Relationship Advice?

Hi, I have been with my fiance for 3 1/2 years and have lived together for two. Lately things have been really off with us, and as we are going to be planning a wedding soon, i am getting increasingly concerned.





He is always grumpy and giving off about having to do things around the house. we both work full time, he works nights i work days, so i do as much as i can in the morning and then leave some for him as i dont have time. i do my best for him, like getting up in the middle of the night to make him breakfast and a packed lunch. he still complains about all he has to do each day.





he is getting nast with me in front of my mum when she is around, and its not something i want them to see. twice in the past few weeks he has reduced me to tears when my mum has been there.





he spends most of his time on his backside doing nothing but complain. I have tried asking him is something wrong but he says i am being stupid and that he has not changed.Relationship Advice?
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If he is like this now your life is going to be worse.


Get out and get your own place. Start a new life.


Don't live with the next one.
Dont worry. Theres something i spotted in what you said there and its the fact that he works nights. Nightshift destroys people. Honestly you hate everything when you are on it. Its not so bad when you are at your work its when you come home and have to do things. It plays with your mood and makes them swing. So i suggest you ask your man to either get his hours changed or get a new job for the sake of your relationship. I dont condone his behaviour but i kind of understand as i worked nights once and became very snappy and constantly tired. Once he changes jobs then review your wedding but i reckon it will make a big difference. Things will only go stagnent if you carry on like this. Get talking to him and see if he agrees. If he doesnt then i guess you got some more thinking to do.
i am in a similar relationship, your man is clearly not interseted in you or any of your efforts.


i know you dont want to be without him but maybe some time apart may help to show your husband you choose to be with him and he is expendable.


i know you dont think that but make him think that then your in charge.he aint .


let him moan as much as he wants just get on with what you have to do because he isnt a baby anymore.


i think he wants a mum more than girlfriend or fiancee.


consider holding the wedding off until you know that he is reliable and your ideal guy because otherwise if this relationship turns out to be more hassle than fun. youll have a meesy divorce.





hope that helps youx
from what you are saying it could be high blood pressure or low testosterone. Two words tongkat Ali, tongkatali.org or eurotongkat.com. increases sex drive restores youthfullness and testosterone levels. Its a herb from Indonesia. If you dont want to tell him to take it you can buy the powdered version and put it in his tea and coffee..just a thought.
You need to sort this out before you get married. These things no doubt come up in lots of relationships and marriages after many many years, but this is a bit soon to be going wrong, you need to talk openly about it rathter than being nasty, if he doesn't want to then maybe it's time to throw in the towel before it's really too late. There may be someone out there who can make you happier.
O my! that's sound just like our household. In my relationship, he sits on his backside complaining about things not being done, when I'm trying to keep up with him ie: leaving empty ice trays out on the counter and coffee drippings here and there, not taking the dogs out. His excuse is that he works...uh so do I. but the thing is he is miserable, like he hates his job, and he spends most of his time there, misses out on time with his son. he's always tired. there may be something more to your fiance's grumpiness -show him you care and want to help resolve-whatever he needs from you -be that for him. I pray that he comes around and realize how sweet you are and will begin to treat you better.