Sunday, July 25, 2010

Relationship advice, please?

we work together...i'm 26 and he's 28..we've been dating exclusively for 2.5 years. we LOVE each other %26amp; everything was perfect. he broke up with me 2 weeks ago saying he loves me but he's not in love with me. i had left him at work one day a couple months back bc i was upset with him...he said since that day he's been thinking that if we were to have another argument in the future, he wouldn't be able to handle me leaving him like that. he asked me to move in a yr ago, but i still hadn't...but i was at his house every weekend and we hung out...we were perfect for eachother...he still talks w/me and cares about me...and walks me to my car every day %26amp;hugs me....he said in our break up conversation that he was content but not happy.he thought he could make me happy... i was complaing a LOT about my job for the last few months.how can i get him back and get things to where they used to be? what do i say? on facebook it says he's still in a relationship, %26amp; all our pics are there.Relationship advice, please?
Honey, I don't think he ever fell out of love with you but it seems he's a very healthy, mature individual who looks for the same in his partner. When you showed sign after sign that you weren't emotionally healthy or mature, he ended it and I personally don't blame him. He deserves to be with someone who runs TO him when they have a problem, not away from him. Someone who's mature enough to communicate effectively in a r'ship. If you want any chance of getting him back, you need to work on YOU. Perhaps a break is EXACTLY what the 2 of you needed. It seems from what you said, he was always more committed than you. He wanted you to move in,you didn't. He was willing to stay around %26amp; work through arguments...you ran. Work on your own issues before putting him through anymore mixed signals.Relationship advice, please?
Honestly, it seems to me that he was looking for a way out, already. To me, the excuse he used was lame. If he really loved you, he would understand that couples fight sometimes, and sometimes it's best to take a break for a few minutes to get your thoughts together. If something as simple as that makes him want to end it with you, then I don't see how you two can survive a long relationship/marriage. Give him time, and talk to him about everything. Hopefully you can work through this. GL!
it sounds to me like he never liked the arrangement since you left him. You wouldnt move in, you are very tempermental and unwililng to compromise. it was perfect for you. he was with you ebcause he loved you and hoped that you would move in and blah, blah. he's not coming back and he shouldnt. It sounds like, it was the way you and you alone wanted it and he couldnt live that way anymore. you left after an argument? Selfish and childish cause now you want him back. You wanted to be single without being single. And that would have been a sign for me to that you didnt really want me. you were just comfortable. leave him to find someone to be happy with. I'm sure you wont have a problem getting a guy who dont want you to move in with him and only see him on the weekends..





and as far as the face book.. you sound real young. He could have just forgotten to change it. People dont live they're lives online..

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