Relationship advice...?

Theres this girl who wants a relationship with my boyfriend but he says hes not attracted to her but he wants to be friends with her and the whole way he became friends makes me so uncomfortable it makes me sick. *They met at a party, she got my cell number from a friend to contact him, she texted him, it was bad texts, i didnt show him them but told him abaout them and i was OBVEOUSLY uncomfortable with her, he took my phone to work and had her go to his wprk and they became friends then he told me 2 days later and i freaked out. He denied she wanted more then friendship after his friend who she got his number from warned him and i told him i knew cause of the text's) then she told him outright on AIM she wanted more then friendship and didnt care he has a g/f, she tottaly disrespects me and our relationship (i did send her a mean e-mail telling her he dosent like her and to stay away from him) and then he agreed to tell her he's inlove with me and didnt want a relationship with herRelationship advice...?
There is no point in putting this delicately. You're boyfriend is flirting with the notion of cheating on you. Men and women can't be ';friends.'; When he found out that this women was pursuing him it no doubtingly turn him on. I can't say what your relationship is like with this guy, but I know that relationships, in general, can become monotonous and desire fades in comfort. And though he may love you, he is flirting with the idea (if he hasn't already acted upon it). You said it yourself she initiated contact and he excepted and invited her to his work. What else do you need? He wants to have sex with her, it that simple, but he doesn't want a relationship with her, that's where you come in. She's his mistress. The one that satisfies his insecurities and heightens his ego with her desire and pursuit. And you are his stability, his norm, his comfort. I suggest you leave, no need for ultimatums, he's already made his decision.Relationship advice...?
first thing is first


chill hunny


everything is going to be ok? ok?


anyway one things is here though


i know u care about them but if they


make eachother happy shouldnt u be happy


for them. if you think they are in danger then


help one person get that in thier head by just being nice.
just don't be super protective of him otherwise u'll scare him away. guys don't like controlling relationships. u just need to trust him.
dump him.





he is no good.





Just another guy that cant commit and wants nothing but to f*ck girls.





Classic average male.
Ok here goes, either he NEVER talks to her again or you two are done.....thats what I would say. That is bulls**** She sounds like a tramp, if she knows you two are together and she is still doing that, that is just wrong. I would tell him straight up either he stops ALL contact with her or you are over. If he truly loves you and wants to be with you then he will agree and not talk to her anymore, if not he will still talk to her. Good luck and im sorry you got involved with one of ';them';
He should stay away from her. She's obviously one of those girls that is just going to keep trying, no matter what. If he wants to stay friends with her then he has chosen her over you and that's the time that you need to move on.








Edit: Leave this scum. Stop wasting your time. While you're gone he's going to be messing around with this waste of life and you'll be laughed at. Get the first laugh and say 'RIDDANCE'
thats messed up..your bf shouldnt have a reason to be ';friends'; with her because its no secret she wants more than friends...your bf should have more respect for you..whats he doing at partys meeting with other girls anyways? idk..sounds shady
Not sure about the question...is she a ';b?'; ...yes. Is he an ';a hole?';...yes.


What to do...I think it depends on your age to some extent - if you all are younger - it would make more sense that he's an idiot..but if you're getting older, this is crazy high school BS. Bottom line: This ';friendship'; cannot ever be innocent. Your boyfriend must be insecure to need some random chick's attention - and not have the balls to tell her to ';f'; off. He is probably concerned about ';hurting her feelings'; when he should be worried about yours. Them being friends is not an option. No good can/will come from it. If he needs friends that badly - tell him to go volunteer at a homeless shelter where other people will want his friendship (sarcasm). He's done just fine without her ';friendship,'; I'm sure he can live without it - now is he willing to live without you or risk your relationship over this? If so, god bless ya, and I hope you have what it takes to dump his stupid ***.....I know it's hard...





Update:


You already know your answer - what you need to do. I think you sad you were going away? Well when you do, get your butt ';out there'; to meet as many guys as possible - if nothing else to boost your esteem. Once you get some attention from some other dudes - this one won't seem as critical. So what if you get attention from ';a holes';...you already have one. Man, he's an *** - fyi - the more you ask him to change/confront her...the less likely he will.





You know what....skip all this and boink his best friend...that'll show em...(ok don't really do this, but you can fantasize about it)