday. He is almost 18, I am almost 19. We bicker over small and pointless things like any other couple does, nothing ever big. EVER. Well this past Wednesday he said he was busy all day and didn't call or text me the whole day until almost midnight, I over reacted and got upset that he didnt care enough to call or text me the whole day, that phone conversation ended with him hanging up on me. The next morning he didnt answer his phone, so I knew something was wrong...So I drive to his house to talk to him about the night before. He said he didnt want to talk to me right now. So I knew obviously something was wrong again because he never says that to me. So I tell him that we should talk because something wasnt right with him not wanting to talk..he tells me that last night he just snapped and can't take our pointless arguements anymore and that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. (He and I were both crying the entire time.) I asked him if he loves me and he said he does still but not as a girlfriend, wtf does that mean? I was in shock, how can you the night before say you love someone but then the next day you ';snap'; and dont? I go home crying and call him a couple hours later and I asked him since this is a huge decision if he would take a week to think and make sure this is what he really wants..he said yes give me the week, I want to clear my head and gather my thoughts. I said okay so this break means no talking or texting eachother right? and he said we can talk a little bit. He said I want to know how you're doing and how the first day at your new job goes and how you're uncle's surgery goes and I said okay..I just dont know why he would want to talk to me and want to know that stuff if he's the one wanting a break. I thought break meant no talking, texting, or communication of any kind. Does he sound like this is what he really wants? I don't know if he's just confused and wants to think or what it is. I am soo scared for next friday to come when he tells me what he's decided after thinking this whole week. His family was at the water park when this happend so it was just he and I talking about it. I am really close to his family especially his 2 younger brothers. I never got to say goodbye or anything to any of them. I am just in so much shock.
What do you all think about this? Does anyone see anything positive that can come out of this week?
Any help would be great. Sorry this is long I just had to tell the whole situation for you all to understand better..Thanks everyone!Relationship advice please?
yikes...sounds like he reached his breaking point, he's tired of the same old same old....too much lil' fights over nuthin...u need to give him space for this week. let him sort it all out, if u keep ';naggin''; (guys term) u will push it all over the edge, perhaps go enjoy some gal pal times w/friends for now, who knows what will happen til Friday, but u should know one way or the other by then...then go from there...and ask us all next week should u need..Relationship advice please?
Uhmm, just ask him what he means.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a> -Help
sure something can be positive out of this...because he obviously called you and check up on you...so just wait until the end of the week to see how he feels
Eric:
Chances are the time apart will help him realize what a special gal you are.
Seetha:
Eric and I fight like that all the time. I overreact too, and the best advice I can give is for both of you to just relax and not freak out about the small stuff.
Ok.
I can understand where he is coming from.
The pointless arguments, are horrible. Me and my fiance get into them almost everyday, and its tiring. There is such a thing as ';falling out of love'; with someone. You guys have been going on now for 4 years!
And I admit, that him just out of the blue calling it quits isn't right.
He cares about you, which is why he wants to know about your job and your uncle. I'm for sure when he is taking this week to think things over, he will consider your closeness to his family into consideration. And if it really is over, that doesn't mean you can't see his family again! Ex's stay friends. But I'm sure that after this week is over, he's gonna realize just how much he misses you. If not, there are always more fish in the sea, right? Give yourself time to recover, and go back out there!
I know I'm not much help. I kinda look at the negative things a lot. But maybe it gives you something to think about..?
The fact that he said he doesn't love you like a girlfriend has me thinking that he just wants to remain friends. I think you need to give him his space. Keep the textes to a minimum. I'm not going to say to not text him at all because you don't want him to think that you don't care about how his day is going. But don't be excessive with them. That will only annoy him.
If by the end of the week he decides that he no longer wants a relationship with you, what can you do other than move on. Sure, it will be hard. But you can't make someone want to be in a relationship with you. You never know, the two of you may find your way back to each other one day or you may find someone that makes you happier. Good luck and best wishes.
Right now only thing you know is that he needed a break. Therefore, you should act upon the facts. If he ask for a week to think give him that. You will do more than that. If he didn鈥檛 contact you after that week you are not going to contact him for at least a month. If he call you in meanwhile that is okay for you to contact, but if he not you can act upon this get your ex back procedure. The benefits of the no contact rule is that , it gives the time to him to miss you and to face to reality without you. You are not going to hang around him and make him comfortable, if all you get from it is hurt not love. Visit this site http://www.feel-good-first.com and read the section about getting your ex boyfriend back. However, it could be there is nothing for you to panic at all. he might think he still want you after his temper leaved him.
When a man says he needs space, then let him! When a woman says that she needs space, then let her!
He is trying to figure out what he wants, and you can't force him to want you. If you try do force it, it could very well be disaster!
Hmm..
From his view, I'm guessing he's just never really felt it was a BIG (Like I would consider marrying you big) ';BF x GF'; relationship, or it might be dying out..
And I say the break might work out in different ways x.x;
He might see you as just a friend now, or he might realize he still really likes you as his girlfriend
Give it a chance is my best guess x.x;
Hey girl! This is one of the hardest situations you'll ever be in. You really have to ask yourself a lot of questions like:
Do you want to be with someone who thinks they may not love you?
Do you want to be with someone who doesn't call or text you all day?
Do you want to be with someone who thinks its ok to hurt you?
I think that your boyfriend has a lot of control of your emotions. You should take control of your life and realize that you can be in control of the relationship. If he doesnt want to be with you or if he wants to hurt you then what is he worth anyways? No matter what it is going to hurt because ya'll have been together for so long. Just remember you are obviously a great girl you do not need him to make you happy.
I hope this helps a little bit I've been in your shoes and after a couple of times I realized that I needed to think about me not just him!
I'm sorry this may be long
Okay so my boyfriend and I of going on 4 years went on a break yesterday. He is almost 18, I am almost 19. We bicker over small and pointless things like any other couple does, nothing ever big. EVER. Well this past Wednesday he said he was busy all day and didn't call or text me the whole day until almost midnight, I over reacted and got upset that he didnt care enough to call or text me the whole day, that phone conversation ended with him hanging up on me. The next morning he didnt answer his phone, so I knew something was wrong...So I drive to his house to talk to him about the night before. He said he didnt want to talk to me right now. So I knew obviously something was wrong again because he never says that to me. So I tell him that we should talk because something wasnt right with him not wanting to talk..he tells me that last night he just snapped and can't take our pointless arguements anymore and that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. (He and I were both crying the entire time.) I asked him if he loves me and he said he does still but not as a girlfriend, wtf does that mean? I was in shock, how can you the night before say you love someone but then the next day you ';snap'; and dont? I go home crying and call him a couple hours later and I asked him since this is a huge decision if he would take a week to think and make sure this is what he really wants..he said yes give me the week, I want to clear my head and gather my thoughts. I said okay so this break means no talking or texting eachother right? and he said we can talk a little bit. He said I want to know how you're doing and how the first day at your new job goes and how you're uncle's surgery goes and I said okay..I just dont know why he would want to talk to me and want to know that stuff if he's the one wanting a break. I thought break meant no talking, texting, or communication of any kind. Does he sound like this is what he really wants? I don't know if he's just confused and wants to think or what it is. I am soo scared for next friday to come when he tells me what he's decided after thinking this whole week. His family was at the water park when this happend so it was just he and I talking about it. I am really close to his family especially his 2 younger brothers. I never got to say goodbye or anything to any of them. I am just in so much shock.
What do you all think about this? Does anyone see anything positive that can come out of this week?
Any help would be great. Sorry this is long I just had to tell the whole situation for you all to understand better..Thanks everyone!Relationship advice please?
yikes...sounds like he reached his breaking point, he's tired of the same old same old....too much lil' fights over nuthin...u need to give him space for this week. let him sort it all out, if u keep ';naggin''; (guys term) u will push it all over the edge, perhaps go enjoy some gal pal times w/friends for now, who knows what will happen til Friday, but u should know one way or the other by then...then go from there...and ask us all next week should u need..Relationship advice please?
Uhmm, just ask him what he means.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a> -Help
sure something can be positive out of this...because he obviously called you and check up on you...so just wait until the end of the week to see how he feels
Eric:
Chances are the time apart will help him realize what a special gal you are.
Seetha:
Eric and I fight like that all the time. I overreact too, and the best advice I can give is for both of you to just relax and not freak out about the small stuff.
Ok.
I can understand where he is coming from.
The pointless arguments, are horrible. Me and my fiance get into them almost everyday, and its tiring. There is such a thing as ';falling out of love'; with someone. You guys have been going on now for 4 years!
And I admit, that him just out of the blue calling it quits isn't right.
He cares about you, which is why he wants to know about your job and your uncle. I'm for sure when he is taking this week to think things over, he will consider your closeness to his family into consideration. And if it really is over, that doesn't mean you can't see his family again! Ex's stay friends. But I'm sure that after this week is over, he's gonna realize just how much he misses you. If not, there are always more fish in the sea, right? Give yourself time to recover, and go back out there!
I know I'm not much help. I kinda look at the negative things a lot. But maybe it gives you something to think about..?
The fact that he said he doesn't love you like a girlfriend has me thinking that he just wants to remain friends. I think you need to give him his space. Keep the textes to a minimum. I'm not going to say to not text him at all because you don't want him to think that you don't care about how his day is going. But don't be excessive with them. That will only annoy him.
If by the end of the week he decides that he no longer wants a relationship with you, what can you do other than move on. Sure, it will be hard. But you can't make someone want to be in a relationship with you. You never know, the two of you may find your way back to each other one day or you may find someone that makes you happier. Good luck and best wishes.
Right now only thing you know is that he needed a break. Therefore, you should act upon the facts. If he ask for a week to think give him that. You will do more than that. If he didn鈥檛 contact you after that week you are not going to contact him for at least a month. If he call you in meanwhile that is okay for you to contact, but if he not you can act upon this get your ex back procedure. The benefits of the no contact rule is that , it gives the time to him to miss you and to face to reality without you. You are not going to hang around him and make him comfortable, if all you get from it is hurt not love. Visit this site http://www.feel-good-first.com and read the section about getting your ex boyfriend back. However, it could be there is nothing for you to panic at all. he might think he still want you after his temper leaved him.
When a man says he needs space, then let him! When a woman says that she needs space, then let her!
He is trying to figure out what he wants, and you can't force him to want you. If you try do force it, it could very well be disaster!
Hmm..
From his view, I'm guessing he's just never really felt it was a BIG (Like I would consider marrying you big) ';BF x GF'; relationship, or it might be dying out..
And I say the break might work out in different ways x.x;
He might see you as just a friend now, or he might realize he still really likes you as his girlfriend
Give it a chance is my best guess x.x;
Hey girl! This is one of the hardest situations you'll ever be in. You really have to ask yourself a lot of questions like:
Do you want to be with someone who thinks they may not love you?
Do you want to be with someone who doesn't call or text you all day?
Do you want to be with someone who thinks its ok to hurt you?
I think that your boyfriend has a lot of control of your emotions. You should take control of your life and realize that you can be in control of the relationship. If he doesnt want to be with you or if he wants to hurt you then what is he worth anyways? No matter what it is going to hurt because ya'll have been together for so long. Just remember you are obviously a great girl you do not need him to make you happy.
I hope this helps a little bit I've been in your shoes and after a couple of times I realized that I needed to think about me not just him!
Relationship Advice Help?
This is a very serious question, I have been in a relationship with my gf for almost 13 months and just yesterday she broke up with me. We are absolutely in love with each other, she said she is doing this for us and taking a risk to see if this is true. She told me this has nothing to do with anyone else, she wants to see what its like being single and if she can handle it without me. What should I do? she obviously wants me to wait around but she knows that isn't fair on my part. Do you think she will realize what she did eventually and come back to me? we have way to many memories to let it go like this.
Please help meRelationship Advice Help?
It's hard to tell what she is actually doing or where she is going with this.Why would she want to see what it's like being single if she's so into you tho? Maybe she's scared.Relationship Advice Help?
If she wishes to be single then respect her wishes. If she wishes to come back to you she will, or she wont. If you wish to wait around for her it's up to you. If you wish to move on, then that should be your choice. Just take the time to enjoy being single, it's not such a bad thing. Remember she ended it with you.
Wow... ok I'm a girl and I will answer this from what I have seen the rest of my girls that are friends have done to their man..... i have seen it where girls say,'; I just need to see if this is real. I need to try to see what it's like being single.'; Pretty much it was a cop out. They say that so they can date other people but have you on the back burner so if their new relationship doesn't work than they can go to you because you are their safe zone, until the next person comes a long...
although being single is amazing, thats really not a reason to break up with u if she really loves u,,, man u really should ask her and let u know what she really's up to, i think there's something behind this thing...it doesnt make sense at all...
Please help meRelationship Advice Help?
It's hard to tell what she is actually doing or where she is going with this.Why would she want to see what it's like being single if she's so into you tho? Maybe she's scared.Relationship Advice Help?
If she wishes to be single then respect her wishes. If she wishes to come back to you she will, or she wont. If you wish to wait around for her it's up to you. If you wish to move on, then that should be your choice. Just take the time to enjoy being single, it's not such a bad thing. Remember she ended it with you.
Wow... ok I'm a girl and I will answer this from what I have seen the rest of my girls that are friends have done to their man..... i have seen it where girls say,'; I just need to see if this is real. I need to try to see what it's like being single.'; Pretty much it was a cop out. They say that so they can date other people but have you on the back burner so if their new relationship doesn't work than they can go to you because you are their safe zone, until the next person comes a long...
although being single is amazing, thats really not a reason to break up with u if she really loves u,,, man u really should ask her and let u know what she really's up to, i think there's something behind this thing...it doesnt make sense at all...
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