My girlfriend and i have been dating for 6 months and i have a problem trusting her. And she means a lot to me and I mean a lot to her. We care a lot about each other =] She tells me that she loves me. But, she constantly betrays my trust with small things but it's often. Like if I tell her that I'm uncomfortable with her talking to a guy (for good reason and doesn't happen often) and she'll betray my trust and do it anyway. I feel like I constantly put myself out there and I feel bummed when she betrays me and doesn't respect how I feel. It's gotten to the point where I'm worried about her doing stuff all the time. And I'll get jealous for the stupidest reasons because I have trust issues, like if she talks to her guy friends that I'm friends with too.But, I've tried talking to her about it and she tries to please me but she just ends up doing the same thin over and over. Do I have a right to be possessive/jealous/controlling? Or am i out of line?Relationship Advice Needed Porfavor!?
Sounds like a bit of both. I don't think anyone has the right to be possessive or controlling.. but she IS giving you a reason to be jealous. If you're telling her that you aren't happy with her talking to a guy (for a good reason), and she does it anyway, that's wrong. But for you to say she can't talk to any guy.. it's unrealistic and you're setting her up for failure. You have to try to trust her till she gives you reason not to. And just having a conversation with a member of the opposite sex is not a reason to not trust your girlfriend. Hope this helps! =)Relationship Advice Needed Porfavor!?
I think the trust issue is deeper than possessive/controlling. Take a step back and analyze why you don't trust her, did she betray you in a big way before? did you have a bad experience with family/friends that left you in defense mode? It seems like she is trying but she may get fed up or you can move up to be aggressive and things can get ugly. You have taken the 1st step on getting an answer by admitting you have trust issues. Take a moment for you and dig deeper.
My best wishes that it works out for you.
I would seriously try talking to her one more time because she means soo much to you, and let her know that you're thinking about letting her go because of this problem. I think that you are wanting to giver her another chance but don't continue this if you have already talked to her about it, it will always bother you and it wont be worth it. Good luck! I hope it works out for you.
at the end of the day, people will end up doing what they want. By being controlling, and jealous, you're not going to change her. Sounds like you both need to sit down and seriously talk about what going on. You are both out of line. A relationship has 2 people involved, and each party must do their part to make it work. Hope all goes well!
You're out of line because you aren't in control. If you want her fawning all over you, don't give a S**t and see what happens. Besides, there are a lot of fish to fry in your young life, so don't have a girlfriend at this point of your life, just a bedfriend.
i think maybe youve got too many rules, so many rules, impossible expectations that are so impossible for anyone including you to do if you tried that your girl is bound to mess up. youve probably made it so its impossible for her not to mess up.
No one has the right to control another person. Why do you not trust her? If you truly care about each other, there should not be a problem with her talking to other guys.
I know there is a strong attraction between you two, but I am wondering if this is a good match? She brings out the insecure side of you and causes you to feel uneasy and jealous. She creates doubt. She often betrays your trust. If she keeps this up (and it appears as tho she can't help herself), then it's not going to be so good for the r/s between you and her. I'm sorry but I think you could do better and find someone more compatible. But, since you're already in the r/s, you might as well ';ride out the storm.'; Hope she is on b/c pills.
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