Well i am usually the guy to give advice now i need a little of my own. I have been with this girl for 10months now, and all through this she has been very clingy and wants to see me all the time. Last night we were talking and she said she dont like me drinking at all, but my 18th is coming soon so i said I will not be able to stop babe because its me its what i do and i said i will cut down but she was thinking about it.
From a girl who was so clingy no to a girl that dumped me last night and it turns out it was because she wants to be on her own at the moment. And she hasn't really explained it fully to me she just says please understand i need this. But she hates not seeing me any day and we have now split up. It is so painful that the girl i love has done this and I want her back and i need advice. Please someone help me get her back.
She says she still loves me but if she did wouldn't we still be together?
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Ok simple one o one with this girl. I am sorry but she sounds good at what she is doing.
I understand where she is coming from, she wants to take some time to think things over and maybe the whole clingy thing was to make sure you were for real and now that she knows she has you it is a matter of her finding out where her priorities lie in order to make it work better, or she might be having second thoughts you never know.
Give her the time she needs right now, tell her that you understand what she wants and that you love her. From what she has said she is just trying to have a break, the worst words you can say in a relationship, but she is. I have been there myself so it is not a major thing.
Just talk to her when she is ready because in cases like this communication is everything. She made need time to think and it might do you good as well to find out if this is what you really want.
I dont want to sound horrible, but it sounds like she might have been so clingy in order to get you in and now is trying to figure out if this is what she really wants.
I dont think this has anything to do with the drinking thing, it was just something she didnt like and maybe her reason for thinking about things. But you compromised and were honest with her and she should respect that.
Just remember that in a relationship there are four main elements: Love, Trust, Respect and Communication.
I hope this helps and if you need any more advice email me
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don't worry, it sounds like she will come back to you
you both love each other very much but love is not enough, you want to drink, she doesn't want you to your love for each other won't get you through this however strong it may be, what you need to do is love each other enough to make a compromise
stop for a while just to get her back andd then sit down and talk about it, maybe she will allow you to drink just for special occasions like your 18th, or maybe you can drink but not get drunk, find out why your drinking is worrying her so much and also remember and remind her that drinking is not who you are, you are at that age where yes everyone does it and so it makes it feel like that is you, but as you grow up you will do it less often
you need to decide whats more important to you, her or the alcohol, cos at the end of the day you could loose her if she can't cope with your drinking however unreasonable it might seem
good luck!!
well i think shes just confused and she does defeintly love you just because she needs space doesnt mean that she doesnt,shes probably had enough because shes trying to change you and dont like some of things you do and because your not being the way she wants you to be,in her mind its like why should i be with him he isnt the way i want him to be but she loves you too much its hard to explain but ive seen this loads with my friends trust me she will be back just give her what she needs and go along with it or just tell her you will compromise it will make things alot more eaiser :)
SIMPLE!!!!
She needs her space and whatnot, she wants to see you around, be with you but at the same time not be with you....She likes you, keeps thinking of you, but does not want to somehow.
so now that you broke up. comfort her, do everything she wants you to do for 2 weeks. Afterwards just say i can keep running around you like this as i need to carry on living my life too.
At that time she will have to make a decision as to be with you or leave you. This will be hard for her to make, give her a little while, She may come back, otherwise you just have to leave it and find someone else.
You are about to have an 18th birthday and she is asking you to cut back on your drinking? So you think that a self respecting girl would want to be with a boy who wipes himself out? I suppose what she is saying is that she is not keen on being with a drinker. Perhaps she wants to be with someone who will provide for her and care for her and be a father for her kids rather than being inebriated all of the time and not know what is happening around him.
This girl has foresight. She is bailing out from a dead end relationship.
Not much sense in working all week just to pour it down some pisser somewhere. She will find some one who cares about her instead of himself.
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