Relationship advice please!!!!?

ok so im a sophomore my boyfriend is a senior. He is mormon and is thinking of going to BYU in idaho, we live in southern california. He hasnt gotten an acceptance letter yet. I know i love him, but i havent told him because with him i know he wont say it back because he believes that love should only be used in marriage. So should i just slowly start to somehow not feeling the was i feel about him now? Or should i just try and push no matter what we should stay together even if it is long distance? On of my friends said i should just dump him, but she really doesn't get how i feel about him... so please advice i dont know what to doRelationship advice please!!!!?
Kitkat,


I know you love this guy, but you need to look at the bigger picture. He has very strong convictions and rules he lives by that you don't. His way of life is guided by his church and their rules. I'm not saying that it is bad or wrong, but, unless you are going to join his church and embrace their beliefs, you have to decide if you want your life guided by ideas you don't follow or believe. It will be a very hard road to follow if you are not up for the challenge. Think really hard about how it will be if you marry and have children. They will be raised in the church and believe as Mormons do. Your traditions and ways of life will be secondary and maybe not introduced to them, such as your Christmas traditions or birthday celebrations. I know I like my family traditions and am happy that my children know them. It's a hard thing to think about love logically, but relationships are not all about love. There are many things to think about before you enter into a committed relationship with someone who has strong beliefs. Best to you and happy New Year.Relationship advice please!!!!?
Let the relationship develop as it should.


If he feels as strongly as you do about your friendship -he will understand how you feel.


I'm sure he will be discussing on where your future relationship will continue once he gets accepted to BYU.


Don't put the horse before the carriage - wait till it happens. Don't make yourself miserable over a situation that doesn't exist.


Hang in there - if it's meant to be it will be.
Don't dump him. It could take a while, but if he gets accepted to a college, try a long-distance relationship. And, if you just HAVE to say ';I Love You,'; to him, then tell him that. I'm sure he'll understand. If he really understands how you feel about him, he'll say it back. You guys have a relationship; don't make it a waste.
That's what's so funny about love, your heart may say one thing and your mind is yelling another. Well I think that you should just live your life. If you really love this person as you say you do you'll let him go and discover what life has out there for him and in turn you do the same you both are still young and have alot a head of you. If it is real it will always be there but you have to take that chance that life happens and people change. Good luck and I hope I helped
To be honest, i believe that long distance relationship don't work out 99.999% of the time but if you really want to make it work just push but not too hard that he'll fall just enough so that he would know that you really care about him and you want to stay together with him...hope that helps
i know it would hurt but i know alot of people whose boyfriends are in college and there in high school.. you may not want to believe it but if your boyfriend is in college he most likely is cheating on you.. i would just end it now.. even if you can trust him not seeing him for such a long time would hurt even more. especially when your friends are out having fun and you have a boyfriend..


hope this helps :)
well thenhis calculations are incorrect. you need love way b4 marriage. you cant just decide to marry a random person and hope it works out. if he truely wants to be with him, he will make the right decision. but if he says no, dont beg him. he is doing what his culture says and you must respect his religion
Well, if you really love him I don't think that the solution is dumping him. If he means that much to you then you should wait. Both of you go to college but stay in contact then you can talk about marriage and such.


Love conquers all :)
trust me no matter what you


you cant stop feeling what your feeling about him


and just because he doesnt belive in love until marriage


doesnt mean he doesnt feel the same way about you


so take a chance
why would you just dump someone you love





that is soooooo mean





how can you say you love him if you would even think of posting such a question!
if you really love him.. then stay with him =]
Honestly, I know that I could give you the best advice, but if your friend who knows the situation, knows you, hears everything that is going on from you, and more than likely sees everything in person says that you should dump him, then you should. Why would you want to be with a guy who uses the marriage only rule? Chances are he would use it on a girl who he sees as his wife, and sorry to say I don't think he is ready to settle down. Move on you are waay to young to have to worry about a long distance relationship. you are only a sophmore and there are lots of other things/guys that should be on your mind.
i hate to break it to you. but 10 years from now you'll probably be with someone else. if you're lucky enough to make it through high school with him still in the picture, id still consider that lucky.





college is the point in peoples lives where they undergo the most change. it's the turning point where they discover themselves, and find their own lifestyles. long distance relationships are usually gone after the first few months of college for most freshman. believe me i know. i saw it happen to all of my friends.





odds are, you're going to find your future husband at college. doesn't matter how much you think you love your boyfriend right now. when the time comes, you'll understand. you will probably always remain good friends though.