Relationship Advice please!?

My dated my ex boyfriend for 2 years, before we broke up. For the past year we have been on and off. Last week he came to me with his sincerest apology yet and wanted to make things work, he told me how much he loved me, he said he was in it for the long haul, and ready to be us again. After a few days he just stopped calling and today i found out he is dating a new girl! I am very hurt and upset, and know i should move on, but i don't understand why he plays games with, tells me he loves me then find someone new?!?!?!





I called him and he said he meant every word of it, but nothing else....








how do i get over this? I really don't want to be with anyone else, as much as he hurts me, hes the one i want.........Any advice would be great.Relationship Advice please!?
Here's my advice: Each time you give your power away to a man by allowing him to treat you disrespectfully or unlovingly, you lose respect and love for yourself. This is what's happened to you---you were in a negative self-esteem cycle. You allowed this man to get away with mistreating you, you didn't stick up for yourself, and this resulted in your feeling upset, depressed, and bad about yourself.





Do you see my point? Love didn't hurt you---you hurt you by mistaking the dysfunctional relationship you had for love. I know that you think of yourself as a victim, but I have a saying: ';It takes two people to create an accident---one to drive the truck and the other to lie down in the road and say ';it's okay to run me over.'; You gave your power away to this man. It's time to take it back. Don't give him any more power to hurt you.





It may be difficult but you have to stop doing the things you're doing to him now. Stop calling. How can you reconcile passion and sincerity with lies and cunning? Salvage the little pride you have left, while you still can. This man will only disparage you and look at you with contempt if you continue doing this. You've pleaded your case to him; he knows what a creep he was to you, so just slam the doors of your mind to thoughts of him---and move on, you'll survive. Learn from this failed con game of this man.





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Well you are asking for hurt if you want no other. He is fickle and wants more then one woman. You were the one in between one girl and then another. He may come back your way again. He may feel he really does care for you the most but does not want to. He may feel that he wants to play the field and not be serious about anyone. But yet here he is going with another girl. This tells me that he was just telling you what you wanted to hear and probably tell all the girls that. After all it was not a very long haul was it? He is going to hurt you more! He is not ready to get serious! He may be running from his own feelings. You can't very well wait for him. The best thing is to get another guy and let him see that you are not just stuck on him. The old story is they always want what they can't get. You with another guy would certainly make him feel that way!
How do you get over this? Well, the first step is in realizing that your ex-boyfriend was trying to use you. It could have been emotional or sexual. Sometimes when a guy feels lonely (or horny), he'll say anything to keep from feeling that way. The lesson learned here is don't take him back. Move on.
wow...I went thru the exact same thing sweetheart and it hurts. The one thing that i always wanted to hear when i asked the same thing that you are now, is that it is easy to forget and move on, but the first thing you need to realize is that it's not. Going in to the process of getting over a first love or anything of that nature is to know up front that it is probably one of the hardest things you will have to do while gr owning up. (sorry, I'm assuming your younger) but the first thing i did (and it really worked for me) was realize that if he could tell you he loves you while looking you in the eye knowing there was another girl in the picture then #1 what else is he hiding and #2 how much does he really care about u to lie and hurt you like that? My ex married the ';other girl'; lol and now he is going thru a REALLY bad divorce and im getting married to the most wonderful man Ive ever met. Just remember, evaluate the relationship and see if it's even worth the stress and tears. Good luck hun. ~B
You are just going to have to get over him, at least until he grows up.
your situation sounds so insanely similar to my best friend's. she went through all the same things that you are, being pushed and pulled by your guy. she made a mistake, however, by both dating a new guy too soon (which resulted in yet another heartbreak) and by continuously hooking up with her old boyfriend (think friends with benefits). it's put them in such an awkward spot that they can no longer talk and hang out as friends.





my suggestion to her (and now to you) has always been to focus on herself. what you need to do is try to forget about boys in general, and start getting busy with your life. find a new hobby or get a job that will help take up your time so that you don't find yourself thinking only about him. it's going to be hard, no doubt, but don't put your focus on boys at this time. that'll only make things worse.





who knows, you may find someone you like even better by becoming more active in a positive way. best of luck to you! i can only imagine how hard this is to deal with.
Ur ex sounds very childish and also stupid just try to get over him and the next time he comes to u tell him to go to **** and also he needs to grow up
Michelle, what kind of advise do you want? He's a jerk, a liar, a cheat and you deserve better. Move on.
Get away from him! You'll be glad you did once you get over him. The getting over part is hard, I know, but trust me it's worth it. You'll be a stronger person in the end too.
To begin with,you shouldnt be feeling depressed.It just makes things worse.Like you end up doing things wrong,messing up,hurting people that are there for you,or even have him thinking that its okay to treat someone like that.i say try to focus on what you want to do in life.join a sport,meet up with real friends so that way you'll have fun with them and dont be curious alot.I have been there, and so have some of my boys or girls.its like theres always going to be a worst in your life,something you might not think you will get over with,but thats only because its like a test on how strong you are.If you think so negative,guess what?You failed!So Believe you can do anything, ';ONLY THE STRONG SURVIVE';.keep that in mind and you'll go far.
You need to ask him what the whole and real story is, tell him u just want to hear that and u won't yell at him or do anything mean, tell him u tihnk it is right for u to know. he sounds like a real ********
its time to kick him to the side and get a good man for yourself. Be good to yourself. The wound that he makes will take time to heal, but you need your deepest courage to start the healing process. Step#1 get rid of him. Step #2 go to a nail salon then buy a nice outfit and go find a better man for yourself. All the best
He is dating a new girl after he confessed his love and says he wants to make things work again?!





You've got to let that go or tell him to get his act together. It seems strange that he would make such a confession and then go out with another girl. Maybe she had been blowing him off and then finally agreed to go out with him and in between time he came crawling back to you. Sounds like he's just going to continue to hurt you. Move on.
I think it's very unfair of him to lead you on the way he has, you don't deserve to be treated like that!





I know your really hurt and you feel alot for him, but if he felt anything for you then he wouldn't behave like this. Time is a great healer and all I can suggest is taking some time out for yourself, perhaps going out with your friends would be a good idea. The whole time your at home your minds not active and you will start thinking about him and it will get to you. If he does come knocking on your door again take the power back off him and tell him you've moved on, that way he will know that he can no longer treat you like a door mat.
He wanted you on the back burner
he probably just wants to sleep around
sometimes as much as it hurts you have too move on and date other people to see what it feels like and to figure out what you really want.
I do feel bad what you are going through but you need to move on. He isn't going to stop that. He is a talker and tells girls everything they want to hear and he doesn't care who gets hurt really. All those types like is girls and good looking ones all around even if they are committed. If you stay in this circle you will be the one hurting time and time again and you don't deserve that. You deserve better. He will just tell you what you want to hear and just hurt you all over again. You need a guy that you can trust. You don't deserve to be hurt like that. NOBODY DOES
Pick yourself up off the ground and move on...Im going through the SAME thing right now. The best thing to do is hang with the girls and not think about him. The worst thing you can do is talk to him right now...break all ties that lead you to talk to him. Its better in the long run and when you get over him you will probably be able to be friends and will be glad that you didnt put yourself back in that position. Breaking up is never fun and it's okay that you feel hurt...but feeling sorry for ourselves and trying to talk to them makes us look weak. Make him think you dont need him thats the best revenge you can have, b/c you dont.
Trust me, the last thing you want to do is get stuck in an on and off relationship. It may hurt now, but eventually you will get over it. Guys who use emotions to get what they want usually grow up to be emotionally abusive and overly controlling. Im sure he thinks that he can come back whenever he wants and you will take him back, so teach him a lesson. Women are beautiful gifts not meant to be ripped opened, peeked in and rewrapped sloppily. Don't let him keep peeking in your package, show him what a beautiful gift he missed out on and keep your head up. Good Luck