please, help?
i'm at a complete low. i'm basically crushing on a guy who i've known for about a year alot. lol. i really like him. we talk and everything. he's really nice to me in classes and laughs and jokes about things. but when we're alone, i don't know i feel like things get really awkward. awkward in the sense, like i don't know what to say and i feel uncomfortable, because like i said i really like him. and he's not a shy person at all, but he quiets down also when he's around me by himself.
i'm really starting to second guess the possibility of him liking me back. i thought he did, but i feel like i ruin any chance i get. also, i'm probably seriously kidding myself, since i've only had one boyfriend before this. i'm of indian origin in a pretty white dominated school. i know he's not racist, at all, i mean he's extremely open minded and open to a lot of things, but i'm so lost at what he feels about me. he's pretty popular and attractive, in a good way, he's not a rude jock.RELATIONSHIP ADVICE (Pictures), I really need help!?
Well, I just want to tell you that you are Gorgeous! And you should not have Any insecurities about your looks!! And if he gets quiet when you guys are alone, he May be feeling the same things you are. He probably really likes you, and doesn't know what to say when you are alone. You can try asking him to go somewhere with you where you guys are forced to interact so there wouldn't be so much awkward silence. Like you could go Bowling or something. I'm sorry, I'm probably not too much help. But I don't think you really have anything to worry about. You are very pretty, and you sound like a kind hearted person.RELATIONSHIP ADVICE (Pictures), I really need help!?
alright chica...here goes. from one indian girl to another. just be your normal self. i know its hard when you really like someone but the fact is that if your normal around him then maybe he'll be normal around you. remember the basis of a relationship is friendship. and just because he quiets down when its only you two in the room, doesnt mean that he isnt into you. he might have the same feelings as you do. if he sits next to you in all your classes on purpose and purposely take the same classes as you..then that definately means that he likes you more than just a friend.
but that doesnt mean that you always go and sit next to him and take all the classes he takes!!
when your in high school/college sit like a few (2) seats away from him in the same row..or basically somewhere near him but not exactly next to him. then the next time you go into class a little early and he has to decide where to sit..notice where he sits. if he sits right next to you there maybe a 60%-70% chance that he likes you just as you like him.
confusing yet?? haha. its ok....just remember sometimes guys need a little push from the girl for them to just come out and say it that ';hey i kinda sorta like you.'; remember behind every successful guy there is a girl...guys dont get to be successful in life without the girl always behind him. and another thing....you can never be too sure of if he likes you or not untill and unless he actually says it outloud to you.
good luck!! hope you get what you want and hope this long answer helps..lol
You're beautiful and you're never aiming too high. :]
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Relationship advice PLZ PLZ PLZ?
So yeah, I didn't think I'd be at point, but I think I need to talk to someone about my relationship. If you're someone who might know somewhat about relationships, and you have some sort of IM service (AIM, yahoo, MSN), please let me know. I am in this really awkward stage in my relationship, and I don't know what might come next. Me and my girlfriend seem really confused, and I could use some help. Add me at bullet_proof_96 (at) yahoo.com. I have the same address for MSN. Thanks you !Relationship advice PLZ PLZ PLZ?
I recommend you study about this area before
rushing into any decision. You have to understand
the 'rules of the game.'
Yes, there are rules. There are things
you can say or not say, there are things
you can do or not do. And there are
things use can use to attract, and get a
positive response.
For example, if you go up to a girl
and say, ';I think I love you.';
That's too forward, and she'll think
you're crazy.
But if you say something in a situation where
you meet her in a building and just before
when the elevator door closes on her,
and you're on the other side of the elevator
saying ';Do you think there is a chance,
you might like me?';
The elevator door would close in that
instant and you'll be witnessing her
expression, and not her words.
Conglatulations, you've created a dramatic
suspense, and she'll think seriously about this.
And you are most likely to get a resounding ';yes,
let's give it a shot.';
I learned to think like this from this book.
You might want to try it's techniques.
It's invaluable. Priceless. I wanted to
keep it a secret to become the next Don Juan,
but... I'm happily married now.
There you go. Have fun finding your mate.
http://www.guysgetsgirls.com
(Not affilite link.)
-JayRelationship advice PLZ PLZ PLZ?
i'll help the best i can
I recommend you study about this area before
rushing into any decision. You have to understand
the 'rules of the game.'
Yes, there are rules. There are things
you can say or not say, there are things
you can do or not do. And there are
things use can use to attract, and get a
positive response.
For example, if you go up to a girl
and say, ';I think I love you.';
That's too forward, and she'll think
you're crazy.
But if you say something in a situation where
you meet her in a building and just before
when the elevator door closes on her,
and you're on the other side of the elevator
saying ';Do you think there is a chance,
you might like me?';
The elevator door would close in that
instant and you'll be witnessing her
expression, and not her words.
Conglatulations, you've created a dramatic
suspense, and she'll think seriously about this.
And you are most likely to get a resounding ';yes,
let's give it a shot.';
I learned to think like this from this book.
You might want to try it's techniques.
It's invaluable. Priceless. I wanted to
keep it a secret to become the next Don Juan,
but... I'm happily married now.
There you go. Have fun finding your mate.
http://www.guysgetsgirls.com
(Not affilite link.)
-JayRelationship advice PLZ PLZ PLZ?
i'll help the best i can
Relationship Advice, Please Help Thanks!!!?
I have been seeing this girl I have known for a few weeks and I knew she has a bf but is unhappy with the relationship. We started getting intimate with each other and really want each other badly. Her bf treats her badly and I want her to break up with him for that reason and not for me. Until that happens I do not want to talk to her and suggested we do not talk until she deals with her situation and gets full closure. I am not interested in seeing someone that will be seeing her bf on the side. I do not think it is fair or right.
Even though it hurts, is it right what I did when I suggested that we do not talk until she is through with him? How long is a reasonable time to wait? We havent seen each other for a week now, and the last time we talked she told me she won't be able to control herself the next time we see each other and will be all over me.However, I do not think it is right until she gets through this on her own.What do you think?thank u so much for all your helpRelationship Advice, Please Help Thanks!!!?
I see a big red warning flag...maybe. Has she planned meetings with you on the side? If she has, and she's been spending this intimate time with you... that could be an indication that when she's not perfectly happy, she'll go outside the relationship to find something to make her happy.... Which means she might do the same thing to you. She definitely needs to end things with him first. Until she does, don't go for her. And if you don't hear back in a week or two, move along.Relationship Advice, Please Help Thanks!!!?
ok so not to sound crazy but i once was in a position as this girl. trust me if shes been with him a while ur outta luck on this one. if she hasnt left him by now she isnt going to anytime soon. i would just move on and have fun. life is to short to sit around and wait. you could wait and wait and finally be with her to find out its not gonna work. keep you options open. this one guy waited for me and and we got together and it wasnt good. we lasted like a month and he felt like all he did was waste his time. just have fun and see what happens. you could be waiting for her and let the RIGHT one fly past you.
while it may not seem fair to you...you can atleast be there for her as a friend, i can understand you not wanting to wait on the sideline but you already knew she had a boyfriend as you were getting involved with her, making your self distant can eventually play into out of sight out of mind, she may just be having her cake and eating it too for all you know...if her boyfriend is treating her badly, well it couldnt be that bad she still with him...if i were you i would just talk to her as a friend and go about my daily routine, you don't have to avoid her, b/c that is not going to change how she feels, you have every right to protect your feelings...but don't put a wall up b/c that might make her feel pressure and under pressure sometimes we often make mistakes...good luck!
i feel as if you did the right thing. It would be smart if she broke up with that idiot, though. I hope you have a happy relationship with her eventually
love zoey
i think you are managing the situation fairly. but you dont want to get in a bad situation if her bf finds out about you. its really not you. its her. make her deal with the situation, you are just there to get rid of the a$$hole boyfriend.
You said'' that she has a boyfriend.... what is keeping her from just breaking it off with him... if he treat her badly.... why is she with him....you are right not to see her..... she needs to do the right thing... before she come to you... I respect the fact that you care about this... most guy wouldn't ..... just complicate things further...Give her a few weeks if she doesn't come to you... then you will know it not that bad with the boyfriend....I was with a bad husband ... believe me if its bad ... you want out .... as soon as you can get out.... so now I know I wouldn't put up with that with a boyfriend.....Good Luck!!
Even though it hurts, is it right what I did when I suggested that we do not talk until she is through with him? How long is a reasonable time to wait? We havent seen each other for a week now, and the last time we talked she told me she won't be able to control herself the next time we see each other and will be all over me.However, I do not think it is right until she gets through this on her own.What do you think?thank u so much for all your helpRelationship Advice, Please Help Thanks!!!?
I see a big red warning flag...maybe. Has she planned meetings with you on the side? If she has, and she's been spending this intimate time with you... that could be an indication that when she's not perfectly happy, she'll go outside the relationship to find something to make her happy.... Which means she might do the same thing to you. She definitely needs to end things with him first. Until she does, don't go for her. And if you don't hear back in a week or two, move along.Relationship Advice, Please Help Thanks!!!?
ok so not to sound crazy but i once was in a position as this girl. trust me if shes been with him a while ur outta luck on this one. if she hasnt left him by now she isnt going to anytime soon. i would just move on and have fun. life is to short to sit around and wait. you could wait and wait and finally be with her to find out its not gonna work. keep you options open. this one guy waited for me and and we got together and it wasnt good. we lasted like a month and he felt like all he did was waste his time. just have fun and see what happens. you could be waiting for her and let the RIGHT one fly past you.
while it may not seem fair to you...you can atleast be there for her as a friend, i can understand you not wanting to wait on the sideline but you already knew she had a boyfriend as you were getting involved with her, making your self distant can eventually play into out of sight out of mind, she may just be having her cake and eating it too for all you know...if her boyfriend is treating her badly, well it couldnt be that bad she still with him...if i were you i would just talk to her as a friend and go about my daily routine, you don't have to avoid her, b/c that is not going to change how she feels, you have every right to protect your feelings...but don't put a wall up b/c that might make her feel pressure and under pressure sometimes we often make mistakes...good luck!
i feel as if you did the right thing. It would be smart if she broke up with that idiot, though. I hope you have a happy relationship with her eventually
love zoey
i think you are managing the situation fairly. but you dont want to get in a bad situation if her bf finds out about you. its really not you. its her. make her deal with the situation, you are just there to get rid of the a$$hole boyfriend.
You said'' that she has a boyfriend.... what is keeping her from just breaking it off with him... if he treat her badly.... why is she with him....you are right not to see her..... she needs to do the right thing... before she come to you... I respect the fact that you care about this... most guy wouldn't ..... just complicate things further...Give her a few weeks if she doesn't come to you... then you will know it not that bad with the boyfriend....I was with a bad husband ... believe me if its bad ... you want out .... as soon as you can get out.... so now I know I wouldn't put up with that with a boyfriend.....Good Luck!!
Relationship advice what should i do?
So my girlfriend and I are going through a rough time right now. She told me that she has high standards before her and I were dating but only recently she told me what they were. She said that her idea of a perfect guy would be a Christian, someone that loves country music, and someone that likes ice cream (I don't know why the ice cream thing is important) and little things like that. But heres the deal.. I'm the complete opposite of that. I don't like ice cream, I have never liked any diary products, I'm an atheist and country music makes me sick to my stomach because of personal childhood reasons. So what should I do. Why would she tell me this? I love her a lot and I want it to work out between me and her.Relationship advice what should i do?
I'd say that she is probably trying to change you. OR, that she is telling you these things as a way to say ';I USED to have these standards, but now I've found my perfect guy.'; Since she used past tense... Good luck.
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If you love her and she loves you then that should be enough I don't see the relevance in your likes and dislikes after all that is what makes us different and attractive to the opposite sex. I strongly believe that the minute that you want to change somebody then you need to realise that you are not wanting to be with that person anymore you should not have to change for anyone and should be loved for who you are. Go and ask her if she truly loves you for who you are and then take it from there but don't ever change anyone just because they want you to.
Good Luck
its really not fair for her to say that to you, but sounds like she can as she is in control of your relationship. Do not try to change. You are who you and I remember one of the first rules of dating that I heard is 'never try to change someone.....' and she should know that,
What she said to you also shows a lack of respect, think about it- would you ever say this to someone who you really loved and respected? I think you should pull back a little, let her do some of the running and stop indulging her so much with her fantasies of the perfect guy.
she's trying to change you. if you guys were doing fine, keep the anti-cow stuff to yourself and just go along with it.
the religion thing, I think, is a little biased.
of course, she may just be saying a ';perfect guy'; and maybe if she's still into you then you don't need to be the ';perfect'; guy
wtf i think ur gf is really stupid and childish...hw can ice cream be such a imp thing in a relationship.
everyones has his/her own choice n he/she will always stick to it only.
try to convice her this, u can give a eg of what u like but she doesnt.
this will surely make her understand....i know like every girl wants a partner with which she can have everything common ranging from food, clothes or even music. but this cannot be always true. tell her that she should love you for what you are....otherwise leave her.
She is too young to know what she wants obviously. Relationships are based on the heart. Opposites attract all the time, it is what is in her heart that will choose her love, not what they like or what they listen to. Don't change who you are to be with her.
She probably knows that those are your opposites and that's why she gave you those standards...maybe she just doesn't see you two working out and that's a way of telling you. Hopefully things work out between you two. You obviously care about her by posting it.
Good Luck!!
I believe she knows that you are the total opposite of her ';expectations'; so she may be using those ';expectations'; as an excuse to hint to you that she is not interested anymore. I dont know. Cheer up though.Every cloud has a silver lining.
RUN!
She is trying to change you. She got with you because she thought she could change you and now she is trying to. Unless she lets go of this thinking, it will never work out between you two.
:/ I dont think it'll work out. She's obviously telling you you're either not her type, or you need to completely change yourself for her. And someone who wants you to completely change yourself just doesn't love you for you.
She's trying to tell you in a round about way to Get Lost!
yeah, country music makes me sick to my stomach too and ice cream?? I completely understand how do you feel, her words are a bit weird. maybe if you like her so much - you need to tell her that you won't be like this but you can try to.
anyway, if she likes you in return, you should know that she needs to accept you the way you are. I have high standards too, but reality is different. I always said to my friends that I like tall brunettes, with green eyes, well tanned and other stuff - but in my life I've had a crush on completely different types of guys.
just try to talk to her and explain that you're not a country music fan and if she likes your personality - I'm sure she'll try to love you even if you don't like ice cream. :) good luckmakeup look
I'd say that she is probably trying to change you. OR, that she is telling you these things as a way to say ';I USED to have these standards, but now I've found my perfect guy.'; Since she used past tense... Good luck.
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>Relationship advice what should i do?
If you love her and she loves you then that should be enough I don't see the relevance in your likes and dislikes after all that is what makes us different and attractive to the opposite sex. I strongly believe that the minute that you want to change somebody then you need to realise that you are not wanting to be with that person anymore you should not have to change for anyone and should be loved for who you are. Go and ask her if she truly loves you for who you are and then take it from there but don't ever change anyone just because they want you to.
Good Luck
its really not fair for her to say that to you, but sounds like she can as she is in control of your relationship. Do not try to change. You are who you and I remember one of the first rules of dating that I heard is 'never try to change someone.....' and she should know that,
What she said to you also shows a lack of respect, think about it- would you ever say this to someone who you really loved and respected? I think you should pull back a little, let her do some of the running and stop indulging her so much with her fantasies of the perfect guy.
she's trying to change you. if you guys were doing fine, keep the anti-cow stuff to yourself and just go along with it.
the religion thing, I think, is a little biased.
of course, she may just be saying a ';perfect guy'; and maybe if she's still into you then you don't need to be the ';perfect'; guy
wtf i think ur gf is really stupid and childish...hw can ice cream be such a imp thing in a relationship.
everyones has his/her own choice n he/she will always stick to it only.
try to convice her this, u can give a eg of what u like but she doesnt.
this will surely make her understand....i know like every girl wants a partner with which she can have everything common ranging from food, clothes or even music. but this cannot be always true. tell her that she should love you for what you are....otherwise leave her.
She is too young to know what she wants obviously. Relationships are based on the heart. Opposites attract all the time, it is what is in her heart that will choose her love, not what they like or what they listen to. Don't change who you are to be with her.
She probably knows that those are your opposites and that's why she gave you those standards...maybe she just doesn't see you two working out and that's a way of telling you. Hopefully things work out between you two. You obviously care about her by posting it.
Good Luck!!
I believe she knows that you are the total opposite of her ';expectations'; so she may be using those ';expectations'; as an excuse to hint to you that she is not interested anymore. I dont know. Cheer up though.Every cloud has a silver lining.
RUN!
She is trying to change you. She got with you because she thought she could change you and now she is trying to. Unless she lets go of this thinking, it will never work out between you two.
:/ I dont think it'll work out. She's obviously telling you you're either not her type, or you need to completely change yourself for her. And someone who wants you to completely change yourself just doesn't love you for you.
She's trying to tell you in a round about way to Get Lost!
yeah, country music makes me sick to my stomach too and ice cream?? I completely understand how do you feel, her words are a bit weird. maybe if you like her so much - you need to tell her that you won't be like this but you can try to.
anyway, if she likes you in return, you should know that she needs to accept you the way you are. I have high standards too, but reality is different. I always said to my friends that I like tall brunettes, with green eyes, well tanned and other stuff - but in my life I've had a crush on completely different types of guys.
just try to talk to her and explain that you're not a country music fan and if she likes your personality - I'm sure she'll try to love you even if you don't like ice cream. :) good luck
Relationship advice for a girl with an intimidating personality?
So, I'm a jack-of-all-trades, rise to the top, super intense type person. One of THOSE types. I finally asked a few people about their perception of me, and they said that I'm always super nice, etc, but they said that I'm extremely intimidating.
I'm very much the silent type. I don't say much, but I always make sure things are done, then I step aside.
My resume sort of makes me sound like a guy, I'm into computers (legit) and I've won 5 national championships in design, I'm a serious juggler (as in clubs, balls, diabolos, circus stuff, haha) I'm a freshman in university, and I'm the president of a club, and an officer in two more, and I'm one of the only freshmen captains in our dance marrathon. (we have 300 captains, who then have 3,000 committee members who answer to them, with over 20,000 people involved) I also got into a program that only accepts 25 students.
So great. I have a rockin' resume. woopdie freakin do. I don't party. I don't drink. I don't make stupid decisions. and I don't have a relationship. And THATs where I need HELP!
HELP! I'm lonely, and just want somone! I have one friend who I've liked for a year or so now, but he's 25, and I'm 18, and I don't think he's comfortable with the age difference.
There are a couple of other guy friends that I really like, but, alas, they're older. I have the propensity to place myself with older individuals. Based on my home life, I had to grow up a little faster than most.
Help. please help.Relationship advice for a girl with an intimidating personality?
I understand that you're feeling lonely, believe me I know that feeling. But you've got a good thing going. I'm sure you've heard that before, but read over what you wrote again and think about how much you've done/do that other people haven't.
You're obviously setting yourself up for a bright future and you should think about the type of person you want to share that future with. I've seen so many girls with great track records and great potential get involved with guys who ruined them emotionally and ruined their future.
I'm guessing the thought has crossed your mind by now that maybe it's pointless to wait for the right guy and you should settle for whatever you can get. And believe me, I know how tempting that is. But it's one of the worst mistakes you can possibly make.
Obviously you don't want to spend your great future alone. I'm sure you'd find that an empty future, despite your achievements. And it's completely normal to feel lonely even when you have all those things.
Unfortunately there's no easy way to find a relationship. Like I said, I completely sympathize with your loneliness, but just like other areas in your life, you need to be smart about how you approach the problem. First of all, you do have an impressive list of talents and I bet that's intimidating to a lot of guys. People probably see you as intense and driven.
I think you should try and let your hair down some. You have more than enough to be confident about so instead of viewing it as something that makes it harder for you to find a relationship, view it as something that will make it easier. You're obviously very talented and intelligent in more ways than one. You're a girl worth chasing after, and you will be chased after if you give guys the signs that you want them to.
Try striking up casual conversations with guys in your dance class, or other events that you participate in. Don't think about it as trying to get them to want you, just think of it as meeting new people and that can take some of the pressure off. It will also help you open up and seem more friendly. Like I said, you have a lot to be confident about so BE confident about it! So what if the guy you are talking to doesn't seem that into you? You're going places and you're not going to be the only one there. If he can't see that too bad for him.
I promise you, you won't be alone forever. Someday you'll find a guy who will sweep you off your feet, but only if you hang in there. There is nothing wrong with you. I know it hurts to be alone, but your heart is priceless even if it doesn't always feel like it. Keep it for the best and every bit of loneliness and pain will be worth it when you find him. (and you will).Relationship advice for a girl with an intimidating personality?
Maybe go for someone with similar life experiances, that wouldn't feel intimidated by you? Any guy should feel honoured to be noticed by a girl like you, hang in there!
I know what its like to like someone so much older... I'm 19 and I liked someone who was 23 but I talked to one of his friends, and she told me I definately wasn't his type. Lame.
You sound like quite a catch though, I'm sure you won't be waiting long ;-)
You spend a third of your words describing your ';resume.'; Now I'm a pretty patient person, but even I couldn't be bothered to read all of that long paragraph. This information being all I know about you, I'm guessing you like to talk about yourself too much, even though you claim to be the silent type.
From the sounds of it, the last thing you need to be advertising is your achievements. Make an effort to slow your personality down. You can still do all those back-breaking things, but at least give the impression of a more relaxed person; no one wants an up-tight girlfriend.
So set your sights on some men your own age and tone down your image. You don't need to dumb yourself down, necessarily. You can still talk intelligently, just not exclusively about resume-worthy activities.
I was a student at Berkeley for all of one semester and one of the things that used to drive me up the wall about the people there is that they didn't seem to do a single extracurricular activity just for the hell of it. Anything that didn't somehow advance their careers was seen as a waste of time. I find it reassuring that you do some wacky things, like juggle, but you sound too career-oriented for me to be interested in you, romantically.
Oh, and smile every now and then, too. There was a pretty girl in my high school I knew (somewhat) all four years. She never seemed to say a damned word to anyone but her closest friends and for the longest time I thought it was because she was stuck-up. Finally, during my senior year, I learned that she was actually a really sweet girl, but how was I to know all those years, given the way she suppressed her emotions?
I'm very much the silent type. I don't say much, but I always make sure things are done, then I step aside.
My resume sort of makes me sound like a guy, I'm into computers (legit) and I've won 5 national championships in design, I'm a serious juggler (as in clubs, balls, diabolos, circus stuff, haha) I'm a freshman in university, and I'm the president of a club, and an officer in two more, and I'm one of the only freshmen captains in our dance marrathon. (we have 300 captains, who then have 3,000 committee members who answer to them, with over 20,000 people involved) I also got into a program that only accepts 25 students.
So great. I have a rockin' resume. woopdie freakin do. I don't party. I don't drink. I don't make stupid decisions. and I don't have a relationship. And THATs where I need HELP!
HELP! I'm lonely, and just want somone! I have one friend who I've liked for a year or so now, but he's 25, and I'm 18, and I don't think he's comfortable with the age difference.
There are a couple of other guy friends that I really like, but, alas, they're older. I have the propensity to place myself with older individuals. Based on my home life, I had to grow up a little faster than most.
Help. please help.Relationship advice for a girl with an intimidating personality?
I understand that you're feeling lonely, believe me I know that feeling. But you've got a good thing going. I'm sure you've heard that before, but read over what you wrote again and think about how much you've done/do that other people haven't.
You're obviously setting yourself up for a bright future and you should think about the type of person you want to share that future with. I've seen so many girls with great track records and great potential get involved with guys who ruined them emotionally and ruined their future.
I'm guessing the thought has crossed your mind by now that maybe it's pointless to wait for the right guy and you should settle for whatever you can get. And believe me, I know how tempting that is. But it's one of the worst mistakes you can possibly make.
Obviously you don't want to spend your great future alone. I'm sure you'd find that an empty future, despite your achievements. And it's completely normal to feel lonely even when you have all those things.
Unfortunately there's no easy way to find a relationship. Like I said, I completely sympathize with your loneliness, but just like other areas in your life, you need to be smart about how you approach the problem. First of all, you do have an impressive list of talents and I bet that's intimidating to a lot of guys. People probably see you as intense and driven.
I think you should try and let your hair down some. You have more than enough to be confident about so instead of viewing it as something that makes it harder for you to find a relationship, view it as something that will make it easier. You're obviously very talented and intelligent in more ways than one. You're a girl worth chasing after, and you will be chased after if you give guys the signs that you want them to.
Try striking up casual conversations with guys in your dance class, or other events that you participate in. Don't think about it as trying to get them to want you, just think of it as meeting new people and that can take some of the pressure off. It will also help you open up and seem more friendly. Like I said, you have a lot to be confident about so BE confident about it! So what if the guy you are talking to doesn't seem that into you? You're going places and you're not going to be the only one there. If he can't see that too bad for him.
I promise you, you won't be alone forever. Someday you'll find a guy who will sweep you off your feet, but only if you hang in there. There is nothing wrong with you. I know it hurts to be alone, but your heart is priceless even if it doesn't always feel like it. Keep it for the best and every bit of loneliness and pain will be worth it when you find him. (and you will).Relationship advice for a girl with an intimidating personality?
Maybe go for someone with similar life experiances, that wouldn't feel intimidated by you? Any guy should feel honoured to be noticed by a girl like you, hang in there!
I know what its like to like someone so much older... I'm 19 and I liked someone who was 23 but I talked to one of his friends, and she told me I definately wasn't his type. Lame.
You sound like quite a catch though, I'm sure you won't be waiting long ;-)
You spend a third of your words describing your ';resume.'; Now I'm a pretty patient person, but even I couldn't be bothered to read all of that long paragraph. This information being all I know about you, I'm guessing you like to talk about yourself too much, even though you claim to be the silent type.
From the sounds of it, the last thing you need to be advertising is your achievements. Make an effort to slow your personality down. You can still do all those back-breaking things, but at least give the impression of a more relaxed person; no one wants an up-tight girlfriend.
So set your sights on some men your own age and tone down your image. You don't need to dumb yourself down, necessarily. You can still talk intelligently, just not exclusively about resume-worthy activities.
I was a student at Berkeley for all of one semester and one of the things that used to drive me up the wall about the people there is that they didn't seem to do a single extracurricular activity just for the hell of it. Anything that didn't somehow advance their careers was seen as a waste of time. I find it reassuring that you do some wacky things, like juggle, but you sound too career-oriented for me to be interested in you, romantically.
Oh, and smile every now and then, too. There was a pretty girl in my high school I knew (somewhat) all four years. She never seemed to say a damned word to anyone but her closest friends and for the longest time I thought it was because she was stuck-up. Finally, during my senior year, I learned that she was actually a really sweet girl, but how was I to know all those years, given the way she suppressed her emotions?
Relationship advice, what should I do?
I have been married for almost 4 years now. My husband the majority of the time is very sweet and fun to be around. However, he def. has his faults. His parents has given him this holier than thou attitude that didnt really bother me until we got married and I now have to suffer through it. For whatever reason he thinks that I have lesser values than him. We both come from a culture where modesty is important, among other things. I dont dress whorish, but i wear sleevless shirt, and capri pants, and wear a tankini to the beach. He would rather have me cover all over, but he knew how i was when we got married...anyway, every single time we have a fight some how my morals are brought into question, and he proceeds to talk down to me, about i have no values, or class, or he wouldnt want me to raise our kids. You guys get the idea. I get upset, i talk to him about it after the fight, he blames it on me, I stay quiet, i get over it in a few days, and then it happens again.
I am gettin really tired of all of it, and him not apologizing, and throwing dumb stuff in my face.... I befriended a girl from school who we think is gay, automatifally i had no values, what did your parents teach you, you are influenced by t.v. and magazines you read, etc...
our fight today was about a swim suit, the swim suit looks exactly like every other swim suit i have but a differtnt color, i didnt want to fight but wanted to make that point. he points out another swimsuit that is covered more, i say i dont like it, not because it is covered, but if i am going to wear something it has to be something i like, he then start with the values ---';go get some values'; i have no respect for you, this and that, i let him go on, later on in the night he notices i am upset, i mention why, he blows up on me, and reiterate everything he said earlier, says it is me, and i will have to get over him saying i have no values because i really dont, etc...
i dont know what do to anymore, it is not even about the dumb swim suit, i honestly beleive this guy has no respect for me, or is simply trying to hurt me. I feel like i am suffocating, i have such a weight on my chest. I dont know what to do,
i can t go through a divorce, what are my other options... the easiest thing will probably just stay in the relationship but stay emotionally detached, and maybe i can meet someone else..
i dont think he will ever change or see things from my point of view, and how bad he hurts me when he talks to me like that, he couldnt care less....what would you do if you were in my position?? please help...Relationship advice, what should I do?
He said it himself, ';I have no respect for you';. Without respect, there is nothing to hold a marriage together.
If divorce is not an option, then you need some couples counseling, and I suspect he wouldn't go, but regardless of that, you need counseling yourself, to get your self esteem back up again. No one should talk to you like that, in my book that qualifies as verbal abuse, and you need to stop it, and a therapist might help you in getting your self esteem up, and finding the courage to end this treatment, and possibly the relationship.
No, he will not change, not if you allow him to be a bully.Relationship advice, what should I do?
hun im sorry you are right he may not change or even try to till after ya leave it may wake him up it woke me up but unfortunately my wife didnt come back good luck just follow your heart and above all cherish what time you do have there will be things ya miss alot
it seems that men change when they get married. you are gonna feel like this til you decides what you want. you emotionally abused. he is trying to keep you like that because after years go by you will have been molded to his thinking. you will no longer know what you want it will be all about him. you wont be able to make a simple decision without him. is that the way you want to live. if you leave him you will get over it, if you stay you will loose you,
I personally would have left by now. Go to counseling and see what happens. But really I don't think things will change at all. So start saving for a new place. You need to get out and have some self worth and someone loving you as you are.
I understand your point.
But, I want to tell you that their are a certain type of men who want their wives to dress as modestly as possible. And those wives who don't, often wined up divorced.
Other men don't mind what you wear cause they don't care about other men looking at their wives.
Apparently yours does and can't take it. These type of men will not accept otherwise. If you love your husband and marriage enough you will accept his position and make accommodations according to his request.
I am gettin really tired of all of it, and him not apologizing, and throwing dumb stuff in my face.... I befriended a girl from school who we think is gay, automatifally i had no values, what did your parents teach you, you are influenced by t.v. and magazines you read, etc...
our fight today was about a swim suit, the swim suit looks exactly like every other swim suit i have but a differtnt color, i didnt want to fight but wanted to make that point. he points out another swimsuit that is covered more, i say i dont like it, not because it is covered, but if i am going to wear something it has to be something i like, he then start with the values ---';go get some values'; i have no respect for you, this and that, i let him go on, later on in the night he notices i am upset, i mention why, he blows up on me, and reiterate everything he said earlier, says it is me, and i will have to get over him saying i have no values because i really dont, etc...
i dont know what do to anymore, it is not even about the dumb swim suit, i honestly beleive this guy has no respect for me, or is simply trying to hurt me. I feel like i am suffocating, i have such a weight on my chest. I dont know what to do,
i can t go through a divorce, what are my other options... the easiest thing will probably just stay in the relationship but stay emotionally detached, and maybe i can meet someone else..
i dont think he will ever change or see things from my point of view, and how bad he hurts me when he talks to me like that, he couldnt care less....what would you do if you were in my position?? please help...Relationship advice, what should I do?
He said it himself, ';I have no respect for you';. Without respect, there is nothing to hold a marriage together.
If divorce is not an option, then you need some couples counseling, and I suspect he wouldn't go, but regardless of that, you need counseling yourself, to get your self esteem back up again. No one should talk to you like that, in my book that qualifies as verbal abuse, and you need to stop it, and a therapist might help you in getting your self esteem up, and finding the courage to end this treatment, and possibly the relationship.
No, he will not change, not if you allow him to be a bully.Relationship advice, what should I do?
hun im sorry you are right he may not change or even try to till after ya leave it may wake him up it woke me up but unfortunately my wife didnt come back good luck just follow your heart and above all cherish what time you do have there will be things ya miss alot
it seems that men change when they get married. you are gonna feel like this til you decides what you want. you emotionally abused. he is trying to keep you like that because after years go by you will have been molded to his thinking. you will no longer know what you want it will be all about him. you wont be able to make a simple decision without him. is that the way you want to live. if you leave him you will get over it, if you stay you will loose you,
I personally would have left by now. Go to counseling and see what happens. But really I don't think things will change at all. So start saving for a new place. You need to get out and have some self worth and someone loving you as you are.
I understand your point.
But, I want to tell you that their are a certain type of men who want their wives to dress as modestly as possible. And those wives who don't, often wined up divorced.
Other men don't mind what you wear cause they don't care about other men looking at their wives.
Apparently yours does and can't take it. These type of men will not accept otherwise. If you love your husband and marriage enough you will accept his position and make accommodations according to his request.
Relationship advice please?! easy ten points!?
i was with my boyfriend for two years
hes 17 and he acts like hes 5
i love him but his immature behavior is just sooo annnoying
one minute he tells me to leave him alone then when i dont contact him for just ONE day he keeps texting and calling
why does he do that?
and if i just never got in contact with him for like a month or maybe even more, WOULD HE MISS ME?
how can i solve this problem? i want us to grow up %26amp; for him to figure out what he wantsRelationship advice please?! easy ten points!?
he'd miss you, hes just immatureRelationship advice please?! easy ten points!?
Here's my advice sweetie; Move On.
You can't change anyone, and at 17, he doesn't know what he wants and might not for a long time. I know you say you love him and I believe you do, but just because you love someone is no excuse to stay with them if they treat you like crap! You have to love yourself more, you have to respect yourself and know what you deserve and what you are and are not willing to settle for.
If you leave him alone and move on, he might realize belatedly what he was missing. Then he can work to improve himself if he makes that decision. But we girls...we love to think we'll find someone who loves us enough to change for us!
That's ego talking, and it just doesn't work. You find a guy who you like AS IS....or stay with someone, flaws and all. There is no middle ground.
I've had a bf like this before, I ended up breaking up with him because it stressed me out all the time, everyday for 3 months.
Hes really dependent and lonely, depressed, probably cause of family problems and stuff.
We're still friends and he understands why we're not dating anymore.
Definitely talk to him, thats probably an answer that you don't wanna hear, but seriously, I would.
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Could you answer mine plz? =D
dont call him for a week and make him make his mind up then tell him you love him and you ate always there for him.
you should act annoyed when he acts all immature and stuff. if he doesn't get the hint then talk to him. if he isnt grown up enough to talk about it calmly then take a break from being with him or break up with him (hopefully this will not have to happen).if you do this, at first you will miss each other, but you can get through it. remember that you deserve the best and try to get the problem resolved or *tear* move on (that tear was not sarcastic by the way)
Just tell him that you think he acts a bit immature for his age and ask him to stop acting so young. If he takes it well, then that's a sign that he would miss you. If it doesn't go too well, then he may not be that into you. Idk, that's just my opinion. : )
He sounds really immature. You should end it.
hes 17 and he acts like hes 5
i love him but his immature behavior is just sooo annnoying
one minute he tells me to leave him alone then when i dont contact him for just ONE day he keeps texting and calling
why does he do that?
and if i just never got in contact with him for like a month or maybe even more, WOULD HE MISS ME?
how can i solve this problem? i want us to grow up %26amp; for him to figure out what he wantsRelationship advice please?! easy ten points!?
he'd miss you, hes just immatureRelationship advice please?! easy ten points!?
Here's my advice sweetie; Move On.
You can't change anyone, and at 17, he doesn't know what he wants and might not for a long time. I know you say you love him and I believe you do, but just because you love someone is no excuse to stay with them if they treat you like crap! You have to love yourself more, you have to respect yourself and know what you deserve and what you are and are not willing to settle for.
If you leave him alone and move on, he might realize belatedly what he was missing. Then he can work to improve himself if he makes that decision. But we girls...we love to think we'll find someone who loves us enough to change for us!
That's ego talking, and it just doesn't work. You find a guy who you like AS IS....or stay with someone, flaws and all. There is no middle ground.
I've had a bf like this before, I ended up breaking up with him because it stressed me out all the time, everyday for 3 months.
Hes really dependent and lonely, depressed, probably cause of family problems and stuff.
We're still friends and he understands why we're not dating anymore.
Definitely talk to him, thats probably an answer that you don't wanna hear, but seriously, I would.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Could you answer mine plz? =D
dont call him for a week and make him make his mind up then tell him you love him and you ate always there for him.
you should act annoyed when he acts all immature and stuff. if he doesn't get the hint then talk to him. if he isnt grown up enough to talk about it calmly then take a break from being with him or break up with him (hopefully this will not have to happen).if you do this, at first you will miss each other, but you can get through it. remember that you deserve the best and try to get the problem resolved or *tear* move on (that tear was not sarcastic by the way)
Just tell him that you think he acts a bit immature for his age and ask him to stop acting so young. If he takes it well, then that's a sign that he would miss you. If it doesn't go too well, then he may not be that into you. Idk, that's just my opinion. : )
He sounds really immature. You should end it.
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